My husband has recently began drinking... even more than I'm probably aware of. His angry and attitude when he drinks escalates... creating a "scary" home to live in. It's like he becomes a different person. Once he starts with one drink... he cannot stop until he goes to bed... which can be 2-3 in the morning. I've found empty beer cans hidden around the house... and even full ones hidden in backpacks in closets. We've had many runs-in about this... I've tried EVERYTHING... tried crying and begging, tried telling him to get out... tried calling his family and getting them involved... tried ignoring him... everything! Nothing works... especially if he's been drinking.. there's no use in trying. A few days ago, after I called him out on his threat to leave (which I know he would never do... but I told him to and that I'd help him pack) a family member called and spoke with him. After that call he spoke with me and promised he'd do anything to keep our marriage together (we are newlyweds). He actually detoxed for a couple of days in the house in which I stayed with him... during which time he said he'd never drink again that it was a horrible feeling. Well yesterday I found a couple of beers hidden again... and at night he went and got more... so I locked myself in the bedroom. He wakes me out of my sleep to scream at me for telling his family anything again (which I had called and informed them). He threatens to cause problems with me and my family since Im doing that to him... and he would.. especially if he's in a drunken state.
I don't know what to do anymore... I'm so sad... I'm scared to keep telling his family... I'm scared to keep it to myself. I just want him to stop. During those couple of days he detoxed... we were so happy... he was himself... the alcohol changes who he is... plus I care about his health.
When he was sober, he even said... maybe he needs to go talk to a professional... I don't think he'd go to a rehab... but he'd def. go talk to someone to see the root of it... depending on his mood and state of being.
I'm at a loss...
I love him and want him back... I want a normal relationship that I get every few days if he doesn't drink...
Do I continue to tell his family?(which seems the be the biggest thing that makes him mad... but they seem to have an impact because he cares so much of what they say and think)
Am I doing things wrong? I've never been in this position... and not really sure how to handle it. Any help on what to do next would be greatly appreciated...

He needs a wake up call + tough love.
You may have to do something drastic like leave him, but they may backfire and him not bother. As long as everything is the same day in day out stuff though he is not going to see any need to change.

I agree that he needs a good kick in the pants. Since his family seems to have an impact I'd continue to keep them in alliance, even if it makes him angry. I think that he'll need an ultimatum ; either dry out or it's over. Talking to a counselor, as you've already said, may help. A 12-step program like AA may help as well. The only real way to treat alcoholism (note I don't say "cure") is to abstain completely.

There are support groups for wives of alcoholics. Al-non. Avail of support for yourself - they can also help you out with how to deal with situations that arise with your alcoholic husband. There is the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous which has a chapter entitled "To Wives" which may be helpful to you - Google it and you can read it online.

A 'good kick in the pants' ultimatums' 'tough love' and all that RUBBISH will not work.

Your husband is a sick man - he is suffering from a disease and if it were merely a matter of pulling himself together he would do it because he obviously loves his wife. He is unwell and needs to be treated like a sick person and told there is a solution to his problem. He will have to make the decision to address his illness himself however - no amount of tough 'whatever' will help him or you in this situation.

You need to set aside his needs (drinking) and think of your future, which might be without him. I have tried to speak with my husband about his drinking, but it goes nowhere. I asked him to leave tonight after coming home from work and finding he had been drinking. He left which has made this evening a peaceful one. You need to set aside a plan of action and follow through. Do not make any threats and even discuss with him what you are thinking of. The first step is gaining employment and having your own means of support. From there you will have choices as to how you plan to be happy and safe.

I totally Agree with MEGGTC.
I have done all the wrongs and rights... Nothing works.
I have small kids.. still not hate my husband but I have to make a move for my kids. They don't deserve to be in an unhappy ,unpeacful house.

My question is when he is sobber (only when he is at work) , does it mean there is hope ? If yes how long do I try ? How many years?