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HotPotato2009
Aug 31, 2009, 11:18 AM
Hey you guys!

My guy friend (best guy friend actually) from high school found me on myspace about a month ago. We've been talking online for the past 2 weeks, and he has told me that he liked me in high school and wanted us to be more than friends then. I liked him too in high school but I was too shy to go after him lol (This was like 8 years ago when we were freshmens).

I do have a boyfriend and he is aware of this...

Recently he asked me when/if he would ever see me again. I would like to see him also. So my question to you guys is what's the right thing to do in this situation. Like, should I tell my boyfriend about it or not?

Justwantfair
Aug 31, 2009, 11:26 AM
You should tell your boyfriend if you decide to go.
Given the circumstances, I would rethink the chance meeting at this junction.
You sound more on the verge of someone who would like to rekindle an old flame, then restore a friendship that has been absent for the last eight years.
I wouldn't open the can of worms.

HotPotato2009
Aug 31, 2009, 11:31 AM
So are you saying that I should stop talking to this guy?

Justwantfair
Aug 31, 2009, 11:35 AM
If you have a boyfriend and respect your relationship with him, that is what I would suggest.
You are likely playing with fire (especially with hearing about his high school crush) and the one to get hurt the worst would be your boyfriend.

Unless by chance you will be meeting your high schools best friend's wife/girlfriend at the same time with your boyfriend.

ZoeMarie
Aug 31, 2009, 11:37 AM
If you're serious with your boyfriend, respect him and don't want to lose his trust, don't meet up with this guy. Don't even talk to him. If you feel like you can't handle that you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel.

redhed35
Aug 31, 2009, 11:37 AM
Would you have a problem inviting him to your house for a meal,with your boyfriend present.

Or,the 3 of you going out for night out,together?

And,tell your boyfriend,if its innocent there should be no problem..

HotPotato2009
Aug 31, 2009, 11:41 AM
I wouldn't mind introducing him to my boyfriend to see if my boyfriend is fine with it (unlike my boyfriend).
I don't have plans on doing anything major with this guy. I'm not even making plans on seeing him at the moment.

redhed35
Aug 31, 2009, 11:44 AM
OK,maybe I got the wrong impression from your post.
I got,your really excited about contact being made,you were too shy once to make a move..

So,is it,you would like to see him because he was once your best guy friend,or to see if that spark is still there?

There's a big difference.

Justwantfair
Aug 31, 2009, 11:45 AM
Then have the meeting include your boyfriend.
If your old friend's intentions are poor, he will back out of the meeting at the mention of a three's meeting.
If it's innocent, there isn't any reason that your boyfriend should be excluded from this situation.
You would only be creating mistrust and dishonesty to hide the meeting from your partner.

HotPotato2009
Aug 31, 2009, 11:49 AM
No I don't want to hide anything. I've been through that once before, I don't want to go there again.

No I want to see him because we were so close in high school. My best guy friend in high school. I'm not worried about the sparks. If it were to ever come to that I would back off. He's single.

redhed35
Aug 31, 2009, 11:51 AM
Include your boyfriend,consider his feelings,and there should be no problem.

HotPotato2009
Aug 31, 2009, 11:56 AM
Yeah I appreciate that. I just don't like to diss my friends, whether they are guys or girls.

My boyfriend talks to his female friends on Facebook. It bothers me sometimes (I'm slowly getting over it though) and he knows it, but he does it anyway.. so I figured why can't I do it too.

I think I'm a little more honest about it than he is though

Justwantfair
Aug 31, 2009, 11:59 AM
The only way friendships with the opposite sex work is with complete trust and honesty.

HotPotato2009
Aug 31, 2009, 12:00 PM
I agree with that 100%.