I'm so sick of being mad fun of at school. People push me, throw stuff at me and say cruel stuff. It to the point I want them to hurt the way they have hurt me. I hate them very much. I want to say something to them but I don't want to stoop down to their level what should I do?

I would stand up for yourself. If you don't like what they're doing do something about it, don't just stand around and let it happen.

What do you do when they start pushing you around and throwing things?
How do you react?

Those idiots only do it to make themselves more popular amongst the other idiots :rolleyes:

I was singled out at school, I basically had no friends until one day I just got "accepted" into the goth group... best friends I ever had. Once I sort of slipped off the radar as a "loner" no-one picked on me anymore.

How old are you as well?
It was only in my early high school years that this happened because they were to put it nicely "immature morons"
Once everyone grew up a little they realised that pushing people around did not make you popular.

What do you do when they start pushing you around and throwing things?
How do you react?

Those idiots only do it to make themselves more popular amoungst the other idiots :rolleyes:

I was singled out at school, I basically had no friends until one day I jsut got "accepted" into the goth group... best friends I ever had. Once I sort of slipped off the radar as a "loner" no-one picked on me anymore.

How old are you as well?
It was only in my early high school years that this happened because they were to put it nicely "immature morons"
Once everyone grew up a little they realised that pushing people around did not make you popular.

I didn't do anything. I am 16; I am a junior.

I would suggest sticking up for yourself and getting your friends to stick up for you! Talk to your school counselor or teachers you trust!
If that doesn't work talk to your parents into letting you switch schools tell them your problems and I'm sure they will understand and want to help you in any way possible

At 16 they should have grown out of this behaviour by now.
They really must be immature for their age.

I personally would use telling teachers as a last resort, sometimes that can get you labeled as as someone who tells on people.

Do what britEl said and just try to stand up for yourself, threaten to go to your teacher if they don't stop, or even start taking some self defence classes or martial arts, not to hurt them, but just to gain some confidence in yourself.
Martial arts teach self discipline and above all confidece in yourself.

Even at 16 they can be extremely immature, people at my school didn't grow up until they reached the end of high school and still some are stupid and immature. Also Shazamataz is right keep the telling the teachers as a last resort because they may start making fun of you for that like you're a snitch or something.

I agree with you have to tell a teacher and just don't listen to them just walk away they just do it to make themselves feel like their cool but its not cool hurting someone and yea I know its tough I had trouble with the same thing and I'm also 16 and I have made it though and now I don't get made fun of it well all pass if they see it doesn't effect you then they won't do it to you and will move on :)

Have you talked to your parents? I know you might feel like a child going to your parents about it, but it is the best idea. Try to stand up for yourself, just like everyone here has said. I know you don't want to stoop to their level, but maybe you have to, just once.

People at my school don't really usually mess with me, because when they do I get them back. Not in a horrible way. But I usually will mouth off to them.. yuou just have to create the tough persona.

But pleaase promise you won't do anything dumb to get in trouble

But some times standing up for yourself just gets you into more trouble best thing is to just tell your teacher

Hi, imepaula!

What are some of the things that the others say to you, please?

Thanks!

Hi, imepaula!

What are some of the things that the others say to you, please?

Thanks!

The call me fat , ugly, freak, that I should drop dead, to burn in hell, should go to another school, trip me, throw stuff at me, talk about me, make fun of everything I do good or bad

I'm 16 too... when I was 13-14 and 15 others maked fun of me and even beat me... and I stud up by heating them too but it didn't work... one day I slaped a boy... after that he beat me... then I maked all the class laugh at him because his face was red in the shape of my hand... after then he didn't make fun of me again... they will grow up soon and realize it's stupid... now they will only realize what their doing by putting them in your place... I know exactly how you fell except that the didn't call me fat... they picked on my defects... and they knew I was shy so the boys always look'd at me to make me feel like an alien... and talk about me... laugh at everything I do... even when I entered the classroom they started making fun of me... but know I'm at another school and I don't allow to anyone to make fun of me because I scream at them or I make fun of them... What hurted me the most,was that when that boy beaten me no one stud for me not even my best frieds that I tought I had... good luck getting rid of them.

