Well I have been dating this boy for 7- 8 months and its went really good we vacationed a lot and spend probably all our time together, sleep overs every night etc. well just last week I lost it and told him I needed a break because he has a little control issue and I told him he needs to work on it and work on respecting me more. So he said okay.. well the whole week I stayed home and did nothing just waited for him,while he was out with friends have the time of his life, he would accuse me of seeing other guys and talking to them and stuff but I never did and I knew he was that's why he was accusing me of it, so on about Wednesday he finally told me the truth that he has been talking to other girls and hanging out with them as well and after that he said we should just be friends , but while he was aying that he kept saying how much he loves me and he wants to be with me but its better were friends... so a few hours later he calls me saying he wants to work things out and what not, and I told him no cause I was really upset with him so that morning I went to his house to get my stuff that was there and then I left.. well probably about 5 times that day he went from I love you I want to be with you and work things out to I think its best we just stay single and be friends... and right now he is on the whole I want to be with you faze so I don't know what to think.. I just want to know what it means when guys are indesisve like that.:confused:

Hello loveishard

If that's you in the picture on your avatar, you're very attractive and I'm sure you won't have any trouble finding a different man. This different man I'm talking about should be "normal", and not be changing his mind, freeloading by flopping at your place, love you with all his heart, respect your wishes, and most importantly spend all his time with just one woman, you, not any other women like this guy your seeing now.

They're out there, and I wish you luck finding one.

Never accept anything less than what you feel like you deserve.

First of all he is not indecisive because he DID tell you he wants his freedom and that is what he has been acting on.
The whole ''he went from I love you I want to be with you and work things out to I think its best we just stay single and be friends... '' thing is he probably wants his cake and eat it too.
He is not ready for committing to a relationship and he knows it but he is lingering because he knows it won't be the same without you.

He is not ready to settle and he is only holding things up with the flip flopping.
It takes two to make a relationship work and he would rather play

He is too immature to stay committed to a relationship.

Enough said.

My girlfreind is extremely idecisive, to the bajilionth level, and it took a long time to finally get her to make up her mind for a change, and when it came to a roughpatch in our relationship, where she had to choose me or being alone, I gave her time and space and she took me back