Hello I'm 15 years old and I was out with my friends the other week and had unprotected sex with a boy I'm scarred I'm pregnant because I am now 12 days late for my period. Please help me ! :(

Susan
There are a lot of things that you will hear when asking a question like this in a forum of this nature. Of course having unprotected sex can result in pregnancy, there are a lot of other things that can come out of it as well. I will ask you to do two things. Please speak to your mother, father, guardian or adult that you trust and tell them the truth. Go to the Dr. and get tested. First for pregnancy and second for sexual diseases. You're young and God willing have a very long life ahead of you. Please practice safe sex in the future, the life you save may be your own! Be blessed

I want to tell someone but what it makes them think of me different? Can I go to the doctors without my parents finding out?

I promise you that all parents have been where you are.
As a mother, I would be upset that you were too scared to come to me.
They will not think of you different, but it will only benefit you to have your parents involved, then you can be better educated to protect yourself and your body in the future.

How will I tell them ?

Personally, start with your mother.
Just open with telling her that you need to talk to her about something important.
Daddy's have a harder time with their baby girls growing up, so let Mom break it to him.
Do you have an older sister?

Yeah I do

If you are close, I would try her first, she could be a great ally in talking to your mother.

OK thanks il have a think about it.

Keep us posted.

The only thing you can do is take a pregnancy test or go to the doctors.
Then if you have the baby you need to file for child support against him.

How old was the boy?

well im 15 too and i am pregnant its not going to be hard you can do it we can shop online together you call me i call you we will have fun we can't think about the negitive side we know its a chance for bad things to happen but i just dont think about it if you want you cn call me ... my name is faith



Inappropriate to post phone number - and after reading other posts, hope Child Welfare is available to step in. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/daughter-extremely-vulgar-towards-me-382967-6.html#post1925725

Definitely not wise to post your phone number online Faith.

I'm sorry I was so upset with the mommy15 I failed to answer your question.
When you buy the pregnancy test,make sure you use first morning urine.
If you get up to pee at 4 than do it then.After you have slept for at least 5 or 6 hours.

Try to gage your urine stream and put the stick down mid stream.

I think you should be able to take a test tomorrow morning and you should get a result.

If there is anything I'm saying that you don't understand,let me know and I will try to help or the many people on here who are smart and kind will help.

There is always someone here to listen.

I know your scared,its scary but come back whenever you need a hand!

Good luck honey!

Thank you everyone. He was 17 and I told my sis and she got me a testing kit. I will do it tomorrow and let you know how it goes (:

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It's true I'm pregnant! I knew it! What am I going to do now? :(:(:(

it's true I'm pregant! I knew it! what am I going to do now? :(:(:(

That's up to you.

You're 15, can you afford to support a child?

Did you tell your parents? What do they think?

Have you looked at all your options? Adoption, abortion, and keeping the baby?

You have a lot of thinking to do because no matter what you decide it will affect you for the rest of your life.

Well you are going to have to tell your mom and tell her if you want to keep it and pray for the best.

OMG... best of wishes to you. You have a lot ahead of you. Keep your head about you right now and be honest with your mther, father or guardian. This is far too serious not to let them in on it right away. There are a lot of health reasons you need to deal with this in a mature, honest manner. Keep us posted on your success

I don't think I can tell them! They will kill me and my dad will want to know who the father is and prob hunt him down! :( :(

You don't tell them... what are you going to do in three -three and a half months from now?

Of course your going to tell or your sister might. Be honest. Keep it funky. If your mature enough to lay down with a boy and make a baby yoi are mature enough to talk about it. Be responsible either your going to keep it or your going to give it up... make healthy choices

I don't know. They don't even know I'm sexually active and they won't trust me again.

These things are things you should have thought of before hand.

Now you have to deal with the consequences. Trust is something you have to earn.

Did you take a pregnancy test?
Are you sure you are pregnant?
It can happen to miss a period and not be pregnant.