The call me fat , ugly, freak, that I should drop dead, to burn in hell, should go to another school, trip me, throw stuff at me, talk about me, make fun of everything I do good or bad

I know you have heard this before about people who bully,they are insecure.
That is the truth.
They have to bring you down to build them self up.

Tell me about yourself.
What are your interests in school and out of school?

Into music or sports or Science?

What are your assets ?

Talk to me .I'm an old MOM.

I know you have heard this before about people who bully,they are insecure.
That is the truth.
They have to bring you down to build them self up.

Tell me about yourself.
What are your interests in school and out of school?

Into music or sports or Science?

What are your assets ?

Talk to me .I'm an old MOM.

I'm into singing. I play basketball and run track. I can't join any clubs because we're a private school and we don't have any clubs.

I'm into singing. I play basketball and run track. I can't join any clubs b/c we're a private school and we don't have any clubs.

Do you sing with a group or a choir?The people you sing with must be friends of yours.
How do you get along with the kids on the track team?
Is everything OK there?
The bottom line is you just have to let someone in authority know what is happening and if it continues,I would laugh at them.
Or ignore them.If they aren't getting a reaction out of you they will get bored.
Even though you feel like crying on the inside,try not to show them any emotion.
They are looking for a reaction so try not to give it to them.
Remember who you are and know that if anyone is ugly and stupid it is people who treat others badly.
They are ugly on the inside and that is where beauty truly lies.

I'm so sick of being mad fun of at school. People push me, throw stuff at me and say cruel stuff. It to the point I want them to hurt the way they have hurt me. I hate them very much. I want to say something to them but I don't want to stoop down to their level what should I do?

Most schools have an Anti-Bullying rule and have harsh punishments for people who are bullies. Also walk around with friends as bullies are probably less likely to try to hurt you when your surround by your friends. I don't recommend getting revenge, but if someone is trying to hit you, fight back. Fighting rules are stupid in school because they basically give the victim 2 choices. Be suspended for fighting back or get beat up badly. My parents always told me to fight back if I had to defend myself or someone else from physical harm. But see if you can tell a teacher first, the best way to solve problems is without violence

Haha I know those kind of people. Just ignore them and don't take it personally. Just give kind gestures and don't pay attention to them. Sooner or later they should give up because the more aggrovated you get the more they get out of it. Your suffering is the fuel to their flame! So show them it doesn't hurt you and just start catching the stuff they throw at you:) Stand up for yourself, maybe start working out and making some friends. It'll be easier to ignore them that way:) That's my two cents

Hi again, imepaula!

It sounds to me like you have quite a bit going for you with the things in which you're involved.

What type or types of music do you like to sing, please?

Thanks!

Do you sing with a group or a choir?The people you sing with must be friends of yours.
How do you get along with the kids on the track team?
Is everything OK there?
The bottom line is you just have to let someone in authority know what is happening and if it continues,I would laugh at them.
Or ignore them.If they aren't getting a reaction out of you they will get bored.
Even though you feel like crying on the inside,try not to show them any emotion.
They are looking for a reaction so try not to give it to them.
Remember who you are and know that if anyone is ugly and stupid it is people who treat others badly.
They are ugly on the inside and that is where beauty truly lies.

I sing at my church. Yeah I'm not an emotional person by nature which helps me in that aspect.

Hi again, imepaula!

It sounds to me like you have quite a bit going for you with the things in which you're involved.

What type or types of music do you like to sing, please?

Thanks!

I like to sing anything my voice can handle. Right now I'm working on a song from the sound of music called "My Favorite Things"

My son is going threw the same thing he is 12. I just don't understand mean kids try and find a close friend and remember it not the amount of friends you have but the quality of a best friend that counts.

I like to sing anything my voice can handle. Right now I'm working on a song from the sound of music called "My Favorite Things"

Clough is the man!
Let him keep helping you ,serious.

