My exboyfriend and I were never typical. Never. Given we did rush into moving in together and I knew that he was a premature dater (never had a long term relationship) and he knew I had control issues. The last 2 years were great, except for the last 4 months where we both had a very difficult time juggling our lives.

He had home problems, school problems, financial issues and so did I. His life was falling apart and so was mine. Naturally we tried to rely on each other, however, we have different coping mechanisms. He pulls away and gets more private and needs me to understand his space and I cling to him and depend on his strength. As you can see this perpetuated the cycle. The more he tried to pull away, the clingier I got. He asked for his space and I couldn't give it to him. He has always been more insightful as to what's happening with us than I was.

Long story short. The love is not gone, the compatibility is not gone. We could lean on each other before this point, I had issues and he let me hold on to him and he had issues and I gave him his distance. We just forgot that in the smog of stress, depression, impatience and aggression. We are now apart and working on our own issues. There is now no contact between us but we are both seeing counselors for our issues and working through it.

To get past it I have set goals as to when I will allow myself to approach him (after all my counseling sessions are done) because I know if I try to work it out now my emotions will only cloud my judgement.

My real question is: can 2 mature, well informed, compatible, intelligent and rational people get past 4 months of hell on Earth and try again after learning from our mistakes?

Yes, it may be that after counseling you will have different ways to approach problems and can thus see each other in a different light. Anything is possible, and there are many different options and choices in life.

I don't want to feel a bit depressing, but sometimes we wish for something which isn't necessarily right for us and we don't always get it, especially in term of love. It is very good you are aware of yours problems and you are seeing counseling.

However, everything that you are doing, should be done for yourself and not for him. I can feel a lot of drama and emotions that you are trying to control. For now, take care of yourself, physically and mentally. I can't stress enough the physical part. You should find some peace before thinking about getting back.
And yes, they are some chances of you getting back together, it is not impossible.