Sorrento9
Aug 11, 2009, 05:38 AM
Ok, well, my boyfriend and I (only 8 months but it was lovely) have broken up. We actually broke up about three weeks ago originally, him saying he just didn't feel like we were right together. I did not contact him at all and four days later he started texting and calling, all day everyday whether I replied or not. So we met up for lunch and he said he wanted us to start dating each other again. Which we did. During this "dating period" he was lovely, exactly as we were together before. I never suggested doing anything because I was a little scared and wanted to see how things went, and he suggested seeing each other roughly three/four times every week.
But suddenly last Thursday he turned around and said "I'm not definitely sure we will get back together by the way, I think we have some deciding to do". I said that I had made it clear how I felt and therefore he was the one who had some deciding to do. After that, he didn't contact me for the rest of the day, so I called and asked what the matter was and he said "I just don't think I'm in love" and so its over. He is adamant that we remain friends and doesn't want to 'lose me' but he said this the last time and we ended up back dating. So I left it up to him to contact me, which he did on Friday and Saturday day.
We both had plans to go out on Saturday (seperately) and while I was out I got several messages from him (along the lines of "I'm sorry" "You are amazing and I am horrible" "I want to see you" and "night night my lovely xx"). Having ignored these, I get a phone call which I answered and I could hear a guy in the background saying "are you calling ______ (my name)? you've got it bad haven't you".
During this same night I bumped into his best friend, who proceeded to tell me how my ex loves me and still won't stop talking about me all the time (I didn't actually ask anything about my ex, he just volunteered the info).
Sunday he was texting me saying he wanted to get a chinese but would have too much to eat, so I suggested he ask his friend round and he ignored this suggestion and asked me to join him. When I said I'd already eaten, he asked me to come over and watch a film. Stupidly I said OK, went and watched a film and nothing happened. When the film was over I got my stuff together and he said "would you like to stay here?" I said no and left. And then I got a long message on my way home explaining he didn't mean anything by the staying, he meant just to sleep etc and that he'd had a lovely evening.
Once again I am very confused. Is this his way of being friends? Or is there more to it? I'm heartbroken, but I really don't want to not speak to him. What should I do?
But suddenly last Thursday he turned around and said "I'm not definitely sure we will get back together by the way, I think we have some deciding to do". I said that I had made it clear how I felt and therefore he was the one who had some deciding to do. After that, he didn't contact me for the rest of the day, so I called and asked what the matter was and he said "I just don't think I'm in love" and so its over. He is adamant that we remain friends and doesn't want to 'lose me' but he said this the last time and we ended up back dating. So I left it up to him to contact me, which he did on Friday and Saturday day.
We both had plans to go out on Saturday (seperately) and while I was out I got several messages from him (along the lines of "I'm sorry" "You are amazing and I am horrible" "I want to see you" and "night night my lovely xx"). Having ignored these, I get a phone call which I answered and I could hear a guy in the background saying "are you calling ______ (my name)? you've got it bad haven't you".
During this same night I bumped into his best friend, who proceeded to tell me how my ex loves me and still won't stop talking about me all the time (I didn't actually ask anything about my ex, he just volunteered the info).
Sunday he was texting me saying he wanted to get a chinese but would have too much to eat, so I suggested he ask his friend round and he ignored this suggestion and asked me to join him. When I said I'd already eaten, he asked me to come over and watch a film. Stupidly I said OK, went and watched a film and nothing happened. When the film was over I got my stuff together and he said "would you like to stay here?" I said no and left. And then I got a long message on my way home explaining he didn't mean anything by the staying, he meant just to sleep etc and that he'd had a lovely evening.
Once again I am very confused. Is this his way of being friends? Or is there more to it? I'm heartbroken, but I really don't want to not speak to him. What should I do?