He can teach you how to turn any music into whatever you want!
He is the BOMB!

I would do the following:

1. Talk to your parents about it, and ask them if you can learn some self defence or martial art. Im sure they'll be happy to pay for the fees.

2. Whenever the idiots talk to you, just say 'Yeah cool, whatever' and feel like you don't care what they think of you so its more likely they'll lay off.

3. Be conscious of your surroundings, if they still continue to hassle you then just make sure your close to a teachers office or a staff member so they'lll think again.

4. Never EVER tell a teacher, in my opinion they are bunch of hiposcrits that will convince you to speak with them with any harassment issues but they never do anything about it!! Do they say "If you have a issue come talk to us, but if they harass you and you name call or harass them back, your going to be the one in trouble'

5. I don't recommend moving schools, you have to prove to them that your not some easy target... don't run away from them. Coz the chances are it might happen at your new school.

That's all, good luck!

Most schools have an Anti-Bullying rule and have harsh punishments for people who are bullies. Also walk around with friends as bullies are probably less likely to try to hurt you when your surround by your friends. I don't recommend getting revenge, but if someone is trying to hit you, fight back. Fighting rules are stupid in school because they basically give the victim 2 choices. Be suspended for fighting back or get beat up badly. My parents always told me to fight back if i had to defend myself or someone else from physical harm. But see if you can tell a teacher first, the best way to solve problems is without violence

ABSOLUTELY AGREE. Spot on.

IMO teachers only cause trouble to victims instead of helping them. You must fight back even if the odds are against you. Or you know what? They can't be together all the time and find out when one of them will be alone and get your choir friends to help you and teach him a lesson about bullying. You have to be agreesive, the risk is that you'll be suspended, but worth it.

Hi again, imepaula!

Are you still around here?

Thanks!

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Clough agrees: That was an incredibly nice thing to say, artlady! Bless your heart and thank you so much!

I am only telling the truth my friend.
I see what you do for so many young people and it is very touching and I know you affect real change that goes on once they leave this site.
Kudos to you for that!

Hi again, imepaula!

It sounds to me like you have quite a bit going for you with the things in which you're involved.

What type or types of music do you like to sing, please?

Thanks!

I sing mostly Christian music.

Hi again, imepaula!

Are you still around here?

Thanks!

Sorry been really busy lately.

That's okay. Just please let me know on this thread, if you'd like to do something together on this site that's musically oriented, okay?

Thanks!

That's okay. Just please let me know on this thread, if you'd like to do something together on this site that's musically oriented, okay?

Thanks!

I wouldn't know what to do at all. Do yoou have any ideas?

Hi again, imepaula!

One thing that would could do is to write a song together that you could sing for church or even elsewhere. I'm not sure what your total musically background is, but I can even show you how to play it!

First, we'd have to start with just the lyrics, though...

What do you think?

Thanks!

Hi again, imepaula!

One thing that would could do is to write a song together that you could sing for church or even elsewhere. I'm not sure what your total musically background is, but I can even show you how to play it!

First, we'd have to start with just the lyrics, though...

What do you think?

Thanks!

Oh that sounds cool actually. I have a poem I wrote that I wanted to turn into a song but couldn't because I don't play the guitar or anything.

Hi again, imepaula!

These sort of things are normally posting the Writing forum topic area. I'll describe how to do that later, and I would really enjoy working on something like that with you!

I can show you how to play basic keyboard stuff. It's really not all that hard! I'm sure that you could do it!

I'm in the process of moving out of my home right now in order to house and dog-sit for some friends. Takes me awhile to move out and get my things set up in their home so that I can function there...

I do hope to be back on here much later tonight!

What is the time zone in which you're located, please?

I'm in the Central Time Zone of the U.S.

Thanks!

Hi again, imepaula!

These sort of things are normally posting the the Writing forum topic area. I'll describe how to do that later, and I would really enjoy working on something like that with you!

