As some of you have already heard our Starby passed away this morning.

She fought long and hard, beat a lot of odds, but she lost the fight.

She touched so many of us here. So many times in the middle of the night, when I couldn't sleep, she'd keep me company.

We talked every day on the phone. Her sweet laugh, her voice, he humor and her love, I'll never forget.

So tell us a story about her, something your remember, one of your favorite posts, a poem, whatever you want. Let's keep her memory alive.

Starby, as long as I live I will never forget you. We will meet again, this I promise you. Watch us, laugh with us, enjoy the peace you have finally found.

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Rest in Peace Starby.

No words. Absolutely no words.

We love you Jo, I hope you'll be fine where you are. :(

Your absence is like a hole in my heart...

No words. Absolutely no words.

I'm having a hard time finding the words too Judy.

Love you.

I was a bit stunned when I read it in the other thread but after seeing the photo of her the tears came.

We love you Jo, you will be missed.

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It's really nice Alty, that poem.

It's really nice Alty, that poem.

You wrote it Unky, look on the bottom. ;)

A friend is like a flower,
a rose to be exact,
Or maybe like a brand new gate
that never comes unlatched.
A friend is like an owl,
both beautiful and wise.
Or perhaps a friend is like a ghost,
whose spirit never dies.
A friend is like a heart that goes
strong until the end.
Where would we be in this world
if we didn't have a friend. - By Emma Guest

LOL! :) You succeeded to make me smile through this difficulty. ::Big Hugs::

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/unknown008-albums-small+pics-picture55-hugs05.jpg

Memory Can Tell Us Only What We Were
By Richard Fife

Memory can tell us only what we were,
In company with those we loved;
It cannot help us find out what each of us,
Alone, must now become.
Yet, no person is really alone;
Those who live no more still echo
Within our thoughts and words,
And what they did has become
Woven into what we are.

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I don't care how but I want to find this book.

http://www.amybrooke.co.nz/pics/duck.jpg

Friends Until The End

We used to talk
We used to laugh
We were best of friends
I thought that's how it would always be
You taught me so much
Told me exactly what to say
I wish it were still the same
But someday I know it will
Maybe not today
But we'll meet up again
It won't be long until I see your face
In Heaven that marvellous day

By Stef Knudsen

Confessions Of A Broken Heart

Pain... Tension... Fatigue...
Depression...
Anger, Aggression, Frustration.
All these unwanted sensations -
Burning, hurting, tearing.
My heart alone, cold and fearing.
Why won't you let me sleep, let me rest,
Let me forget
To eradicate, eliminate, destroy all my regrets?
These memories inside, swirling, twirling,
Unwilling to reside in the corner of my mind.
Repeating, resisting, insisting -
Refusing to be denied its recognition
Of its position in my
Frustration, Confusion, Delusion.
Ah, to close my eyes and let time fly by,
Because there's so much to gain
By forgetting these dreams driving me insane.
Unfocused, unclear, out of control,
My world spinning, spinning, spinning,
My sanity flying through the door.
My reason, my logic, oh, it's tragic,
Like fine sands running through my hands,
I'm losing my mind.

By John Laset

Was hoping you would start this post since the news.
I can't believe how beautiful she was.
You can see the love and the energy radiating off her pic
Its really ashame.

I will, but can't today.

I am deeply sorry for your loss. Be blessed!

Alty you are right... no matter how much or how long you know its coming... you can prepare all you want... but it still hurts... and I didn't even know her personally... I hope that makes sense to everyone...

Yes, that makes sense to me, Jennie :)

Ducky, it's time to fly for real

YouTube - Swing Low, Sweet Chariot - With Lyrics (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yyZ128zVEr4)

Thank you all for posting. She'd be tickled pink.

For those of you that didn't know her well, she used to be a florist. She loved her flowers, absolutely loved them, and knew so much about them.

I don't even know the difference between a tea rose and a regular rose. Is there a regular rose? She'd be laughing at that.

So in honor of her love for flowers.

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I'm sure this is her heaven.

I'm sure this is her heaven.

Plus a few sexy men for her :)

Thank you all for posting. She'd be tickled pink.

For those of you that didn't know her well, she used to be a florist. She loved her flowers, absolutely loved them, and knew so much about them.

I don't even know the difference between a tea rose and a regular rose. Is there a regular rose? She'd be laughing at that.

So in honor of her love for flowers.

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I'm sure this is her heaven.

Thanks, wouldn't it be nice if heaven is an individual thing for each of us. Each would be forever in a heaven that was built for us personally and we could spend eternity there with all our loved ones. If that would be true then Jo would be tending her flowers and listening to everything we say here... as I think that this would also be part of her heaven. :)

Stringer

The calia lilly is my favorite flower... I made my wedding bouquet modeled after this one...

It seems sadly apropriete at the moment...


http://www.flower-arrangement-advisor.com/images/calla_lily_bouquet.jpg

Plus a few sexy men for her :)

Hmmmm... well, I'm not quite ready yet... :):):D

Plus a few sexy men for her :)

:) yes she needs a few to keep her laughing and in good spirits ;)

I hope it is her heaven because we can't ever give her enough flowers here to express the sorrow.

Thanks, wouldn't it be nice if heaven is an individual thing for each of us. Each would be forever in a heaven that was built for us personally and we could spend eternity there with all our loved ones. If that would be true then Jo would be tending her flowers and listening to everything we say here....as I think that this would also be part of her heaven. :)

Stringer

There's a book I read a while back;

The Lovely Bones - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lovely_Bones)

If you ever get a chance to read it, it's worth a read.

It's sad, but so powerful.

The author believes that we each have a personal heaven. We only have to wish for something to have it.

I believe Jo is in her field of flowers, tending to them and all the dogs whose masters have yet to join them. The longer she's there the more elaborate her heaven will be. The flowers there will rival anything we have on earth.

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There's a book I read a while back;

The Lovely Bones - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lovely_Bones)

If you ever get a chance to read it, it's worth a read.

It's sad, but so powerful.

The author believes that we each have a personal heaven. We only have to wish for something to have it.

I believe Jo is in her field of flowers, tending to them and all the dogs whose masters have yet to join them. The longer she's there the more elaborate her heaven will be. The flowers there will rival anything we have on earth.

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I read the review and it is very interesting Alty, thanks... I will check it out soon.

I never claimed to be a poet.

For Starby.

I have no words, only tears, but those are just for me.
I have to smile, for you're at peace, and that's how it should be.
You fought so hard, against all odds, our ducky, friend, our love.
Now you're at rest, your soul has flown to paradise above.

From Alty.

That was georgious alty... poet or not... beautifull... the worlds greatest poets are not aclaimed nor published, but write striaght from the heart...

Lovely Bones gave me great peace when my husband died - it's a good read, no matter what your beliefs are.

Alty, wish I could be there with you. I really do.

Lovely Bones gave me great peace when my husband died - it's a good read, no matter what your beliefs are.

Alty, wish I could be there with you. I really do.

It is a wonderful book.

Judy, you are here with me. :)

I have to go for now.

I'm trying to figure out a way to get a card, have everyone sign it, or write something in it, and then send it to her family.

Any ideas?

The only thing I can think of is for everyone to write something here and I'll write it on the card.

So, if you want to write something for her family, post it here and I'll make sure they get it.

No space restriction, I'll print out pages and pages if I have to. :)

Love to all.

I have an idea hon.

If we all use the paint program on our computers.

Sign on there and a note

Then you can paste it all together and print it out :)

I wasn't lucky enough to have known her, but being on the outside looking in, I see that she touched so many hearts and lives with love. I can only dream of having that quality. May GOD bless her soul, and may GOD bless you all. This particular angel finally got her wings.

I know she suffered so much. GOD has seen that she is at peace. Don't feel sorry for her, envy her. She is happy now, looking down at you all with love.

I'm sure she knew how much you all cared for, and loved her. I can see it from Georgia.

Also, let her family know that while I never knew her personally I loved her and I am praying for them.

Alty...

