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jphorner13
Aug 27, 2009, 11:21 AM
Here's the story: two years ago I was in a two year relationship with this guy who left me for someone else. I was in high school then. Since then, I've had problems with the girl and her 5 friends. I got into a controlling two year relationship after that one ended where I couldn't talk to any guys, therefore almost losing my guy friend. In that time, he became friends with my ex and all the girls who don't like me. I recently left the controlling relationship and rekindled my relationship with my best friend. We get along better than brother and sister and I couldn't picture my life without him kind of best friend. Here's the fun part, he doesn't involve me in anything having to do with that group of people. He knows they're the immature ones and I haven't done a thing wrong to them, we've talked about it. They STILL, two years later, in college, talk nasty about me. It's quite ridiculous. So I told him if ever a time comes when he wants all his friends together, I won't make it awkward, I'll continue to just be mature. His 19th birthday was a few days ago, and come to find out he invited all of them as well as a ton of other people to dinner, and not me. He didn't return my calls that day, didn't say thank you for my birthday wishes, nothing. He told me before he was going to have separate parties for them and for his other friends, which was fine, I understood.. but he combined it into one, aside from me. I'm honestly really hurt by this... what should I do?

redhed35
Aug 27, 2009, 11:27 AM
Hey,perhaps he does not think of you as his closest friend?
You may,but he does not.

This was a horrible thing to happen but try and move on from it,find some friends that won't treat you badly and will respect your feelings.

priderose
Aug 27, 2009, 12:45 PM
sorry about that , but it looks like he doesn't value your friendship. So maby it's time to move on & find friends who understand you better.

Gemini54
Aug 27, 2009, 04:50 PM
Of course you're hurt, that's totally understandable. Do you think that he was trying to protect your feelings by not inviting you? Or, it may be that he felt awkward because he's torn between 2 groups of friends? Leave it for a few more days and then send him an email asking how it went. Let him know you were disappointed not to be there. See what he says.

Ren6
Aug 28, 2009, 09:52 AM
Maybe you should find a different friend. I really question his judgment, based on the fact that he is close to people who belittle you and make nasty, unnecessary comments about you. Does he go along with them when they're together? Does he admonish them? There are plenty of good people in the world... I'd look around. Take care...

lindacentenzor
Jan 9, 2010, 06:24 PM
That's ed up. You need to confront him and tell him what an he is. Or just show him this post.