I can show you how to play basic keyboard stuff. It's really not all that hard! I'm sure that you could do it!

I'm in the process of moving out of my home right now in order to house and dog-sit for some friends. Takes me awhile to move out and get my things set up in their home so that I can function there...

I do hope to be back on here much later tonight!

What is the time zone in which you're located, please?

I'm in the Central Time Zone of the U.S.

Thanks!
Ok. I can play the piano. Just don't know what music to put with my poem. I am in the Central Time Zone

Hi again, imepaula!

I just moved into the home where I'm house and dog sitting. I'll be on at about 9:00 P.M. tonight, our time, if you would like to work on this.

I'm glad that you already play the piano!

Thanks!

Hi again, imepaula!

I just moved into the home where I'm house and dog sitting. I'll be on at about 9:00 P.M. tonight, our time, if you would like to work on this.

I'm glad that you already play the piano!

Thanks!

Oh OK.

I'm here now, imepaula, if you might want to work on something.

Thanks!

I'm here now, imepaula, if you might want to work on something.

Thanks!

What would you like to start with?

Hi again, imepaula!

I think that we should start with some lyrics.

Thanks!

Hi again, imepaula!

I think that we should start with some lyrics.

Thanks!

OK :) about what?

Well, we could use the poem that you wrote or, make one up from scratch.

What are some of the favorite things that you like to do, please?

Thanks!

Forget them! They're so insecure they have to put other people down in order to feel better about themselves. Take the high road- don't put anybody down, and don't become reactionary. You're very hatefilled and angry towards them- keep cool and calm, hang w your friends, know that they love you, and don't worry about the people that are making fun of you. Make having a good self-image a goal of yours, and not worry about what other people (especially INSECURE people) think about you. HOWEVER: If it gets over-the-top, out of hand, or inappropriate, tell somebody!

Well, we could use the poem that you wrote or, make one up from scratch.

What are some of the favorite things that you like to do, please?

Thanks!

OK here's the words:
One night I was sitting on my bed
I was feeling kind of down
Thinking about what people have said
They laugh at me as if I were a clown
On the outside I put on a fake smile
On the inside there are many tears
My emotions are starting to pile
I tell myself not to cry
Because words supposedly won't hurt me
I wanted so bad to die
My heart cries let me be
My heart screams I can't take it
When will it all stop
My heart is having a fit
As its about to pop

There's a voice in my head
It tells me don't give up, Ime
I will never let you down
I am a friend you can always depend on
I think I'm going insane
I turn the radio to the Edge
The radio changes to 91.7
I change it again
It changes back
I think the radio is possessed
So I turn it off
It turns back on
As song comes on called rescue
As I listen I feel something surrounding me
Tears stream down my face
I close my eyes right then
I scream TAKE IT JESUS
I can't do it any more
I can't be independent
I give you my pride
I can't do this alone
I give it all to you
I give you my feelings of loneliness
I give you my feelings of worthlessness
I give you my depression
I give it all to you
IT'S YOURS IT ALL YOURS JESUS
You said your yolk is easy and your burden is light
I believe you
I opened my eyes
Nothing glorious happens
I know I will still be depressed at time
Teenage life still won't be easy
But I know that night I was set free
I was released from Satan's prison
I AM FREE
I AM FREE
THANK YOU, JESUS, I AM FREE


I love to sing, hang with friends, go teach 2 year olds their Sunday school lesson, love singing and listening to Christian music. :)

Forget them! They're so insecure they have to put other people down in order to feel better about themselves. Take the high road- don't put anybody down, and don't become reactionary. You're very hatefilled and angry towards them- keep cool and calm, hang w your friends, know that they love you, and don't worry about the people that are making fun of you. Make having a good self-image a goal of yours, and not worry about what other people (especially INSECURE people) think about you. HOWEVER: If it gets over-the-top, out of hand, or inappropriate, tell somebody!

Ok thank you :)

Okay, that's great, imepaula!