Her picture is tearing me up.

Is the family requesting donations in her name to any specific charity or should I just send something to a charity of my choosing?

And an address for notification of the donation - ?

Our Jo is finally at peace. No more of life's struggles at her doorstep. She held on longer than most could. It's good to know that in the end she brought her family back together.

Rest in peace Jo, and always know that we love you.

I am trying to come up with the words. I am at a loss. It is too early.

The only solace is to know that Our Ducky is in Peace right now. That is the only thing that is comforting.

I agree, Stringer.

I didn't know her either, but have seen her mentioned on this Forum many, many times. Clearly she was much liked and very much loved.

Altenweg, I feel for you in particular as you were her good friend, and I know from personal experience what a huge gap losing a friend leaves in your life.

I am so very sorry. Words are so inadequate.

Rest in peace sister.

Weep” by Mary Frye (1932)

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a 1,000 winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sun on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled light
I am the soft star that shines at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there; I did not die.

Thank you all.

Judy, I haven't heard anything about a specific charity, if they choose that I'll let you know.

If I had to choose one I'd go with the human society. Her love of dogs, the work she did towards making their lives better, she would be pleased if that's where donations went.

Stringer, the picture brings tears to my eyes too, but they are tears of joy. She's so beautiful in that picture, so happy. That's how I choose to remember her.

Joe, J9, Jennie, Gemini, JM, Judy, Stringer, everyone, we will always miss her, but we have a part of her that no one else does. Her posts. We got to see a side of her that no one in her real life did. I wish they had been able to know the Jo that we did.

We were all so lucky to know her. I'll never regret it, any of it, even though there's pain now, there was joy, and that will be with me, with all of us, forever.

Hugs to you all.

Alty, did you get the mail from her family on Facebook?

Alty, did you get the mail from her family on facebook?

Yes, I did J.

Sadly I got the call from her brother first, so it was a major shock.

I'm sorry to say that I broke down on the poor guy. I wasn't strong at all. Not good.

He just lost his sister and he's comforting me. I feel horrible about it.

Then I got to the computer to find tons of Facebook messages, emails. It was hard.

I still can't believe it, yet I can. The world feels emptier, even though I never met her in person, haven't had the chance to talk to her in weeks, it feels emptier knowing she's gone, that I'll never hear her voice again.

I'm so very glad that she had the chance to make her peace with her family. I can only imagine what they are feeling right now. I hope that they're okay, at peace with this. That's a lot to ask for, but that's my wish.

I'm so glad to have all of you. Glad that we can lean on each other through this. It's our loss too. AMHD's loss. She made a difference here.

Love you all.

Jo and you, Alty, helped me make decisions in my life that have changed my outllok, given me strength, and helped me not be used. I will be eternally grateful to the both of you... And will dearly miss our chats, emails, and little connections.

She was with is in my first Café... The one that started all this awesome chatting.

She has enriched my life and helped me see what really matters again.

She was my friend. My confidante.

I will miss her.

Jo and you, Alty, helped me make decisions in my life that have changed my outllok, given me strength, and helped me not be used. I will be eternally grateful to the both of you... And will dearly miss our chats, emails, and little connections.

She was with is in my first Cafe... The one that started all this awesome chatting.

She has enriched my life and helped me see what really matters again.

She was my friend. My confidante.

I will miss her.

That seems so long ago, but it isn't.

Funny how you both got into my heart so quickly. I don't ever allow it.

I remember when we first started the chats. You and me and the dream of coffee. It was a happier time.

I can't help but think that her death has a purpose. Our chats, they've slowed down, now here we are, all together again.

I've been missing you Chicky. We started all of this, let's keep it going.

She lives on through us. Through our chats. Just talking about her brings her to life. Let's never stop. The duck, our Starby, she will live on, because we won't let her die, not in our memories.

Think of the peace. She has it now. She has it now. We will meet again, one day. :)

I never claimed to be a poet.

For Starby.

I have no words, only tears, but those are just for me.
I have to smile, for you're at peace, and that's how it should be.
You fought so hard, against all odds, our ducky, friend, our love.
Now you're at rest, your soul has flown to paradise above.

From Alty.

That was beautiful Alty.

I remember being on here with Jo,in the wee hours of the morning,both of us being insomniacs, and we would have these marathon I.M. sessions.

We must have talked about everything from A to Z.And it was always our little laugh fest!

She always got me rolling and I always used to tease her with the same old joke *hay Jo,where you goin' with that gun in your hand*?
It's a lyric from an old Jimi Hendrix song and for some reason,she thought it was funny!

Then she would proceed to tell me her imaginary hit list.Silly but fun!

I loved talking with her and we did have some serious talks about love and life and our problems.

She loved everyone here and there was never a bad word about anyone!

I light a candle in her memory and treasure the time I had.

We always said we would meet one day and I know we will. I know she has found the peace she wanted so bad in this life.

Here is a link to Jo's obituary where you can leave a condolence for family.

http://www.medicinehatdirectory.com/obituaries.htm

As I'd said on the other thread.

It is sad, very sad and heartbreaking for those left behind that knew her. Ive been reading this thread for a while now,but haven't commented for while, as there was nothing anybody could say that would change anything. She held on and fought, but in the end she wanted and needed to find peace.

Jo's at peace now and I'm sure looking down on each and everyone of you.

Please accept my hugs and condolences xxxx
__________________

Anybody wanting to light a candle in the sea of candles for Jo and her family Light a Candle - Show you Care! - Sea of Candles (http://www.lightacandle.co.uk/showall.html)

You can light a candle and link it back to here, everybody can add their own words. Xxxxxx

Alty...

Her picture is tearing me up.

Me too.

I remember talking with her on the phone and we could never have a conversation less than 2 hours. But that was a minimum because we'd often talk much longer than that. She was a great lady and I've been missing her for a long time now.

Right now, I'm having trouble dealing with so much all at the same time.

This is so sad. I do have to ask of what happened with her. I know that she was in the hospital for awhile but I never knew what for and didn't want to ask.

I remember meeting her I believe in the AMHD tavern or maybe the Jail or maybe it was the hotel that M paid for. I would be here around 6 in the morning and she would be the only one around to talk to. Such a fun good hearted person. I will miss her being around here. I remember her and Alty going back and forth of what my nick name should be around here. I guess Alty won that one but I will never forget all the times of her.

I remember being on here with Jo,in the wee hours of the morning,both of us being insomniacs, and we would have these marathon I.M. sessions.

We must have talked about everything from A to Z.And it was always our little laugh fest!

She always got me rolling and I always used to tease her with the same old joke *hay Jo,where you goin' with that gun in your hand*?
Its a lyric from an old Jimi Hendrix song and for some reason,she thought it was funny!

Then she would proceed to tell me her imaginary hit list.Silly but fun!

I loved talking with her and we did have some serious talks about love and life and our problems.

She loved everyone here and there was never a bad word about anyone!

I light a candle in her memory and treasure the time I had.

We always said we would meet one day and I know we will. I know she has found the peace she wanted so bad in this life.

Here is a link to Jo's obituary where you can leave a condolence for family.

Medicine Hat Directory (http://www.medicinehatdirectory.com/obituaries.htm)

Thank you very much for posting this Artsy, I sent something, thanks again.

I lite a candle
Neat site.

She gave me her number
I never got around to calling
Wish I had.
I need to go through and call every one that has given me their #
Cause you never know what might happen

Wow, just heard the news. I'm in shock as death is a part of life, but it hurts to hear someone so lively has passed, she was a buddy.

I was thinking maybe it would be nice if the moderators or whoever post her at the top of the members page with an ''in memory of''

Here is her profile page

Ask Me Help Desk - View Profile: starbuck8 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/starbuck8.html)

I was thinking maybe it would be nice if the moderators or whoever post her at the top of the members page with an ''in memory of''

Here is her profile page

Ask Me Help Desk - View Profile: starbuck8 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/starbuck8.html)

I think that's a wonderful idea

R.I.P. starby. I'll miss you lots <3

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For those of you that knew Starby well, you know that she had a great sense of humor.

