I want to be more appealing, I'm 14 and I'm not ugly but I'm not attractive either. I want to turn heads and be sought after but I have no idea how! I want to be able to go further than friends and to have enough confidence to not be shy around new people and places. I want to learn how I can become more sexy and attractive. And I want to show this one girl in perticular that I'm trying to be good enough. More of that later, I want to know what worked for other people and what everyone thinks makes someone truly confident and appealing.

Are you male or female? And I'm sorry, but NO 14 year old needs to be trying to be sexy. That's for adults and can make you a target that you don't want to be.

On another note, if you want to change your appearance it needs to be for you. No one else. These things are simple. But difficult to tell you unless we know your gender.

I'm male. Its just what girls my age look for :( and I obviously have the wrong crowd but I don't know how much it matters to me wanting to fit in.

If you hanging with the wrong crowd that's not going to get you ANYWHERE, with ladies, with studies, or with life. They can quickly take you where you don't need to go. Girls like confidence. If you are confident in who you are, what you can do, what you can offer, and how you present yourself then you're a catch! Small things can make someone notice you though, a haircut! Trust me, just got a haircut and people commented all day yesterday.

You need self confidence and to just be yourself and find the right kind of friends.

Nice to see you back Nalla!

Anyway, just have fun. Ignore girls for a year, it'll do you some good! Be yourself and you'll land yourself a good girl.

Your 14, have fun first before you start worrying about looks and being sexy. If you wanted to change your look to get girls to notice go get a hair cut, get a change of wardrobe, start branching out to new friends and have old and new friends! Like I said your 14 you don't want to worry about being sexy and about you looks at this time in your life, that is something you worry when you are way older. And just like the others said, be yourself, be self confident, don't try and be something you are not, and most important Have FUN! Those years of your life end so quickly. I just finished high school and I cannot believe how fast the time went by!

What do you consider sexy?

Here's what I find sexy in a guy.

Confidence.
Intelligence.
Integrity.
Responsible.
Kind.
Funny.

At 14 you're still figuring out who you are. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up, be sexy, get with the girls. You have time for that, right now, just be yourself, have fun, work on your confidence and see what happens.

Try being an a$$.
It seems to be the way everyone is going now a days.
Being nice gets you nowhere anymore.
Looking back now, I would have changed a lot of things and that being one of them.
I was shy and was way to nice.
Did I have a girlfriend at that age? NO. Did the guys who were always crappy to everyone and thought they were better than everyone have a girlfriend? YES.
Try changing you clothes style. Holister, Abercrombie, American Eagle, & Aeropostale seem to be the style around here. Go to your hair stylist and ask what the most popular hair style is and go with it.
Try doing sports. I never had a girlfriend until I got into high school. Then I played 4 sports and let me tell you, it does raise your confidence and I had a new girlfriend every week, no joke.

So, Quit being the nice, shy guy and caring what others think. It really doesn't get you anywhere anymore. Except with adults, be sure to respect them.

The guys that act like a$$es may seem to get all the girls, but they don't keep them.

The nice guys may finish last, but they finish strong.

Every girl goes through the "bad boy" stage, it's part of growing up, has a lot to do with the movies we watch, the books we read, all about the rugged, handsome jerk that always gets the ladies. That's not real life, and it won't work for long.

I do agree with Adam, sadly being a jerk does seem to work, but I have to say, being a jerk just to get a girl, not cool.

Be yourself, the rest of you will catch up in time.

Yes, I agree with Alty there. Now I'm not saying to always be a jerk. I never was and I am still the nicest guy around if you ask around here. I am happy where I am but If you are wanting to get somewhere now, just look at the posts above and try some things out.

EDIT: I am not saying the nicest guy around here meaning the threads, because I am sure there are nicer people here but in my town.