What I'd like for you to do is to post your poem in the Writing forum topic area. If you do that, I'll be able to fix anything that goes "Oops"! I moderate forum topic area. I don't moderate this area.

Besides that, your original question here is about being made fun of at school and what you can do about it, so this thread really needs to be about that in order to maintain the integrity of the thread.

Here is the link to post something in the Writing forum topic area.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=361

Here are some possible titles for your new thread:


Writing My Song

Need Help With Writing a Song

Putting the Lyrics That I've Written to Music

How Do I Write a Song?

Composing a Song That I Can Sing for Others

How Do I Write the Lyrics and Music for a Song?

I Like Christian Music. Would You Please Help Me With Writing a Song?

Song Writing Troubles, Would Appreciate Answers...

Or, you could simply make up your own title.

I can see some real possibilities with what you've written becoming a song! But, we do need to work some things out, first...

Please also realize, that whatever you post on this site, becomes the property of this site. If you don't mind having what you've written being potentially visible by the whole world, then we're okay.

I don't mind if people use what I post on this site. Almost everything that I do for people here musically, is for training purposes.

Please let me know what you think?

Okay?

Thanks!

Okay, that's great, imepaula!

What I'd like for you to do is to post your poem in the Writing forum topic area. If you do that, I'll be able to fix anything that goes "Oops"! I moderate forum topic area. I don't moderate this area.

Besides that, your original question here is about being made fun of at school and what you can do about it, so this thread really needs to be about that in order to maintain the integrity of the thread.

Here is the link to post something in the Writing forum topic area.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=361

Here are some possible titles for your new thread:



Or, you could simply make up your own title.

I can see some real possibilities with what you've written becoming a song! But, we do need to work some things out, first...

Please also realize, that whatever you post on this site, becomes the property of this site. If you don't mind having what you've written being potentially visible by the whole world, then we're okay.

I don't mind if people use what I post on this site. Almost everything that I do for people here musically, is for training purposes.

Please let me know what you think?

Okay?

Thanks!

Ok thanks. That sounds good. :)

I see that you've started a new thread, imepaula. I did post a response on it.

Thanks!

Try not to respond to them. I know its hard when they trip you.but don't engage. Talk to your parents about transferring schools. Don't ever stoop to their level. 1st it won't help. 2nd you'll be just as bad as them. And also remember that those are the peole who are most likely going to end up driving trucks when they grow up. So stay in school learn and it will help your future. High school is just a small part of your life. None of it matters. Besides grade and stuff. Just try new things be yourself no matter what it will get you far in life. I know it hard but you have to. You are who you are. What people say about you is who they are, and what they think you are.

Last year my brother killed himself. And I took it really hard. And on top of that my dad beat me. And my parents were getting a divorce. My mom was clinically depressed and about a month after my brothers death my boyfrined broke up with me. So I decided killing myself was the only answer. I attempted twice and didn't succeed the second time I took slepping pills and my mom came home and found meand called the police. So I ended up in a treatment center for 9 months. I can't say it changed my life although it did make me want me to be who I am. I know god loves me and that's all the love I need. People will always fail you. That doesn't mean you shouldn't love them though. I am know finishing up my señor year. And I have a class with my xboyfriend. I used to be friends with all his friends but now they just make fun of me and they think I killed myself because he broke up with me. Which isn't true. So all I do is ignore the. I can't switch classes because the only class I can switch it with is the one I have with my little sister. And I want to keep it. So I'm going to just have to ignore them and keep strong.. and you can too.

Eh I don't agree with ignoring them. It actually makes them try harder - there's a point where you have to say something back to show them you do NOT like being treated this way.

Understanding the bully's reason for being "his way" never helps when they're being that way in front of you. I've been made fun of a LOT when I was a kid, and even when older - despite "understanding" the bully's reasons for being what he is, I still feel huge feelings of regret for not doing anything about it when they made fun of me in front of others. I never told them to stop it nor did I tell anyone about it.