She had a way about her. She would turn something serious into something hilarious.

So, in honor of that, of her humor, her zest, I'm posting this, because she'd be double dog daring me to.

For you Starby, because I know you'd laugh at it if you were here.

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:) I think too that she would be laughing. I just cannot count all the times she reversed the situation to a funny one, there are so much :rolleyes:

:) I think too that she would be laughing. I just cannot count all the times she reversed the situation to a funny one, there are so much :rolleyes:

She would be rolling on the floor with laughter. This was what she loved to do, turn something very serious into something you couldn't help but laugh at.

She'd be proud. :)

Hehe she would be so happy with you alty. And so PROUD of you for being so strong for her. *hugs* you are truly an amazing person alty. I only wish I could give you a hug in real life. (whether you wanted one or not I might add :P I'm one of those 'lovely' people who don't pick up on social cues for personal space very well ;) )

Another one Starby would have laughed at.

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I can almost hear her giggle. :)

I'm already missing our canduck...

Just found that one: :) The cute Golden Retriever

http://www.adorableish.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/01/cute-puppy-pictures-loldogs-puppy-breffs.jpg

Now that's our Starby! Good find Unky.

She wouldn't want us to be crying. Tears are a part of it, we will cry, but she'd want us to smile, to laugh, to live.

Let's do her proud.

For our Duck.

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A special puppy for a special lady.

Another one! :p

http://images.icanhascheezburger.com/completestore/2008/6/3/imsickplease128570198700548081.jpg

More flowers for our Duck.

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Now that's heaven!

I didn't know starby as much as a lot of you, and my condolences go out to her family and you guys who knew her personally.

sure we had little random chats,but they were just to pass the time

even though this outcome seemed inevitable, it is still a sad blow, I know starby lasted longer than even the doctors thought she would, and some of you even got to talk with her one last time before she passed away, and it makes me smile that you were able to do that :)

I'm sorry to hear that starby has passed away, but I'm sure she's in a better place

i didnt know starby as much as alot of you, and my condolences go out to her family and you guys who knew her personally.

sure we had little random chats,but they were just to pass the time

even though this outcome seemed inevitable, it is still a sad blow, i know starby lasted longer than even the doctors thought she would, and some of you even got to talk with her one last time before she passed away, and it makes me smile that you were able to do that :)

im sorry to hear that starby has passed away, but im sure she's in a better place

When push came to shove she fought like crazy, that was our ducky.

Thank you Bear. I know she really liked you, she mentioned you often, always wanted to change your nickname, but Bear just fits.

I did get lucky, I got to talk to her when she was having a clear day. I still remember every word of that conversation. We could only talk for a while, so I wanted to make sure I said everything I wanted to say. Sadly, I broke down, cried, just kept telling her that I love her, to fight, to come back to us. She laughed, said "I'm not going anywhere".

Shortly after that talk she went downhill again, fast. Still, she managed to fight for a lot longer then the doctors thought she could.

I'm so happy that her parents and siblings had a birthday party for her, that she was having a clear day then. In the pictures you can see how happy she was that day. Eating KFC and cake, her dog Niki was there as well.

I'm so happy they have that memory. I'm so happy that we have our memories as well.

When push came to shove she fought like crazy, that was our ducky.

Thank you Bear. I know she really liked you, she mentioned you often, always wanted to change your nickname, but Bear just fits.

I did get lucky, I got to talk to her when she was having a clear day. I still remember every word of that conversation. We could only talk for a while, so I wanted to make sure I said everything I wanted to say. Sadly, I broke down, cried, just kept telling her that I love her, to fight, to come back to us. She laughed, said "I'm not going anywhere".

Shortly after that talk she went downhill again, fast. Still, she managed to fight for a lot longer then the doctors thought she could.

I'm so happy that her parents and siblings had a birthday party for her, that she was having a clear day then. In the pictures you can see how happy she was that day. Eating KFC and cake, her dog Niki was there as well.

I'm so happy they have that memory. I'm so happy that we have our memories as well.

Yeah, :)

Bear, finally! I was wondering where you were! :)

And speaking of Niki, I remembered that once Starby said that Niki would go out even if it's snowing...

http://www.softlow.com/imagesc/-aHR0cDovL2Jsb2dnaW5ndG90aGViYW5rcy5jb20vZG93bmxvYW QvZnVucHVwcHkvc2NyZWVuc2hvdC5naWY=-450-300.gif

This one sounds like our Starby;

God needed one more to fill the empty space,
He looked around the hospital and saw your sweet face,
When you stopped breathing,
We knew you were gone,
You went so peacefully,
So we knew you chose the right home,
We knew your skies weren't so blue,
And the roads were getting too tough for you,
But you fought that fight,
And you did the best you could do,
The best part was you didn't die alone,
The day God sent you home.

I wasn't sure whether to post this but Alty convinced me.
I am hopeless at writing so I made a picture frame to express myself instead.

Go rest now precious one,
Your life in eternity has just begun.
Now you can walk, your legs are brand
New.
All of heaven is now in your view.

Look all around,it's all in your sight,
There will never be another dark night.
Flowers and jewels, the street of pure gold,and all of the things that have been told.

I can just imagine the smile on your face as you walk all around in that beautiful place.
Greeting our loved ones as you walk along,while singing heaven's most beautiful song.

This is so very hard,but it will all be okay,it isn't goodbye,we'll see you one day.
We love you and we'll miss you and at times it will be tough,but as with everything,God's grace will be enough.

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Shazzy, I wish I could change the pic I posted to that one, it's beautiful.

Bear, finally! I was wondering where you were! :)

And speaking of Niki, I remembered that once Starby said that Niki would go out even if it's snowing...

http://www.softlow.com/imagesc/-aHR0cDovL2Jsb2dnaW5ndG90aGViYW5rcy5jb20vZG93bmxvYW QvZnVucHVwcHkvc2NyZWVuc2hvdC5naWY=-450-300.gif

Yea, sorry my reply was late, but it was difficult finding the right words to say, and I wanted to do right by starby :)

Bear, everyone handles death differently. I'm sure that many people won't post, not because they don't care, but because it's too hard.

You did right by Starby. You could never do wrong. Just being who you are, that's all we need. :)

A last one :p

http://www.europuppy.com/images/europu_galimages/5121.jpg

Unky, Starby actually sent that picture to me once. She loved it, thought it was hilarious. It is.

When I scrolled down and saw the huge picture of Jo the tears just started running down my cheeks. I will keep her "friend" status on my profile forever.

I will be picking up the card today, to send to her family.

If there's anything anyone would like me to add, just write it here. Perhaps underline "For Starby's card" and then write what you would like me to include.

I'll be sending it off come Wednesday.

More flowers for Jo.

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Shazzy, I wish I could change the pic I posted to that one, it's beautiful.

Thank you, not as beautiful as the photo in it though :)
Was hard to make... spent a while on the frame then quickly pasted the photo in.

I love that flashlight photo Unky, very funny ;)

Oh, I wasn't aware of that. Was just googling, then saw that one :)

I've been off the boards for a while due to my mother's deteriorating health only to find out about Starby.

She will be missed. I still can't quite believe it.

May you rest in peace, Starby.

I have hundreds of emails from Starby, I've been going through them this last week. I posted some of the funny ones, read through some of the ones where we just chatted.

I would get dozens of emails every day, funny pictures, videos, some that just said "thank you for being a friend".

I saved them all.

I'm glad I did.

Here's one that she sent me.

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Haha I love that one!

OMG! I'll have to go very soon, tomorrow's school, and I nearly missed the bus today... >.< Bye all, have a great day!

Unky out.

Good bye Unky.

Hugs kiddo. :)

Another one of my favorites from Jo. :)

One of the greatest secrets of life is having patience --

knowing when to do what, kinda like the song says,

'you gotta know when to hold em, know when to fold em' .

