I'm new so hi I'm steven. My title pretty much sums up my predicament. I am 19 and me and my fiancee(20) have been dating since I was in 9th grade. My problem is in the beginning. It seems that everything is fine, until an attempt of penetration of any sort. From what I gathered from others, the beginning may always hurt. But not like this. It is obviously so painful for her that it makes her want to stop completely. Once past that, everything is fine. Unless there is a slip, and I come out. Then it starts all over again. Even a finger insertion it terrible. Lube is always used, I even tried arousal gels. And there is always enouph, I've gone to the point of using half a bottle at one to try to make it better, but no amount, small or large helps. Its got to the point that I won't have sex unless she begs. I hate to put her in any amount of pain, so I try to avoid it.
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP.

Has she talked to her doctor about it?

She should see a gynecologist.
This is not normal.
The only solution is to find out what the medical problem is.
If it is not medical than it is psychological and that needs to be addressed as well.

Another reason is she is faking pain to refrain from having sex with you.Sorry that sounds harsh but it's a possibility.

As much as I wish that were true.. I don't think so. She is usually the one to start, and gets mad at me when I try to avoid sex. She will eventually go. She says she won't, but I am trying my best.

Something I forgot to mention... is size a problem? I am 6'2'' and weigh 228. I am a big guy... she is 5'8'' and weighs about 90 pounds. As much as I wish this was not the issue, I'm afraid it might be. There no way I can fix it if it is the problem.

something i forgot to mention... is size a problem? i am 6'2'' and weigh 228. i am a big guy... she is 5'8'' and weighs about 90 pounds. as much as i wish this was not the issue, im afraid it might be. there no way i can fix it if it is the problem.


A woman's vagina can easily accept up to a nine inch penis.

If she is 5 '8 and weighs ninety pounds,you should be concerned.
That's way underweight,Is she anorexic?

no... she eats like a horse. She eats more than I do.. she just doesn't seem to really gain weight.

Her weight is way off and maybe she is anorexic and that would explain many of her problems.
She must be skin and bones.

no... she eats like a horse. she eats more than i do.. she just doesnt seem to really gain weight.

O.k well maybe she is puking it out.
Clearly she should not be 5'6 and weight 90 lbs.

Yeah... I know. But I know she isn't puking it out. I spend all day every day with her.

She still needs to ask a doctor about the pain.

She's 20, her metabolism hasn't slowed down yet... and she does have a high metabolism. But like was stated... she needs to see a physician. It can be minor, or it can be serious... she needs a doctor to determin what it is.

I know how she feels.. its fun and she wants to please you but when it comes down to it it really hurts.. its gets sore and sensitive but she wants to make you happy.. I just take the pain

i know how she feels.. its fun and she wants to please you but when it comes down to it it really hurts.. its gets sore and senstive but she wants to make you happy .. i just take the pain
But the point is it shouldn't hurt... if it hurts, its for a reason, and you need to determine what that is.