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time is money
Sep 5, 2009, 10:11 AM
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Hi, I need some advice. I've known this girl for about 2 months now, and we talk a lot, and get on really well. I want to ask her out, but the problem is, she has a boyfriend. I asked how she feels about him, and she doesn't know, but I know he's not good for her. I'm really confused, and would like some help about what to do, any advice, I'm grateful thanks. :)
justcurious55
Sep 5, 2009, 10:31 AM
If she has a boyfriend she is off limits. Period. It doesn't matter it he's a total jerk or treats her like royalty. She's taken. It's not your place to judge whether he's good for her. If she decides on her own to leave him, that's one thing. But that's her business and you need to stay out of it.
chuff
Sep 5, 2009, 10:39 AM
1. U ned 2 rerite that so pepol can red in englsh.
2. You are getting worked over by this girl. Her boyfriend doesn't listen to her whine so she needs an outlet somewhere else to do that, and that is you.
3. She's got a boyfriend so she's off limits.
Alty
Sep 5, 2009, 11:10 AM
Hi, i nd some advice. I've known this girl for about 2 months now and we talk alot and get on rly well, i wnt to ask her out but the problem is, she has a boyfriend. i asked how she feels bout him and she dsnt know but i know hes not gd for her, im rly confused and would like some help bout wot to do, any advice im greatful thx. :)
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Chat speak is not allowed on this site. There's no limit on how many words or letters you're allowed, so go nuts, use proper grammar and the best english you're capable of.
You will get more responses if you use proper english.
As for your question. Girl + boyfriend = off limits
none12345
Sep 5, 2009, 11:38 AM
You need to leave her alone, last thing everyone wants is another girlfriend stealer in this world.
talaniman
Sep 5, 2009, 12:00 PM
If she is confused about a guy she is dating, what do you think will happen if she dates you? Right, confusion, until some other guy comes along.
Your asking her to cheat, so you can have a chance, and that my friend will come back to get you cheated on, in the future if she does date you.
Leave her alone to deal with her confusion, and stick with the single, available, and not so confused females, that are out there, and can date you without cheating on someone.
How she gets treated by her boyfriend is her business any way, not yours, and are you overlooking the obvious? Why is she with someone who treats her badly in the first place??
Save the drama, and leave her alone, as she has issues you know nothing about, and surely can't solve. Keep talking as a friend, and you may find out, or get carried away by her charms, and see nothing.
kctiger
Sep 5, 2009, 12:00 PM
I would consult her boyfriend about the situation.
The others are right and yes I am cheap with my greenies. She has a boyfriend, nuff said. Be a classy stand up guy and leave her alone.
s_cianci
Sep 5, 2009, 12:06 PM
She has a boyfriend, so it's hands off. Whether he's "good for her" or not ; that isn't your place to judge. If they eventually break things off between them then you can go for it but otherwise, stay away.
It's not your place to decide who is good and who isn't for people. I wonder if your opinion as to what's good for her has anything to do with the fact that... ummm... you like her.
Cat1864
Sep 5, 2009, 12:34 PM
It is quite common to say "I don't know" when someone asks how a person feels about her/his boy/girlfriend. It doesn't mean that she really doesn't know whether she loves him or not. It just means at that moment there are a lot of conflicting thoughts running around in her brain. I don't know anyone who can say "I love him" and not add a qualifier. (ex: I love him, but he forgets my birthday)
I am not sure it can be stated enough: She has a boyfriend. It sounds like you may be perceiving that problems in their relationship are bigger than they are because you have your own desires. Just because she talks to you doesn't mean that she sees you as anything more than a close friend.
If you treasure her friendship, be there as a good friend. Everyone needs good friends.
At the same time, don't be blind to other girls who aren't in relationships who are available.
eman134
Dec 13, 2012, 04:54 PM
I would say don't ask her out but you probibly will anyway so if he's a lot bigger than you learn how to fight or your dead
Alty
Dec 13, 2012, 05:02 PM
i would say dont ask her out but u probibly will anyways so if hes a lot bigger than u learn how to fight or your dead
Considering that this question was asked over 3 years ago, I doubt it's an issue anymore. :)