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beckyg330
Aug 23, 2009, 07:44 PM
My boyfriend likes to watch porn a lot, he knows I don't like it or want to watch it. I try really hard not to let it bother me but it does, I feel unattractive and like I'm doing something wrong. He has told me I satisfy him totally, but if that is true why all the porn. The thing that I hate the most is when were in bed and he watches it and touches himself then without any foreplay wants me to have sex. This just really makes me feel used and like I must not turn him on or he wouldn't have to watch it. Our sex life is great except these times because it makes me not even want to have sex. I just want to tell him to screw the computer! I have even tried telling him things to do so I won't feel so bad, and he tries a day or two and then its back to the same old thing. What can I do to either change the behavior or how I feel about it?

chuff
Aug 23, 2009, 07:57 PM
Tell him exactly what you said here. He's either going to have be into you at the moment or their will be no sex.

talaniman
Aug 24, 2009, 08:49 AM
Don't take the porn personally, but do tell him how you feel about him being a selfish, inconsiderate lover.

He has to understand the porn doesn't arouse you, as it does him. You need more than just pictures.

adam_89
Aug 24, 2009, 08:59 AM
Yes, Most guys will look at porn with you knowing or not knowing. I would have preferred the not knowing. Make sure he just cuts it out in the bedroom and to focus on the sex and not the porn and then using you as a hole to bust a nut.

bigboy69
Aug 24, 2009, 09:05 AM
He is probably addicted to porn and can't stop looking at it without help. You can go to some websites like this one (http://www.sexualrecovery.com/pornography-addiction.php) that tell all about it and what to do

beckyg330
Aug 24, 2009, 05:33 PM
Thanks all you were very helpful

britEl
Aug 24, 2009, 05:46 PM
Tell him exactly how you feel. Basically I think guys will watch porn, it is a known fact. I think they watch it because its fulfilling some sexual fantasy that they have. Tell him you don't want him to watch it in bed, give him some boundaries.