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mommyof_3
Oct 24, 2006, 12:23 PM
I am a mother to 3 children and a step parent to one. My husband and I have been together now for 5yrs and just got married in Feb of this yr. I have been finding that my husband is hard on my daughter but when it comes to his daughter she is never wrong. We have a big issue about clothes going home to the moms, understanding there are rules for everyone not just my children. I need help as I am now to the point of just wanting to leave.:confused:

Sentra
Oct 24, 2006, 02:37 PM
Hmm, it sounds like the disciplinary roles were established but incorrectly, on his part. Sounds like he could be compensating to show his own daughter that he still loves her, even though there are other children in the house.

No no, hubby, bad idea! This sort of 'favoritism' (thats what it sounds like) isn't healthy on the parents or the children.

Children MUST be treated equally, else they begin to compete for approval and as they get older it just progresses (has potential) into a situation you wish you could have prevented. You being, the two of you as a couple. And there is no need to leave, honey.

Something like this can be worked out as long as the two of you are willing to have a sit down and talk about it. If he isn't the talking type, and action gets through clearer? Start putting your foot down equally for all of the children, if they are old enough to understand what is going on. Let him know that the same kind of disciplinary action should be taken on all 3, and not just one. Good luck to you, and take care. I wish you all the best.