View Full Version : At Fault for an Innocent Introduction
Flavor_2000
Aug 22, 2009, 02:23 PM
A few days ago I had a confrence in San Antonio for work, I brought along my boyfriend so I wouldn't travel alone. I ran into two friends from work and said hi (I got a hug from a girl and the a guy but it was the pat on the back, distance between kind of hug) didn't get a chance to introduce my guy, for he had walked away. Needless to say he made a huge deal about it. I apologized and he was still mad. We got back and the fight was pretty much squashed. We got back home and went out the next day. We had dinner and drinks. A guy friend of my sister came up to me thinking I was my sister again we shook hands and I did the side cheek kiss which is a custom in my culture. I made it a point to introduce him so we wouldn't have a replay of the S.A. trip. However, he still got extremely upset. He said I disrespected him and that I messed things up. I don't see the wrong in what I did because it was innocent hello. My guy had said about the work trip that it wasn't the hugging that bothered him but the fact that I didn't get to introduce him, so now I am really confused? How am I suppose to handle this situation? Please help
asking
Aug 22, 2009, 02:45 PM
Okay. If it was me, I'd start over. Say you are sorry for not introducing him and don't make reference to him walking away before you had a chance. You write, "the fact that I didn't get to introduce him" Just say, "I'm sorry for not introducing you." In other words, don't excuse yourself at all. His feelings were hurt.
From now on, if someone comes up, introduce your boyfriend immediately--him first and as your boyfriend, since he's so touchy about this. Hugs or cheek kisses, brief and chaste. Make sure to touch your boyfriend during the introductions. If you do all this and he's still picking fights, consider breaking up with him.
I've been on the receiving end of being ignored and not introduced and it can feel pretty bad, but he's sounds a little extreme. Hard to say for sure, since we haven't heard his side.
talaniman
Aug 24, 2009, 12:12 PM
I would watch him, as he seems extremely sensitive, and somewhat insecure. That makes it hard, but be reassuring and see if that helps.
Sounds as if this just started, has it? Is this the same guy??
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/he-keeps-calling-dont-know-how-strong-can-317486-4.html
winding200
Aug 24, 2009, 12:42 PM
??
According to another post merged, he is actually gown up, even has kids, but extremely uncomfortable when you hug and cheek kiss with other people in front of him?
He acted like a 8 years old jealous boy. What is his problem? Is he from another culture? If he is an average American, it is a big red flag. Something is not right. Why didn't he introduce himself when you forgot to introduce him to other people? He seems very immature and has lack of confidence.
overayear
Aug 24, 2009, 01:36 PM
I think he is just a jealous person. So even if you introduced him right away or did anything different he would still get mad. He seems a bit controlling as well. I would watch out for this one.