What about a teacher or councilor at school? Could you talk to someone like that and have them help you talk to your parents?

I don't know. they don't even know I'm sexually active and they wont trust me again.

They're going to know soon so better to tell them now.

If you decide to carry this baby to term then you need prenatal care, vitamins, doctors checkups, especially because of your age.

You can't be selfish now, you have to think of the baby you made.

Will they be mad, probably, but after they calm down I'm sure they'll do everything they can to help you. That's what being a parent is about, which you'll soon find out for yourself.

Yes I took a pregency test and also missed a period so I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant! Could I go to the docs myself and ask them if I'm defo pregnant without my mum and dad finding out?

No help4u she posted her results. She is pregnant. Your parents will trust you more if you come clean and be honest. I have a 15 year old and nothing would surprise me. You are human and nothing is impossible. They will be surprised, but they love you. Trust me on this one. t's best to get it out in the open. The rule in my house is tell me before someone else does or I find out on my own... its better that way. Blurt it out. They might surprise you

yes i took a pregency test and also missed a period so I'm pretty sure I'm pregant! Could I go to the docs myself and ask them if I'm defo pregant without my mum n dad finding out?

You could go to Planned Parenthood, they'll do a pregnancy test and give you some information.

Is there a pregnancy center in your area?

I don't think you can go to the doctors without your parents knowing Partly because you are a minor.

What state do you live in? I'll try and find a pregnancy center for you.

I live in northern Ireland. Has anyone ever experenced this before?

Exactly on the planned parenthood. It's going to be okay. Take small steps, but really you are asking your parents to trust you and they probably do. Do you trust them. Do you believe they love you? They will continue to love you. It's okay. Your going to make it through. If I found out after my 15 year old went through something so scray I would be disappointed that he/she didn't confide in me from the beginning. Take a second get your barrings, but speak to your parents.

Ps... we are not as ignorant as you think. We know when something is going on with our children, WE HAD YOU

no help4u she posted her results. she is pregnant.

I do not see where she posted any results

it's true I'm pregant! I knew it! what am I going to do now? :(:(:(Nohelp4u here you go

That is not a result
Results would be I took a hpt and it was positive.

A missed period isn't a result

Susan... I have been where you are and I made the mistakes that you are thinking of making and I am begging you not to do the same. The rest of your life iis long, God willing and you don't need to live with guilt or regret. Be honest. You really do need your mom right now. She will be there for you.

I live in northern Ireland. Has anyone ever experenced this before?

Experienced what? Pregnancy or being a pregnant teen?

We all make mistakes susan, none of us are perfect, that's a fact.

I got lucky as a teen, I did have sex but I never got pregnant. So no, I don't know how it feels to be 15 and pregnant.

I do have two kids though, and I can tell you this, even at the age of 27 (when I had my first) and married for 3 years, with a house, two incomes and everything else, I wasn't prepared for the hardship of being a mom.

I think that too many teens think it's going to be easy, because it will be their baby. It's not easy. Without a good support system you won't be able to do it.

That's why you need to tell your parents.

You still have time to decide what you want to do. There are options, adoption, abortion, or you can keep it, but you only have a short time to decide about abortion if that's what you want to do.

There's no reason why you have to pay for this with the rest of your life. If you do decide to carry this child, even if you decide to give it up for adoption, you need medical care.

Please, talk to your mom and dad, I know it's scary, it will be the scariest conversation you ever have, but you don't have a choice and I think that maybe, when all is said and done, you might be surprised at the support your parents will give you, once they get over the initial shock.

We're also here for you, but our resources are limited. We can talk to you, listen to you, but we can't physically help you, you need your parents right now.

Talk to them.