You should continue to tell them to stop it with the frustration and hurt you feel, and be resistant to this behavior till either they stop or you get your good marks and get out of that school. Also tell your teachers about the disrespectful and jerklike behavior you have to deal with daily, until you can find one who listens. In this case I think you have every right to find a teacher or principle to help stop this. The school shouldn't condone this crap, and neither should you.

Eh I don't agree with ignoring them. It actually makes them try harder - there's a point where you have to say something back to show them you do NOT like being treated this way.

Understanding the bully's reason for being "his way" never helps when they're being that way in front of you. I've been made fun of a LOT when I was a kid, and even when older - despite "understanding" the bully's reasons for being what he is, I still feel huge feelings of regret for not doing anything about it when they made fun of me in front of others. I never told them to stop it nor did I tell anyone about it.

You should continue to tell them to stop it with the frustration and hurt you feel, and be resistant to this behavior till either they stop or you get your good marks and get out of that school. Also tell your teachers about the disrespectful and jerklike behavior you have to deal with daily, until you can find one who listens. In this case I think you have every right to find a teacher or principle to help stop this. The school shouldn't condone this crap, and neither should you.

Eh I don't agree with ignoring them. It actually makes them try harder - there's a point where you have to say something back to show them you do NOT like being treated this way.

Understanding the bully's reason for being "his way" never helps when they're being that way in front of you. I've been made fun of a LOT when I was a kid, and even when older - despite "understanding" the bully's reasons for being what he is, I still feel huge feelings of regret for not doing anything about it when they made fun of me in front of others. I never told them to stop it nor did I tell anyone about it.

You should continue to tell them to stop it with the frustration and hurt you feel, and be resistant to this behavior till either they stop or you get your good marks and get out of that school. Also tell your teachers about the disrespectful and jerklike behavior you have to deal with daily, until you can find one who listens. In this case I think you have every right to find a teacher or principle to help stop this. The school shouldn't condone this crap, and neither should you.

Eh I don't agree with ignoring them. It actually makes them try harder - there's a point where you have to say something back to show them you do NOT like being treated this way.

Understanding the bully's reason for being "his way" never helps when they're being that way in front of you. I've been made fun of a LOT when I was a kid, and even when older - despite "understanding" the bully's reasons for being what he is, I still feel huge feelings of regret for not doing anything about it when they made fun of me in front of others. I never told them to stop it nor did I tell anyone about it.

You should continue to tell them to stop it with the frustration and hurt you feel, and be resistant to this behavior till either they stop or you get your good marks and get out of that school. Also tell your teachers about the disrespectful and jerklike behavior you have to deal with daily, until you can find one who listens. In this case I think you have every right to find a teacher or principle to help stop this. The school shouldn't condone this crap, and neither should you.

Ughh no idea it posted 4 times lol

Hi. I am a school social counseler, and I will grant your wish. I can help you with exactly what you need and I will calm you down and I will take care of those mean kids. Lets meet on Friday, October 21st 2011 at 5pm at The Crossing Park in Colonie. If you can't find it. Go on mapquest.com, maybe at Google. It will be thee best day of your life.

Thanks.
My name is Payton Crow. I'll fight for you.
To find me, I have black hair, and I'll wear a pink top and jeans. I'll hold a kite in the air and come find me. By the way, bring a smile. I love smiling. :)

Bye now.

Try talking to some one who you think is a responsible reliable friend let it be outside school and as shazamataz was right try find something that you know you will be good at like self defense classes and you could threaten to tell a teacher but telling a teacher can make you be labeled as a snitch, when some one calls you a snitch then it feels really bad. I am guessing you're a girl and I hear your 16.
If you answer these question I guess I can find out why the bully you...
1. are you from a different country?
2. are you over or under developed?
3. do you look different from them?
4. is there any one who seems to be on your side, like not bullying you?
5. is there anything that you think relates to why they bully you?
6. how many people bully you, is it the whole school?
7. are you from a bad back ground, like adopted or some one in your family in jail?

Please answer those questions and I can try and help you