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Hehe, keep 'em coming Alty, definitely bringing the mood up, for a duck she had a brilliant sense of humor :D

She loved sending stuff like that.

Every day I'd open my email and find tons of stuff from her. Some sappy, most hilarious.

She loved to laugh. That's what she'd want us to do.

So Starby, I'll do my best to bring a smile to everyone's face, just like you always did for me.

I could be so sad, so down, but she'd lift me up, every time. She never let me down, and I'll do my best to not let her down either.

for a duck she had a brilliant sense of humor :D

'Tis true.

Alty, I wonder what Jo would say about your avi... :rolleyes:

'Tis true.

Alty, I wonder what Jo would say about your avi... :rolleyes:

I know that she would have an opinion on that one... :) And it would probably cover at least 20 pages.

OMG! I had to wait a few minutes to type so I could see through the tears. I can't believe it, I knew that she was going in for surgery, I just didn't know... OMG.

ALWAYS be remembered, we miss you Starbs.

I know that she would have an opinion on that one...:) And it would probably cover at least 20 pages.

Only 20? More like 1500, then she'd start a new thread to continue. ;)

I'm always at a loss for words at funerals and it's ironic that the words when broken differently down say "fun" er al.

By all means, it's not fun. It's kind of odd that the only time some families get together is at weddings and funerals.

Well, it looks as if she didn't suffer too long. It's just too bad that things were taken away from her.

I wonder what these discussions would have been like, if Starby could have participated.

Maybe the two things she liked most is AMHD and the dog. Once you loose the things/people/animals you care about, the energy drains.

This thread should be a wake up call for anyone involved with liver damage and alcohol.

At least she probably got to say goodby to a few friends. I didn't when my father passed away. I didn't realize just how bad non-Hodgekin's Lymphoma really was. One day hospital procedure, then coma and a few days later respirator disconnect.

Bye Starby. Say hi to my father for me. Thanks. <cry>

KISS, my dad died of the same thing, same way. The lymphoma spread to his liver, he died shortly thereafter.

It's hard to find words. You did well.

Hugs dear.

Hugs back.

The procedure was a thoreocenthesis where they drain fluid from his lungs and didn't turn on the oxygen. I found the oxygen off about 5 hours later. We later found out that the senior resident did the procedure and he punctured his lung. We only found out by getting written hospital notes. The hand written notes were way to hard to read. All we got is the cancer came back aggressively, probably because they withheld a chemo treatment because of a non-existant heart problem.

Hugs back.

The procedure was a thoreocenthesis where they drain fluid from his lungs and didn't turn on the oxygen. I found the oxygen off about 5 hours later. We later found out that the senior resident did the procedure and he punctured his lung. We only found out by getting written hospital notes. The hand written notes were way to hard to read. All we got is the cancer came back aggressively, probably because they withheld a chemo treatment because of a non-existant heart problem.

I am sorry KISS.

This was also an April Fools Thread that Jo started about her Dog being a thief , I was onto her but played along , really shows what a great sense of humour she had.


https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dogs/dog-thief-336235.html


And the "My sister is a Vampire" one , man I was pi**ing myself laughing in my office being part of that thread , Jo and Artsy did a great job with that (even though they got in strife LOL). My work colleagues all thought I was going nuttso :)

This was also an April Fools Thread that Jo started about her Dog being a thief , I was onto her but played along , really shows what a great sense of humour she had.


https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dogs/dog-thief-336235.html


And the "My sister is a Vampire" one , man I was pi**ing myself laughing in my office being part of that thread , Jo and Artsy did a great job with that (even though they got in strife LOL). My work colleagues all thought I was going nuttso :)

I loved the vampire one, mainly because J9 was completely fooled. She though Jo had completely lost it. Heck, she reported it.

When J9 PM'd me about it I laughed myself silly. I just PM'd back with this;

"J9, what day is it?"

That was the funniest part of it. I swear I laughed so hard that a little pee came out. :)

J, sorry, had to tell it. Love you lady. Don't report me. :o

M, what about Genie Tahlia and all the fun with that?

All the castle threads, the antics, the fun, the duck and her poor feather.

She loved being the duck, loved our chats.

Stringer and I were always trying to cook her, but she always escaped.

I'll remember that always. :)

I loved the vampire one, mainly because J9 was completely fooled. She though Jo had completely lost it. Heck, she reported it.

When J9 PM'd me about it I laughed myself silly. I just PM'd back with this;

"J9, what day is it?"

That was the funniest part of it. I swear I laughed so hard that a little pee came out. :)

J, sorry, had to tell it. Love ya lady. Don't report me. :o

LMAO... I would have loved to see J_9's face when she realised :eek:

M, what about Genie Tahlia and all the fun with that?

All the castle threads, the antics, the fun, the duck and her poor feather.

She loved being the duck, loved our chats.

Stringer and I were always trying to cook her, but she always escaped.

I'll remember that always. :)

I'll never forget those either , great fun :)

All her computer problems too. Every day it was something new. She'd be going crazy trying to fix the darn thing.

And ALty, you have that job now on your own computer.

And ALty, you have that job now on your own computer.

My computer isn't the problem KISS, it's me. ;)

You mean the problem is between the monitor and the chair?

You mean the problem is between the monitor and the chair?

You betcha. :p

The computer itself is great. Love it. Nice computer, very nice computer. :)

Ok so I'm just posting these on Alty's behalf because... :ahem:... she's having Computer issues :cool:

Jo sent these to Alty.





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Ok so I'm just posting these on Alty's behalf because... :ahem:.. . she's having Computer problems

We already covered that M. I know it's not poor F.R.E.D. It's A.L.T.Y. ;)

Thanks for posting them.

Those were also sent by Starby. :)

Another email Starby sent me.


A sharp tongue can cut my own throat.
If I want my dreams to come true, I mustn't over sleep.
Of all the things I wear, my expression is the most important.
The best vitamin for making friends... B1.
The happiness of my life depends on the quality of my thoughts.
The heaviest thing I can carry is a grudge.
One thing I can give and still keep... is my word.
I lie the loudest when I lie to myself.
If I lack the courage to start, I have already finished.
One thing I can't recycle is wasted time.
Ideas won't work unless 'I' do.
My mind is like a parachute... it functions only when open.
The 10 commandments are not a multiplechoice.
The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime!
It is never too late to become what I might have been.
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.

So love the people who treat you right.

Forget about the one's who don't.

Believe every thing happens for a reason.

If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.

If it changes your life, let it.

Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away.

Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong.

Sometimes we just don't realize what real friendship means until it is too late.

I don't want to let that happen so I'm going to tie you to my heart so I never lose you.

23582

Another email Starby sent me.


A sharp tongue can cut my own throat.
If I want my dreams to come true, I mustn't over sleep.
Of all the things I wear, my expression is the most important.
The best vitamin for making friends....B1.
The happiness of my life depends on the quality of my thoughts.
The heaviest thing I can carry is a grudge.
One thing I can give and still keep...is my word.
I lie the loudest when I lie to myself.
If I lack the courage to start, I have already finished.
One thing I can't recycle is wasted time.
Ideas won't work unless 'I' do.
My mind is like a parachute... it functions only when open.
The 10 commandments are not a multiplechoice.
The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime!
It is never too late to become what I might have been.
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.

So love the people who treat you right.

Forget about the one's who don't.

Believe every thing happens for a reason.

If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.

If it changes your life, let it.

Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we've let them fly away.

Sometimes we are so caught up in who's right and who's wrong that we forget what's right and wrong.

Sometimes we just don't realize what real friendship means until it is too late.

I don't want to let that happen so I'm gonna tie you to my heart so I never lose you.

23582

I really liked this.

I really liked this.

It was one of the best ones she sent me. :)

This may make you cry but it is an inspiring little story so thought I would share again and this seemed the perfect place..

THE LETTER

Sally jumped up as soon as she
Saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She
Said: "How is my little boy? Is he going to be all
right? When can I see him?"

The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could,
but your boy didn't make it."

Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer?
Doesn't God care any more? Where were you, God, when
my son needed you?"

