I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and he does not want to have sex with me anymore! When we first started dating we had sex all the time, but usually only before bed or an occasional quickie. In my previous relationship, I would do it in the AM or PM, I really am happy and ready to do it whenever. I constantly let him know how this is hurting myself esteem, how it makes me think he is cheating on me, how it hurts our relationship and how I cannot continue in a relationship with someone who cannot be physical with me. It has been 2 months since the last time he even touched me.

I am attractive and other men I know always make advances at me and ask me when I am going to be single so they can date me. It is becoming very tempting lately because I do have desires and needs that are becoming hard to please myself. I just don't understand what the problem is. He has a great steady job as a plumber which does not add too much stress in his life, he enjoys it greatly. My biggest fear is that he is not attractive to me. He used to date rail thin blondes.. I am curvy and have dark hair. It is just hurting our whole relationship and we have already started a life together. We live together and have accumulated a lot of stuff together over the past 2 yrs. We also just got a puppy, so splitting up is the last thing I want to do, but it might be something I need to do :confused:

Well, why does he not want sex?
Until you ask, you will never know. I suggest you ask him, as you need to know. Don't just break up with him without knowing all the facts.

Until then, buy yourself a vibrator and please yourself when he can't do it.

I constantly let him know how this is hurting myself esteem, how it makes me think he is cheating on me, how it hurts our relationship and how I cannot continue in a relationship with someone who cannot be physical with me. It has been 2 months since the last time he even touched me.

I suggest that you talk to him, he's never going to get a hard on with you nagging him all the time. He's a guy for heaven's sake - you can't just continue to threaten and demean him and then expect him to perform on demand.

Has nagging and threatening him worked? Clearly not, so you need to try something else.

Why don't you have a think about him and his needs for a start instead of your own - it's not all about your needs and he's obviously feeling belittled and emasculated.

Why don't you try making him feel as if he's worth something, as if you enjoy the sex that you have with him, as if he satisfies you? Try thinking about sex as an act of love instead of something which he does to satisfy your needs.

It sounds to me like you're breaking the poor guy's balls - I suggest that you talk to him really nicely about how you can both make your sexual relationship improve, and that if you care about him you be prepared to settle for less sex, but better quality. Oh, and get a vibrator for those times when you're feeling desperate.

Instead of asking for sex ,I would just get the ball rolling and seduce him.Buy a sexy teddy and just seduce him.Kiss him and play around a little and when he gets an erection,he should want to do something to relieve that.

I agree, try taking the initiative... and if that doesn't get results, then ask him because something is going on... mentally or physically.

But so we all know what are both your ages... this can be a factor in advice, or possible problems.

He is 24, I am 21... he was quite the wild child, where I was miss goody two shoes and I am just starting to break out of my shell a little.. for the past two months where we have not had sex I have not nagged him, not brought it up, and tried not to pressure him if he doesn't feel like it, and that obviously did not get me anywhere. I also gained a little weight (no more than 10 lbs) last summer due to steroids I had to take for a serious blood disorder I have. He was very supportive, but I still feel like he just isn't attracted to me. He has had a drug problem on and off, and I feel like that may contribute to it, but as far as I can remember, I am the one who has had to make the moves on him. AS far as the vibrator goes, we bought one together and played with it for a while, but it does not give me any pleasure by myself. It has been so long I can't even climax anymore. Its useless..

10 lbs is not a significant weight gain... you can see it on a short petite woman but the taller you are the less you would even notice.

His drug issues might very well be at the root. Some do depress libido and other body funtions. As young as he is, he really should get to a Dr. if only to discount any medical conditions first.

Stress and exhaustion can depress libido as well, if he has a job that he is in fear of losing it might be an explanation too.

Sadly I know what you are going through, and what I have to say may upset you...

When I finally asked my boyfriend why we weren't having sex anymore.. he told me he didn't want to be with me anymore and that was his way of disconnecting himself from me.
I have a friend who is going through the same thing, and she refuses to believe that this may actually be the case. Read any relationship article... and him not wanting to be with you is ALWAYS a huge possibility... hopefully this is not the case... but you just have to ask him...

I'm going to say this short and sweet... if you have told him about it and told him how it makes you feel (a guy doesn't need coercing to have sex trust me). Asking and telling him (over and over again) how you feel just makes it worse... stop yourself take a step back at the entire picture and judge for yourself what is going on...
Maybe try attracting him in a different way... sexy clothes... talking openly with him want you want to do to him... etc... (might change things)... but if not... look at the obvious... either he's gay or tired of you...
Sorry if this makes some people mad...
Good luck

Ps... the only other explanations I can think of is either he's on drugs (the kind that make you not want to do it) or has some secret fantasy life in his head (aka... one of those d&d guys)
It all comes down to that... there is something he either isn't telling you, or something that turns turns him on more...