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divvs
Aug 10, 2009, 10:20 AM
I have been staying with my parents for the last 7 years. My husband keeps travelling spends only 15 days a year and is not much bothered about the day to day happenings at all. He wants no responsibility and I have taken so many years to understand this attitude cannot be corrected. His work is absolute priority
My parents have now been telling me to get out whenever there is an argument. Now the arguments are more frequent and my 7 year old gets the brunt of it as I unleash my anger on him. I get very worked up after these arguments and has affected my health also badly.My anger levels have gone up and I scream
I am scared to do anything at home because I will be told that I can do nothing well.
I was working as a very senior professional but I quit last year as my erratic timing seemd to be affecting the kid and me and also the fact that there were constant arguments between my parents that my kid would observe and comment on it when I am back home.

Now my life is absolutely miserable because not one day goes without an argument or a hurting comment and I am constantly told how uselss I am.

If I move to another place I will have take absolute responsibility and set up thewhole place again for which I will get money from my husband and from the little I have saved.And I do not know how my kid will take it.

Will it be a good alternative for the kid or will he miss his grandparents. I will also have to start seriously looking at parttime options to sustain myself. Iwill have to not be able to depend on them if I move out.

What do you think is right. Please help. What should I do

N0help4u
Aug 10, 2009, 10:27 AM
Why hasn't your husband been providing enough income for you to live before this?

Yes you need to move out. Kids don't need grand parents everyday and sounds like they haven't been a good example. Your living there is too much tension because it is difficult for so many family members to be living under one roof. They told you to get out and that is probably the best thing you can do.