Ok thanks your really making this easier for me:).. I don't think I could go through an aborision I couldn't live with it. Should I tell both my parents at the same time or one at a time?

thank you everyone. he was 17 and i told my sis and she got me a testing kit. I will do it tomorrow and let you know how it goes (:

Nohelp4u you are seriously exhausting. Slow down on your posts and read up on what is happening. I am here to attempt to help the OP not defend my position to you. Seriously now

Ok thanks your really making this easier for me:) .. I don't think I could go through an aborision I couldn't live with it. Should I tell both my parents at the same time or one at a time?

Whatever situation you feel most comfortable with is what is best for you. Ifyou are closer to your mom then go to her. IF it's your Dad then go to him. If you don't want to do it alone ask your sister for her support. It's going to be okay.

Ok thanks your really making this easier for me:) .. I don't think I could go through an aborision I couldn't live with it. Should I tell both my parents at the same time or one at a time?

Sit them both down, tell them together. They'll need eachothers support too, after all, just like you, they're human, not just mom and dad. :)

Be calm, tell them, let them know that you're scared and don't know what to do.

They may be shocked at first, they may even be angry, but after that they'll be there for you, because that's what we do as parents.

They love you, they only want the best for you, they know how hard this is going to be that's why they may be upset and angry, but after all that, you're still their child.

We're here if you need to talk, but right now you need to talk to mom and dad.

Good luck Susan, don't be scared.

Well il see how I feel in the morning hopeflly il have the courrage to tell them. il talk later. x

Ok thanks your really making this easier for me:) .. I don't think I could go through an aborision I couldn't live with it. Should I tell both my parents at the same time or one at a time?

I have experience being a teen mom, I was 17 when I got pregnant with my son.
There isn't anything admirable about being a teenage mother.
Thankfully I only had one semester of high school left before I graduated, so I attended while pregnant.
It was a whole new change of direction for me.
No longer was college an option since my parents don't make a lot of money.
I think an open adoption is a very admirable choice.
I can not even begin to tell you what you have in store for you, but it isn't all rainbows and gumdrops.

Well il see how I feel in the morning hopeflly il have the courrage to tell them. il talk later. x

Keep us posted. The sooner you tell them the sooner this is off your plate, and really, you have a lot on your plate right now.

If you need to talk, we're here.

Take care of yourself.

I'd just like to say that open adoption is JUST as hard as parenting--but in different ways.

That's what I chose at 17, and I've never regretted it, though I've been sad for myself several times since then.

You need to do what is best for you, but also what is best for your baby (if you decide to carry to term).

Get your parents advice. Get counseling. Talk to other teen moms, to adoptive parents, to birthparents, to everyone---but YOU have to make your choice. YOU are the one that will have to live with that choice for the rest of your life--not your parents, not your friends, not your pastor, not your school counselor, not whoever. YOU.

We're here if you need to talk, but ultimately you have to make a very adult decision sometime in the next nine months.

No matter what decision she makes it's not going to be easy.

This is going to be mentally, physically and emotionally draining.

Synnen is right, ultimately the decision is yours and yours alone, and none of the options is going to be easy.

You do need support, but you also need to get the information available in order to decide what you're going to do.

Whatever you choose, we're here for you to talk to.

I told my mum she was kind of speechless and looked very disapointed. She said that she will book me a docs appoment just to be certain andshe doesn't know how to tell my dad because he will flip.. next step is prob letting some of my closest mates to know?

I told my mum she was kinda speechless and looked very disapointed. she said that she will book me a docs appoment just to be certain andshe doesn't know how to tell my dad coz he will flip.. next step is prob letting some of my closest mates to know?

You will need support, but don't expect that all of your mates will take to the information well. Some will be naïve to what you are going through.

I think you should be thinking about what your options are. You are going to have a difficult time this school year as I imagine you will be due in the second half of your school year. There are increased dangers to carrying a baby to term when your body is not developed into a woman's form.

You have a difficult and long road ahead of you. This isn't a situation that is going to be as pleasant as you are hoping. I really hope you research all of your options. There are pros and cons to all of them.

