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Clueless_Guy
Aug 10, 2009, 04:20 PM
Well okay here it goes... my relationship was really rocky with her because of people who hated us being together, we loved each other so much but we broke up time and time again after coming back we tried a lot to just be friends but it didn't work out 2 months of no contact and she calls up all of a sudden and were talking again every time we met up we kept getting closer and closer. We both knew it and I asked her as to where this is going she said she wanted to be just friends and I told her I still had feelings for her and she said the same but nothing came out of it so we stopped talking for a few weeks then she decides to start texting me again and now were back on the same horse; we started talking every night for the past week and we've met up consequtively for 2 days the 1st was awesome she started feeling for me again thinking of ending up with me and getting married etc... well last night we met up again and we spoke as ususal and she wanted me to hug her which is okay with me. She texted me later that night saying that she felt something only to find out it wasn't her but she thought it was me and she was so right about it I do still love her a lot and I avoided it but she kept talking about that she felt something so I told her I want to take each day as it comes, "i dont want to make any wrong moves". Im not the type of guy anymore to play around so don't get me wrong and she knows that as well yet she started saying that if she wanted anything physical she could get any guy she wanted as well and said that from this day forward she wouldn't even come close to me. I cleared it out right there and then that I didn't have any of those intentions I meant that I didn't want to ruin our friendship (as I know later on it is going to be the key that will get us back together) after a bit of this she realized how stupid she was and now she says that she likes me because I'm not like every other guy as I always respected her and never took advantage of her body even when we were dating and she also added that she likes me... well I have no clue as to what to do right now she still wants to be friends and I'm kind of annoyed and hurt by her statements... Is there any possible way that I could get her back as my girlfriend ? Im in love with her...


- Clueless_Guy

liz28
Aug 10, 2009, 04:38 PM
Stay off this rollercoaster ride your having with her. What is the sense of being on today but off tomorrow?

You tried to make this relationship work how many times? But each time you end up with the same results--confused and heartbroken.

It's time to move on then to live off false hope. You can't make nor force someone to love or be with you. However, you can learn and grow from this.

Right now your not capable of being just friends with her because of your feelings for her. I mean could you really accept seeing her with someone else?

Again let go of the past, start healing, and accept it is over.

chuff
Aug 10, 2009, 08:04 PM
Well okay here it goes... my relationship was really rocky with her because of people who hated us being together, we loved each other so much but we broke up time and time again after coming back we tried a lot to just be friends but it didn't work out 2 months of no contact and she calls up all of a sudden and were talking again everytime we met up we kept getting closer and closer.

After reading that and basically seeing a the pattern I quit reading. She doesn't love you, she loves toying with you. SHe also loves always having you there in case she needs someone. The only person who can stop is, the same one who has let it go on so long. That would be you. Just stop talking to her because the pattern of behavior will continue for as long as you allow it.