Umm well I have never been on here before. I guess I am reaching out for straws here. My boyfriend / Fiancee/ sons father, died a month ago. I am having a really hard time with his death. I have cried. Had good days and bad, but I really don't think I have dealt with it. I have had many bad things happen to me, but this is the worst. On top of trying to grieve and not knowing how to, We were in the process of getting our sons name on the birth cirt when he passed. The only way so far I have found is a DNA test, which I cannot afford being a single mother of 2 now. Then I have missed two days of work now because I think I am getting depressed but I'm not sure how to pull myself out of it. So I guess the question would be, does anyone have any ideas on how to add his name and how do I get threw this for my kids and myself. Thanks for reading and any input would be great. :confused:

I want to send you my best wishes, I am sorry for your loss. I think that by allowing the bad days and embracing the good ones is all you can do in that regard. It's hard to lose some that you love. Counseling may not be an immediate solution but that or a grief group, some where that you are able to express the feelings that you have will help allow you to continue to be the strength your children need.

To address your question about the birth certificate; Do you have any documentation at all from the birth of the child, where the father signed anything at all... Recognition of parentage, anything signed at the hospital?

No I wish I did I do have the Obit that his mom wrot and his mom said she would write a letter for me if I need it

No I wish I did I do have the Obit that his mom wrot and his mom said she would write a letter for me if I need it


You will need DNA - a letter and the obit will not help you.

I am sorry for your great loss -