The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone
with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a
few minutes, before he's transported to the
university."

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she
Said good-bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly
Through his thick red curly hair.

"Would you like a lock of his hair?" the nurse
Asked.

Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's
Hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to
Sally. The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to
donate his body to the university for study. He said
it might help somebody else. "I said no at first,
But Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I
Die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend
One more day with his Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy
Had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone
Else. Always wanting to help others if he could."

Sally walked out of Children's mercy Hospital for
the last time, after spending most of the last six
months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's
belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The
drive home was difficult. It was even harder to
enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's
belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his
hair to her son's room. She started placing the
model cars and other personal things back in his
room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid
down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried
herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying
beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The
letter said:


"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't
Think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving
You, just 'cause I'm not around to say I LOVE YOU. I
Will always love you, Mom, even more with each day.
Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if
You want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so
Lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and
Old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a
Girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same
Things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and
Stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking
About me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and
Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me
Around some, but it will take a long time to see
Everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch
Them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look
Like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I
Knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD!
And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God's knee and
Talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That's
When I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter,
To tell you good-bye and everything. But I already
Knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom?
God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to
Write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name
Of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to
You. God said for me to give you the answer to one
Of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He when I
Needed him?' "God said He was in the same place with
Me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was
Right there, as He always is with all His children.

Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've
Written except you. To everyone else this is just a
Blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool? I have to
Give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some
More names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit
At the table with Jesus for supper. I'm, sure the
Food will be great.

Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt
Anymore. The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I
Couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't
Stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He
Send The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel
Said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?
Signed with Love from: God, Jesus &Me.

Wow M. That's a wonderful story.

I'm not crying, there's something in my eye.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Another good one that Jo sent me.

Our 14 year old dog, Abbey, died last month. The day after she died, my 4 year old daughter Meredith was crying and talking about how much she missed Abbey. She asked if we could write a letter to God so that when Abbey got to heaven, God would recognize her. I told her that I thought we could so she dictated these words:

Dear God,

Will you please take care of my dog? She died yesterday and is with you in heaven. I miss her very much. I am happy that you let me have her as my dog even though she got sick.

I hope you will play with her. She likes to play with balls and to swim. I am sending a picture of her so when you see her. You will know that she is my dog. I really miss her.

Love, Meredith.

We put the letter in an envelope with a picture of Abbey and Meredith, and addressed it to God/Heaven. We put our return address on it. Then Meredith pasted several stamps on the front of the envelope because she said it would take lots of stamps to get the letter all the way to heaven. That afternoon she dropped it into the letter box at the post office. A few days later, she asked if God had gotten the letter yet. I told her that I thought He had.

Yesterday, there was a package wrapped in gold paper on our front porch addressed, 'To Meredith '... in an unfamiliar hand writing. Meredith opened it. Inside was a book by Mr. Rogers called, 'When a Pet Dies'. Taped to the inside front cover was the letter we had written to God in its opened envelope. On the opposite page was the picture of Abbey & Meredith and this note:


Dear Meredith,

Abbey arrived safely in heaven. Having the picture was a big help. I recognized Abbey right away. Abbey isn't sick anymore. Her spirit is here with me just like it stays in your heart. Abbey loved being your dog.

Since we don't need our bodies in heaven, I don't have any pockets to keep your picture in, so I am sending it back to you in this little book for you to keep and have something to remember Abbey by.

Thank you for the beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write it and sending it to me. What a wonderful mother you have. I picked her especially for you.

I send my blessings every day and remember that I love you very much.

By the way, I'm easy to find, I am wherever there is love.

Love,
God

This may make you cry but it is an inspiring little story so thought I would share again and this seemed the perfect place..

THE LETTER

Sally jumped up as soon as she
saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She
said: "How is my little boy? Is he going to be all
right? When can I see him?"

The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could,
but your boy didn't make it."

Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer?
Doesn't God care any more? Where were you, God, when
my son needed you?"

The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone
with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a
few minutes, before he's transported to the
university."

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she
said good-bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly
through his thick red curly hair.

"Would you like a lock of his hair?" the nurse
asked.

Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's
hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to
Sally. The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to
donate his body to the university for study. He said
it might help somebody else. "I said no at first,
but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I
die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend
one more day with his Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy
had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone
else. Always wanting to help others if he could."

Sally walked out of Children's mercy Hospital for
the last time, after spending most of the last six
months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's
belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The
drive home was difficult. It was even harder to
enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's
belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his
hair to her son's room. She started placing the
model cars and other personal things back in his
room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid
down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried
herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying
beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The
letter said:


"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't
think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving
you, just 'cause I'm not around to say I LOVE YOU. I
will always love you, Mom, even more with each day.
Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if
you want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so
lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and
old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a
girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same
things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and
stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking
about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and
Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me
around some, but it will take a long time to see
everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch
them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look
like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I
knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD!
And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God's knee and
talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That's
when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter,
to tell you good-bye and everything. But I already
knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom?
God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to
write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name
of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to
you. God said for me to give you the answer to one
of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He when I
needed him?' "God said He was in the same place with
me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was
right there, as He always is with all His children.

Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've
written except you. To everyone else this is just a
blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool? I have to
give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some
more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit
at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm, sure the
food will be great.

Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt
anymore. The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I
couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't
stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He
send The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel
said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?
Signed with Love from: God, Jesus &Me.

That is really beautiful and yes,bring on the tissues,but its not the bad tears ,the good kind.Thank-you.

Another beautiful one Jo sent.

Turn the sound on.

YouTube - Amazing Hand Shadow show by Raymond Crowe (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KW-3KwXpkkM)

YouTube - Lion Cub Reunion (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTn0QthkvY8)

Again, sound on.

Had to spread the love but that story was great Alty.


Artsy glad you liked the story I posted.

Great story, friend. Made me cry and you know you never see me in the "religious" section.

Oh and the hand puppets!!

Alty sent me these in an e-mail last night, they were sent to her by Starby..

They are beautiful and she wanted to share them but couldn't get the pics out of the e-mail haha

Only 5 attachements at a time pffffft!

That last one is my favorite!!

Dear Starbuck8, a.k.a. Starby and Jo,

YOU will never be forgotten...

When I called upon you so many times to help others, you were there as soon as you could be. You did so without failing to do so. You gave so many words of wisdom that were of so much help to others...

Your words meant so much to so many.. You were so loving and kind.. The influence on the lives that you touched with the way that you treated them and the loving-kindness that you showed toward them will go on forever!

You were part of a special group of people here. All of us are special, but there are always those who will seek out those who are like themselves and form a special bond... It was very much like a family with you here! I very much enjoyed speaking with you on the phone and communicating with you in other ways...

You were very courageous in the physical battle that you fought...

Now, we have lost a member of our family... We all are grieving...

I and We miss you Starby! But, I know, that someday, WE WILL meet again!

Much LOVE to YOU and YOURS, JO!

See you, later! :)

Craig

That was beautiful Clough, very well said.

Here is another email from Starby to Alty...

You have to download the file (it's a powerpoint presentation) but it is well worth it!!

Thesimplelife.pps (http://www.mediafire.com/download.php?jtknn03wzqt)

Click on the link and then click the click here to dowload on that page :)

I second Shazzy on that Clough, very well said. :)

Thanks Shazzy. I appreciate it. :)

Ah Shazzy, I just got the powerpoint downloaded. I was full of wonderful pictures! :) Thanks!

I'm sending the card to her family tomorrow.

Still time for anyone that wants me to include a message.

You guys are all just so sweet! BIG BIG HUGS to my kiddo's! I will get back on again ASAP for sure! That us waaaaayyyyyyy toooooo long not to talk to you Starty girl. Big Snugwy KP and... well you guys know who loves you! I will keep you updated, and try and fill you all in next time, and I hope it's not rushed. Lub Lub Lub you guys big time! Got to go... time is up! Ttys Be good!


PG 26, post number 253...

