Hi I am Aretha.. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year but I have been having some mix feeling because of a lot of different reasons. About 3 months ago I discovered some nude pics my boyfriend ex has been sending him and he did not tell me. I also discovered on a laptop he used with her mini sex movies I cannot tell if these movies are with him I can make out his ex girlfriend.. but when I asked him he claims its not him. His ex got married about 6 months ago and she constantly calls and text him. I donot know what to do I love him and this whole tension hurts so much I donot know what to do...

I can't imagine a guy wanting a porn movie with his ex and another guy. Having said that, you don't know when it was made.

What does he say when you ask why she is in constant contact with him?

The fact that he keep nude pics and videos of his ex is suspicious in itself especially if its while you guys were together. I'd be very wary. He's not being 100% honest with you, seems like he's trying to hide things from you as well.

Do I see a red flag waving? Not just with the nude pics, AND movie, but his honesty in the matter.

Red flags all over the place Im afraid.

Well the lap top in question I know he has not used it for the year we have been together because she gave it back to him when she got married 6 months ago... he said he doesnot know what she has on it... I was not able to tell when it was made and all the pics its all under her logging not his on the laptop.. we had a conversation last night an he told me he will get rid of the laptop and tell her she needs to stop her constant emails and texts.

Why does he have to get rid of a laptop. Can't he just delete the photos?

Because he got a new one I guess I kind of told him to get rid of it.. I was upset about the pics

Getting rid of the laptop? Why so drastic. This is the interesting part to me, people come on here and ask for advice and then they turn right around and defend the person. Women will start telling other women to leave there man alone and then turn around and defend the man. Truth hurts I guess.
What this is about is trust. Either you have it or you don't.