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Dear I came to know about yourself about
I am very peacfull person by nature but I am facing troubling since child hood, I am inain, myself usha and 31 yrs. Married woman.

I am tired with all these struggles, I have a 6 yrs. Old child I have to earn myself and for my child because my mother in law creates problems in my my married life. I am earning fiew amount with very hard work what ever I am earning I have to give at my home to my mother in law . But my condition like a bagger I have to begging for my little requirements. This time My husband earning but spend on himself, my husband started a business before 6 yrs. Ago but that was flopp. He had lost his money which he got by high interest rate. I have left my
Child at home when I have to go work. My child’s condition like a orphan. My husband is simple person we both are died by our hard luck. My mother in law do not care me and my child but shows to others like she
Is so caring for both of us. I have to hard earn for myself and I wanted to study further more for mysake future and my child’s future but she denied, She is studying to my sister in law because she and his husband is so smart. My brother in law earning more but he spend on himself and some gives to my mother in law so she loves him and cares him and his wife, I have to earn for myself and for my child no body is feeding us. But some times if I eat good food at home she can't tolerate this thing,
Only for one cup of tea she abuses me every day. I have bought a lot of money and things in my marriage but my condition is so horrible. But I have not any right in my home at my husband and for my child and I have not any peace of my mind. Same thing is applying for my sister also my sister’s life has been ruin because my parents is so innocent and simple, some time I think I am so alone in whole big world. And my
Sister in law (my brother in law’s wife) nothing brought with her but
She cares most of his because she and his husband so smart and my mother in law studying her. They both are not giving nothing in home but his condition is so fine. If I pray to some god she creates so
Problem she don’t want that I should pray.

My parents are very innocent and they had sell their home to marry to
Us (my self and my younger sister) My father spend a lott money for
My marriage and my sister’s marriage but we both sister are not happy.
My parents is living on rent his hard earn money going to paying interest my parents are surrounded by loan and my both brother are searching job till date but they both
Not succeed yet, some time I think we both sister should help our parent but what can we do (my self and my sister) because our parents made both of us for able earning. We are bounded by our in laws.
Please let me know some solution for my problem and my parents
Problem. I don’t want to harm any one.

If you can help for my parents myself and for my sister please kindly help us. I would be very great full for you for ever.

Can any one solution of my problems

Usha, have you thought about day care? Play school? Are such options available to you?
Do you have friends or a socia group wherein you caqn drop by for a good cup of tea?

Can you save some money from your earnings before giving to your mother inlaw?
Can you involve someone elderly to talk to your family?

Do you have money to move into a paying guest sort of a home where the land lord too stays.. with your kid and husband?
Save some money in the bank for your kid

Good luck.

You have a lot to handle and I am sorry for your pain and burdens but I also feel very hopeful because you can make things better.

I would start with things that you have the power to change. You can't change your inlaws, so I would just tolerate them and spend as much time with your son, and individually, away from them as you can.

I would start with improving your education so you can get a better paying job that gives you some confidence and uses your mind, which makes everyone feel better about themselves! Or if you like working with your hands, work toward owning your own business, becoming the best at what you do. For example, I have a family member who came to the US from another country and culture and she got her first job working in terrible conditions running an embroidery machine. They paid her very badly, and she worked all the time for mean people. She put away a few dollars a week, and when the family found out what she was doing - saving to buy her own machine so she could work from home and keep all the profits- we pitched in to help her buy the machine. She started running a small ad in a cheap local paper "I will embroider anything for you. Quick turn-around. Quality Work. Fair price. One piece or hundreds of pieces". It took a while but she started getting orders. She saved part of every sale and was able to rent a kiosk in a mall where she sells several items that she will embroider individually on the spot for people. They cost her about $7 each, and she charges $40 or more for them. It's very popular and she's opening new kiosks in other malls and hiring other people to work for her.

As for me, I was divorced and needed a new career. I went to the Workforce Development office with Unemployment in my area and found out I qualified for tuition help. I had a college degree but it was outdated. I wanted to be a lawyer but it would take too long and cost too much - I needed a job sooner. Anyway, I got my full tuition and books paid for by this program and became a paralegal. I worked at my other job during the day (a bad job but better than nothing - I considered it being unemployed because it was so inadequate but I had to keep doing it until I had something better). I went to school one or two nights a week, and Saturday mornings for a few months, and after a year I had a certificate in paralegal studies. I had a new job before I even graduated. It's not ideal but after I have some experience (and I'm still going to school to get a higher level degree) I will qualify for more responsibility and higher pay, so it's changing my life.

Once you have an education in something that people will pay for, you have power. And when you have power in yourself and the ability to support yourself and your son, you will find that all the noise from family and others who put you down will not matter to you so much. You will have more power in your family because you have the money.

Good luck to you and let us know what you decide to do... take one step every day toward making things better, and a year from now you will be amazed how far you have come!