I hope no one gets mad at me for this or thinks that I'm morbid or something, and who knows someone may have already posted this... but this was her last post.

PG 26, post number 253...

i hope no one gets mad at me for this or thinks that im morbid or something, and who knows someone may have already posted this... but this was her last post.

On which thread Jenni?

On the 'our poor starby' thread M

Omg I'm so sorry. I didn't even give you the link!

Its on 'our poor starby'

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge/our-poor-starby-343423.html

Thanks bear :)

Best to do it like this Jenni , takes you straight to the Post :cool:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge/our-poor-starby-343423-26.html#post1733834

Ahh thank you friend *hugs*

I remember that night. I was so shocked to see her pop in. I knew she was still in hospital and had tried and failed to get a computer, so to see her online was shocking.

I also remember my last conversation with her. I broke down, burst into tears. She kept telling me she'd be okay, but I knew she wouldn't.

Miss her so much. She was an original.

I missed that night, saw the post the next day.
Sad that I missed her coming on here for the last time.

Still have a lot of good memories though.
Even though I did only know her for a few months she was still a good friend and made me feel very welcome here.

... She was an original.

Yes, she definitely was an original! I just loved the way that she would be so loving and helpful! She also knew, very well, how to give a person a more proper perspective on things. I'm sure that those of you who collaborated with her on this site a lot, know specifics as to what I mean by that last sentence! ;)

Thanks!

I'm really at a loss for words. I was so hoping she'd be the strong starby and pull through it all. I was dreading the day when we got the sad news... seeing the picture of her made the tears really come she looked so happy... Rest in peace starby and may the sun always warm the path at your feet

I just heard about Starbucks passing and sorry to hear but I glad she isn't suffering anymore. At least sh eis in a better place and made peace with her family. Also, it is good that she have so many people that cared about her. She might be gone but you will always find her in your heart or you can look up towards the sky. Btw, she was a pretty lady. RIP Starby!!

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/death-dying/think-ill-die-young-220976.html#post1064556

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/death-dying/think-ill-die-young-220976.html#post1064556

Wow! I never saw that post.

Wow! It's a bit creepy to see that post and know what we know now.

Just... Wow!

Wow that is eerie reading that now
BUT I do believe that because I have known a few people that said they weren't going to live past a certain age and they didn't.

I looked around and found a lot of Starby's posts.. here are some more;

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/psychics/dreaming-all-time-244653.html#post1190266

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge/random-acts-kindness-209699-2.html#post1129914

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-member-discussions/if-you-could-change-one-thing-about-yourself-181678.html#post870401

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-member-discussions/why-did-you-pick-screen-name-204884-2.html#post1312350

I looked around and found a lot of Starby's posts..here are some more;

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/psychics/dreaming-all-time-244653.html#post1190266

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge/random-acts-kindness-209699-2.html#post1129914

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-member-discussions/if-you-could-change-one-thing-about-yourself-181678.html#post870401

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-member-discussions/why-did-you-pick-screen-name-204884-2.html#post1312350

Thank you Firm.

Today is Starby's funeral.

Sadly I can't be there, no money to go, too much else on my plate and really, I'd rather meet her family under happier circumstances.

My thoughts are with her today and her family. I'm sure all of us are thinking of her.

Love and hugs to all.

Sadly I have to get ready for my interview.

Too much today. Way too much. :(

She is already at peace and watching down on us...

Hugs Alty. The funeral of a beloved one is the 'final stage' in some way. And yes Stringer, I believe our dear ducky is up there, watching :)

You have her funeral in your heart alty... and that means just as much to her as if you could have been there. *hugs* she understands. Don't let it get you down more than you already are.

Its taken me days to put my head in here guess I didn't want to admit the trueth and except the news.
Im with you guys in spirit every day just real life is so dam busy I find it hard to look after anything other than my family and myself.
Starby was special there is very little doubt about that she never failed to make me smile when I get round to it ill share some of our conversations from Facebook they were always kind of silly and out there but that's the way we liked it.
Hugs to you all be greatfull for what you have and savor each day and remember to tell those that matter the most you love them.

Its taken me days to put my head in here guess i didnt want to admit the trueth and except the news.
Im with you guys in spirit every day just real life is so dam busy i find it hard to look after anything other than my family and myself.
Starby was special there is very little doubt about that she never failed to make me smile when i get round to it ill share some of our conversations from facebook they were always kinda silly and out there but thats the way we liked it.
Hugs to you all be greatfull for what you have and savor each day and remember to tell those that matter the most you love them.

"Hugs to you all be greatfull for what you have and savor each day and remember to tell those that matter the most you love them."

Yes, very true.

Its taken me days to put my head in here guess i didnt want to admit the trueth and except the news.
Im with you guys in spirit every day just real life is so dam busy i find it hard to look after anything other than my family and myself.
Starby was special there is very little doubt about that she never failed to make me smile when i get round to it ill share some of our conversations from facebook they were always kinda silly and out there but thats the way we liked it.
Hugs to you all be greatfull for what you have and savor each day and remember to tell those that matter the most you love them.

You my dear are one special lady!

Love that you came and posted. Love you for all you do. Miss you, but understand.

Now I'm crying. Darn lady! ;)

You my dear are one special lady!

Love that you came and posted. Love you for all you do. Miss you, but understand.

Now I'm crying. Darn lady! ;)

Haha you great silly I told you the other day no darn tears ;) xx

Hello CBW! Glad to see you here! :) You perhaps don't know much about me, but I've seen quite a few of your posts. I also remember a thread about favourite chocolates,, :p

And thank you for the kind words :)

Life is eternal, and love is immortal,
and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

~Rossiter Worthington Raymond

Much, much love, Alty girl.

Hi Starby.

I recently started talking to you a little before you went to the hospital. You and I would send eachother's PM's and we were just getting started on getting to know one another. In those few weeks I got to know a funny, witty girl and just knowing you for those few weeks helped me when I needed a friend at that point in time. I'm saddened that I won't get to know you even more as others have but I'm glad that I still got to know even a little of you.

You will live on through AMHD.

Thanks Starby.. for being there.

Sarah

Hi Starby.

I recently started talking to you a little before you went to the hospital. You and I would send eachother's PM's and we were just getting started on getting to know one another. In those few weeks I got to know a funny, witty girl and just knowing you for those few weeks helped me when I needed a friend at that point in time. I'm saddened that I won't get to know you even more as others have but I'm glad that I still got to know even a little of you.

You will live on through AMHD.

Thanks Starby.. for being there.

Sarah

A very nice thing that you wrote Muddy. :)

haha you great silly i told you the other day no darn tears ;) xx

I didn't get a notification for this! :(

I can't believe I missed it.

Now I'm bawling. :(

I'm not really supposed to be posting here. But I REALLY wanted to share this song with everyone, especially those of you who knew and loved her.

Sorry if this song has been posted already. I just heard it on the radio and it made me cry.
It's a christian song.

YouTube - Alan Jackson - Sissy's Song (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8sWwFIFlK8)

im not really supposed to be posting here. but i REALLY wanted to share this song with everyone, especially those of you who knew and loved her.

sorry if this song has been posted already. i just heared it on the radio and it made me cry.
its a christian song.

YouTube - Alan Jackson - Sissy's Song (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8sWwFIFlK8)

Jennie, we love you, and that was just beautiful hon, thank you for listing it.:)

Jennie, posting here is not an issue, never was. All posts are welcome.

Mmm I was recently told that me posting here (and my previous siggy with the poem I wrote for starby) was disrespectfull and hurtfull because I didn't know starby. So I just, didn't want to cause any problems.

*hugs to everyone*

mmm i was recently told that me posting here (and my previous siggy with the poem i wrote for starby) was disrespectfull and hurtfull because i didnt know starby. so i just, didnt want to cause any problems.

*hugs to everyone*

Pretending that you knew her, posting a signature saying you'll miss her when you arrived long after she was already off line, stating that you had dreams about her, yes, that was hurtful.

