My girlfriend of 3 years has moved 5 minutes down the road to her mothers house, where her grandma is "supposedly" dying of copd and enphyzema. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I say supposedly because she has been coping with this illness for years and years. It has gotten a little worse lately, and she refused to go to the dr. anymore, and as soon as she did that, my girlfriend and her mother started freaking out. The whole point behind this is... I work from 2:30pm to midnight. She works about 25 hours a week on random schedule. I barely see her as it is, and she won't even drive 5 minutes down the road to sleep in the same bed as me. I know she loves me, but I can't tell if she is just really scared for her grandma, or just enjoys being away from me. I've tried to compromise with her, and ask her just to stay with me one or 2 days out of the week, but she won't even discuss it with me, she just gets mad. Her grandmother might not even pass on for months, or years! What should I do? I feel so alone all the time, and I don't think she understands that because she is always with her mother and father and grandma, and I am just alone by myself. She also said she would stay there until the day comes that her grandma passes. I just feel like she put our life together on the backburner, and up and left. Even if it is just temporary. I barely talk to her on the phone, and most days, I don't even see her at all. I don't know if I can take this for long... PLEASE HELP!

Yeah, doesn't sound like she's that in to you. Being a girl myself and rejected many guys... sounds like an excuse I would use too. Maybe her grandma really is sick, but if she really loved you, she would definitely find time to spend with you. Even if it were only a couple hours or something... ya know? I think I would try to start to move on if I were you. Just being honest. Maybe I'm wrong, but this is what it seems to me.

In the night when she is sleeping you with ,her Gram could be at deaths door.

Perhaps she wants to be there to see her onto the next life.

I think you need to trust her and be patient.

It really isn't about you and her right now ,its about her and her Grandmother.

Why can't you go down the street and be with her at her Grams house?
There must be a time when it is good for her to accept visitors.

Since I think your young and inexperienced in family obligations I won't be to harsh, but this happens a lot when older family members require time and attention through illness and pending life needs.

Don't be selfish guy, as you can always see her at her grandmothers home, and support her through this very hard time in her life.

You have obviously never been through this, and it does take a lot of adjustments and patience.

This is not about you and your needs, but about her, and her obligations to her older family members, whom she loves.

Quite whining, and support her, or leave her alone in her time of need. Man up!

Well ask her if you can go over there with her. See what she says. If she says it's okay, then I think you're okay. If she tries to come up with a BS excuse as to why not... you get the idea.