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mommyof_2
Aug 17, 2009, 11:34 AM
I am the youngest of 6 siblings. I have always been under attack by the 2 oldest in particular. There is a long history, that I won't go into. I am expressing it this way, because it is the only way I know how to without going into a long drawn out story

Say there are 3 dogs, one of the dog is passive, just minding it's own business. Along come two aggressive dogs, they start picking a fight on the passive dog, calling him names, blaming him for everything, etc. The passive dog says to them, "Why are you doing this to me?, I am not fighting with you". Then, the two dogs find fault with him for that also. And he is continually blamed for everything, even though he has done nothing.

I am the passive one, and my older sister and brother are the aggressers. I am choosing as I always have, to ignore them. My brother has just recently attacked me verbally through email, and I am ignoring him. But, I have cried a lot the last few days over this. And wonder what I can do, to get myself emotionally stronger, to not be so sensitive. I have small children, and I don't like them seeing me cry. I would appreciate any insight. I would be willing to go into more detail if asked, but only through my private email. Thank you.

JudyKayTee
Aug 17, 2009, 11:45 AM
AMHD requests that questions NOT be taken to private mail. No one learns if the conversation is off the site.

What is the basic problem between you and your siblings? Is there a core problem that is causing this behavior? What have you done or not done or what have they done or not done that is contributing to this situation?

I think more info needs to be posted. Is there anyone you can talk to about this? It sounds like you are upset and need someone to listen. What does your husband say about it?

I have a sister you could write volumes about, she pulls stuff almost impossible to believe, but I learned a long time ago to simply ignore her. I know it's hard but maybe cutting ties is the best way to keep your sanity - and protect your children from your upset.

N0help4u
Aug 17, 2009, 01:17 PM
You are mom of 2 so I assume you are on your own and don't have to deal with them in any daily situations so you need to learn to consider the source and let it roll off your back.
You are grown you have kids they are your family now. I don't know if you can block email but that is what you need to do -block his email and any other forms of communication. If you can't block his emails then deposit them directly into the spam -unopened.
He can't make you or break you. Be your own woman.