Posting a song for the people grieving the loss of a friend, that's not at all hurtful.

I don't wish to go over this here, if you want to talk about it I'm more then willing to in another thread, but this thread is for Starby, so that's the last time I'll mention it here.

I really can't believe this I haven't been on for an age... I'm so sorry to everyone that knew her well, I only knew her briefly... normally through rants on here about bad spelling and text speak LOL but she had a big heart, that was for sure.


Rest In Peace, Starby.

I just joined AMHD a few hours ago, and have already received several really nice replies in my 'Hello' thread. Before answering any of those, I couldn't help but click Altenweg's link to here, to find out about this special person known as 'Starby.' I've read some of the beautiful things in this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures, the most beautiful of which I consider to be the one of this fine lady herself. From what people have said here, I feel I know her just a little, now, and I am sure that I would have enjoyed her friendship, and would have missed her as much as everybody here does.

I personally believe we can salute someone without having known them personally, by acknowledging the testimony of those who grieve for them. So, I hope I am not being disrespectful in wishing to do that here - and in so doing, sharing your grief at the sad loss of someone I never knew, but now wish I had.

I just joined AMHD a few hours ago, and have already received several really nice replies in my 'Hello' thread. Before answering any of those, I couldn't help but click Altenweg's link to here, to find out about this special person known as 'Starby.' I've read some of the beautiful things in this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures, the most beautiful of which I consider to be the one of this fine lady herself. From what people have said here, I feel I know her just a little, now, and I am sure that I would have enjoyed her friendship, and would have missed her as much as everybody here does.

I personally believe we can salute someone without having known them personally, by acknowledgeing the testimony of those who grieve for them. So, I hope I am not being disrespectful in wishing to do that here - and in so doing, sharing your grief at the sad loss of someone I never knew, but now wish I had.

Thank you for posting.

Starby was a wonderful member of this site. Her full username was Starbuck8, if you want you can find some of her posts.

She was an amazing person. It's still shocking to realize that she's gone, she had so much life, so much spunk, and she will forever be missed.

Thank you, Altenweg. Later, I shall look at some of her posts - and thus share some of her legacy to us, if I may.

I just joined AMHD a few hours ago, and have already received several really nice replies in my 'Hello' thread. Before answering any of those, I couldn't help but click Altenweg's link to here, to find out about this special person known as 'Starby.' I've read some of the beautiful things in this thread, and enjoyed the beautiful pictures, the most beautiful of which I consider to be the one of this fine lady herself. From what people have said here, I feel I know her just a little, now, and I am sure that I would have enjoyed her friendship, and would have missed her as much as everybody here does.

I personally believe we can salute someone without having known them personally, by acknowledgeing the testimony of those who grieve for them. So, I hope I am not being disrespectful in wishing to do that here - and in so doing, sharing your grief at the sad loss of someone I never knew, but now wish I had.

And the tears flow again! Thank you Bill for such a beautiful testimony of how one person can get to know another without so much as reading about them.

I really hope you enjoy your time here... We are family. I hope to see you around more.

You're very kind, J_9, thank you. I'm sorry if I made you cry, though.

You're very kind, J_9, thank you. I'm sorry if I made you cry, though.

It's a good cry Bill. As a nurse, I cry more often than you think. Starby is at peace... That's what's important.

I was fortunate enough to know her. I am proud that she was my friend.

I also think that others will or have come to know her through her posts, through her history here.

- So I'm sort of walking the middle road. I do believe people can mourn the loss of her wisdom and her heart without actually personally knowing her.

(And I know, Alty, that this is so hard for you because I think you were her best friend here. My tears are for her and also for your loss - and mine.)

Although as I have said, I did know Starby, but not as well as some of you here.
I had only been talking to her for maybe a month before everything went down hill. I wish I could have gotten to know her better, from our brief chats to the high praise she has been given by others she truly sounds like someone that cares about others.

I know it may sound strange but sometimes it feels like I know some of my friends on here better than I know my ones in "real life"
If I have a question or a worry, I can always count on the good people here to answer or comfort me (or get me into line like Starby did :rolleyes:)
In real life, if I have a problem, my friends would just go "well... that's life"

When something like this happens it really brings into perspective your relationships with people.

FWIW, Shaz, I was very skeptical about these online forums 3 years ago, when I first ventured into them. I have since been amazed at the depth of the relationships we have within them. When all we have is words, then perhaps we take more time, give more thought, and make a special effort, to express ourselves. Before we know it, we are baring our very souls.

When we do this, and we have no secrets to hide, it makes us very strong. BUT we must still protect ourselves - we are still not invincible.

I just came upon this post. Oh my :( where to start. Well when I first came on this site it was so I could talk to someone. Starby was the first to care, the first to make me feel like I knew her even though I had never met her. She knew a lot about dogs, and helped with every question I had about my husky.

But a big thing she did was understand and ''listen'' to what I had to say, she was one of the first people I could talk to. I would talk to her about my mom's illness and she seemed to understand, having to also fight an illness.

She was a great person and always gave great advice.

**You will not be forgotten Starby. You've helped me more then you know. And I wish I could have returned all the good advice you've given me. Once again Thanks.

Well, I stumbled into this site for the first time just last night, and was drawn toward this lady 'Starby' for some reason. I don't wish to seem irreverent - and maybe I'm just being a bit 'dramatic' - but she had me in tears. From where she is now, I believe she has helped me face up to a big problem in my life which needed dealing with. I have a bad drinking habit, and I am now going to do something about it, before it's too late for me.

I have now started a thread in the Addictions section here, and received some good advice there. Thank you to those who have advised me, and - if I may - thank you to Starby for kicking my @$$ into here, and making me face up to this.

One of the reasons I finally decided to join AMHD instead of continuing to pester Cats by reading over his shoulder was to say that Starby touched me through reading what everyone had to say about her.

I am sorry that I didn't get to meet her, however, I feel fortunate that I can get to know her through all of her friends. Somehow, I can see years from now members telling the newcomers about the Legend of Starby.

friend4u178 agrees: She touched a lot of us Cat , glad you joined up :)

Where? Where did she touch you? :eek:

Where? Where did she touch you?! :eek:

Under my Franny pants :D

Under my Franny pants :D

I thought you only let me touch you there. :(

I thought you only let me touch you there. :(

Not while you got that carrot :cool:

Not while you got that carrot :cool:

Are you asking me to go back to my old avy?

You liked her, didn't you? ;)

Are you asking me to go back to my old avy?

You liked her, didn't you? ;)


Your choice but yeah I liked Keira ;)

Mind you then I couldn't tease you about the carrot up your clacker :D

I wanted to post something that was sent to me when my Mom passed a couple years ago and I fell it applies to Jo also:

Death is nothing at all; I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am still I, and you are still you; whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name; speak to me in the easy manner which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone; do not wear a forced air of sorrow or solemnity.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play... smile... think of me; play for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort; without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.

-Henry Scott Holland

Thanks, I loved this also, but I am sorry if I brought the mood down, that wasn't my intention. For Starby.

EDIT: Wow, I guess that I did...

Stringer

SOZ. I was away. I have to go out now, but FWIW, I always thought that poem lifted the spirits of those left behind. A reassurance that death is just a door - no more. I never see it as a bring-doewn, Stringer.

CUL8R.

SOZ. I was away. I have to go out now, but FWIW, I always thought that poem lifted the spirits of those left behind. A reassurance that death is just a door - no more. I never see it as a bring-doewn, Stringer.

CUL8R.

Thanks Bill.

You certainly didn't bring the mood down in my opinion stringer.

Besides we were just foolin' around like normal and it was a bit off topic... BUT that's just how starby would want it ;)

You certainly didn't bring the mood down in my opinion stringer.

Besides we were just foolin' around like normal and it was a bit off topic......................BUT thats just how starby would want it ;)

Thanks for coming back M.

No, Alty that wasn't my intention at all hon, seriously. That was what I was afraid of...

Got to go, tomorrow.

No, Alty that wasn't my intention at all hon, seriously. That was what I was afraid of....

Got to go, tomorrow.

Oh goodness. Stringer, I was kidding. Also, the greenie to M was to say that we should take the "carrot" talk to a room where we can talk about carrots in arses. Not because of your post. Not at all. I posted the greenie to M before you even posted sweetie.

I had to go put the kids to bed, that's why I left. Never because of you. You could never
Ever ever do anything that would make me leave. Okay?

::singing::

Shiny Happy people... :)


Haven't seen you over here yet Alty ;)

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/humor-comedy/one-those-hate-job-days-392444.html

::singing::

Shiny Happy people................... :)


Haven't seen you over here yet Alty ;)

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/humor-comedy/one-those-hate-job-days-392444.html

Holding hands. :)

I saw it, printed it out, read it to Wiggy, he took it to work.

I'm so glad I don't work in the thermometer quality control department at Johnson &
Johnson. :p

Miss Me, But Let Me Go
Author Unknown

When I come to the end of the road,
And the sun has set for me.
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little—but not too long,
And not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that was once shared.
Miss me, but let me go.

For this is a journey we all must take, and each must go alone.
It’s all a part of the master’s plan, a step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart, go to the friends we know.
Bear your sorrow in good deeds. Miss me, but let me go.

Oh goodness. Stringer, I was kidding. Also, the greenie to M was to say that we should take the "carrot" talk to a room where we can talk about carrots in arses. Not because of your post. Not at all. I posted the greenie to M before you even posted sweetie.

I had to go put the kids to bed, that's why I left. Never because of you. You could never
ever ever do anything that would make me leave. Okay?

I misunderstood and I am sorry for that, honestly. :)

Dear Starbucks,

I don't know what to say- I have not been on this forum for a while. This evening I went on your FB wall as I have not heard from you for a while and so I went on your wall to leave a message and I realised that you have sadly passed away.

I don't know what to say and so I logged on here hoping I got it all wrong and then I found this thread- I am lost for words and v shocked.

I wanted to say thank you for everything you have done- your kind words, wisdom and support- I have only known you for a short while, nevertheless I cheerish our friendship v much. You will be missed v much by many people - that is for sure. I hope you rest well in heaven. Take care Zeeniee xx

I was listening to my I-pod in the dark the other night (yeah, I'm weird but it's just one of my 'things' I do)

This song started playing and it just randomly made me think about Starby... I don't know why I am sharing but I just have always loved the song and now I see it differently...

YouTube - Linkin Park- Shadow of The Day ( Lyrics) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8H7ZwDawsb4)

Shaz, thanks for sharing. I hadn't heard that song in a long while.

Sometimes, it strikes me, too, how much our own feelings and experiences impact the meanings we get from from music.

I'd have given you a greenie, but the mean machine told me I had to "spread the rep". I hope Starby enjoys that happening to me for the first time on this thread. It somehow seems "right" that it happened here.

Thank you Cat, yes, it does seem 'right' :)

I have quite a few songs that I can't listen too much anymore, just because they now have a different meaning for me... whether it be a friend leaving or finishing high school, there are a lot of songs that have impacted my life, good and bad.

That one however, is now in my 'sad' playlist, for when I'm feeling a bit melancholy.

Hey Starbs... I was just thinking of you today, I heard this song. Love you sweet honey!:)

YouTube - Rascal Flatts Why Lyrics (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcbQlD7UKyY)

I am so deeply sorry to all of you. I just read all the threads tody. I am so heavy hearted and shocked. I love you all, bless you Alty and rest in sweet Peace Starby.

I am so sorry, just trying to find the words,and can't but my heart is with all of you and Starby's family. Love to all you... Always.

Hey, it's been a long time! :)

Is your 'baby' OK?

Hey, it's been a long time! :)

Is your 'baby' ok?

Hugs to you and have missed you all too so much. We can catch up later about the babies (they are doing well). Just walking around the house in a sad stupor at this news. My heart is with all of you.

Thanks! Well, I hope to be able to see you later! :)

I must go now...

Hugs to you and have missed you all too so much. We can catch up later about the babies (they are doing well). Just walking around the house in a sad stupor at this news. My heart is with all of you.

Allheart my love. Your typing finds me in tears. I have missed hearing your voice and seeing your words. I have been so worried about you. I miss you and I love you. I'm so elated to see you back here you have no idea.

Hi, Allheart!

Yes, you've definitely been missed around here!

Welcome back! :)

I am so deeply sorry to all of you. I just read all the threads tody. I am so heavy hearted and shocked. I love you all, bless you Alty and rest in sweet Peace Starby.

I am so sorry, just trying to find the words,and can't but my heart is with all of you and Starby's family. Love to all you...Always.

This is a gift.

Allheart, you are missed, more then I can say.

I would have contacted you, but I had no way to do so. I'm so sorry you had to find out this way.

Starby is in peace now, on that we all agree. It was a long hard road, but she reached the end and found the light.

Love you Allheart. Don't be a stranger. We all care about you and miss you.

Last night I got out all my reindeer making "stuff" and realized that exactly one year ago I was making reindeer for Jo. I actually printed out her PM to me about blanket colors!

Brings it all back again -

Last night I got out all my reindeer making "stuff" and realized that exactly one year ago I was making reindeer for Jo. I actually printed out her PM to me about blanket colors!

Brings it all back again -

It's going to be a tough Xmas, especially for her family.

Last year at this time I was trying to convince Jo to spend Xmas with my family. She was on the edge of agreeing, the only set back was Nicki, because Jo didn't want to drive and the Greyhound bus wouldn't take Nicki. Otherwise Jo and Nicki would have been with us.

It still haunts me. Maybe if she'd come I would have seen what was going on, I could have stopped it, she'd still be with us.

That's right, I still haven't forgiven myself. I know, I know. ;)

Jo didn't want to drive Alty hun, just think what might have happened if Jo did drive.

Alty hun, just think what might have happened if Jo did drive.

Thanks J. My head knows, my heart doesn't.

I still think that there had to be something I could have done. I know it's not logical, nor does it serve a purpose, she's gone, can't change that, but... well, you know.

Heck, I still beat myself up that I didn't push the doctors harder to diagnose my dad when we finally noticed he was sick. It still would have been too late, but in my typical Alty mind I feel like I could have saved him.

Theses thoughts serve no purpose, but they're there nonetheless. :(

Thanks J. My head knows, my heart doesn't.

I still think that there had to be something I could have done. I know it's not logical, nor does it serve a purpose, she's gone, can't change that, but.... well, you know.

Heck, I still beat myself up that I didn't push the doctors harder to diagnose my dad when we finally noticed he was sick. It still would have been too late, but in my typical Alty mind I feel like I could have saved him.

Theses thoughts serve no purpose, but they're there nonetheless. :(

Mother to the World, huh? IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT !!! Is that loud enough? Do we all need to shout? Hurt all you want, that's healthy, but you will not guilt trip yourself if we can do anything to stop you.

Alty, life is full of would haves, should haves, if only's.

Guilt, particularly when it's undeserved, serves no purpose.

Sadly enough, Jo was out of time.

{{{ hugs }}}

This is a gift.

Allheart, you are missed, more then I can say.

I would have contacted you, but I had no way to do so. I'm so sorry you had to find out this way.

Starby is in peace now, on that we all agree. It was a long hard road, but she reached the end and found the light.

Love you Allheart. Don't be a stranger. We all care about you and miss you.

Alty... I wish I could give you a hug because I just can't find the words to let you know how much I love you... I love you Alty... always.

I have some bad news.

I can't believe it. I'm in shock.

I just got an email from Jo's Aunt. Jo's brother Rob passed away yesterday of a heart attack.

Jo's brother is my age. Actually I think he's a bit younger. He has a young daughter, a wife and step kids.

Will this family never get a break? Two kids gone in a year. It's too much.

Had to share this. I'm shocked!

So sorry to hear that-it seems sometimes life is not fair. Hugs and light to you.

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Was Starby a member of this forum?

Yes.