I definitely understand your mother's disappointment and I can just imagine how your father will react, my father blew up and couldn't look at me, whenever there was any happiness or excitement about the upcoming child, he would blow up all over again. I know he was just very disappointed. It changed my whole life, it changed my potential and changed everything I had ever hoped for or dreamed of.

I am not going to sugarcoat what you have ahead of you, but here is just a bit of my experience. I lived at home until my son was six months. The father left the picture, didn't pay his obligated support and I worked two jobs, 60-70 hours a week to try and live paycheck to paycheck. I received assistance for daycare expenses, but that is really just making taxpayers help pay for my ignorant behavior. Every night I would get home exhausted, feed my son and put him to bed, giving me all of maybe an hour with my child EVERYDAY. I lived off Ramen noodles, a cheap blah dish, but it was all I could afford. It was a step up when I could afford hot dogs for dinner. I couldn't date, I lost all of my friends because I had other obligations. My son didn't know or care who I was because he spent more time with everyone other than me between daycare and grandparents. I never got to bond with my son like I did with my following child when I was more stable to be a parent. This scenerio went on for the first four years until I lost my job because my son had ear infections so often that I was terminated for missing work. I then had to work second shift, find a new sitter, who in the end had a husband who was spanking my son. The situations continued on and to look back I regret my irresponsiblity to this day.

A teenage mother road is a very difficult road to traverse.

It is a hard road, no matter what you choose.

It sounds like your mother is taking charge, doing what she feels she must at this point, I'm glad she's giving you the support you need.

Just remember, no matter what, this is your body, your baby, your decision. Do not let anyone talk you into doing something you don't want.

Abortion or Adoption are always the first thought when you're a pregnant teen. It just seems the most logical choice, but it isn't as easy as all that. Both those choices are difficult at best. You need to research them, know what will happen. This isn't only physical, it's emotional.

Keeping the child seems like such a burden, and yes, it is going to be hard, there will be many times when you think that you can't handle it. You need to do research about this too.

You have three options, only three, but each option is difficult. There is no easy choice here, you can't just close your eyes and pick one, you have to be comfortable with what you choose.

I really can't begin to understand exactly what you're going through. Thankfully I've never been in this position, I can only imagine what you're dealing with right now.

There are many people on this site that have been where you are now. Some of them chose abortion, some adoption, others decided to keep their child. The best thing for you is to listen to all of them, but do your own research as well.

I'm babbling, sorry. I really wish I had a quick fix for you, but I don't. All I can offer is a sounding board, a shoulder, the rest is up to you.

I'm not one to tell you what choice to make. YOU have to live with it, YOU have to make it through the night when it's too silent, or too much crying, when your thoughts scream at you over and over, maddeningly.

I got pregnant at 16, gave birth at 17.

I chose adoption.

My reasons are my own--I suspect that every single woman who chooses adoption has several intertwined reasons for doing so.

It's not easy. 17 years later, it's STILL not easy. I STILL ache with "what ifs". I still cry when I get her pictures each year, even though I'm also so proud of her I could burst. I missed her first day of school, her first tooth, her first step, her first date. I missed the first time she laughed. I also missed all the times AFTER that---and that's what most people don't talk about. I missed her second day of school, and I missed when she walked out the door to school this morning. I missed her first play, and I missed her proudly showing off the props she's working on for her senior play. I missed dance recitals, soccer games, and screaming because there's a spider in her room.

I also GOT to go to college, and travel the country. I got to go to parties in college and take off for Montana to see Old Faithful just for the hell of it. I got to date without wondering how it would affect my child. I got to spend money on clothes for ME, and horrible shoes, and classy suits. I got to go to job interviews without worrying about a babysitter.

Best of all, I got to see my daughter grow up with TWO parents, in a stable comfortably-off home. I got to hear about piano lessons I wouldn't have been able to afford, and horseback camps, and dance classes and karate classes. I got to know that she was getting a GOOD upbringing, by parents who love her at least as much as I do, and to me that's priceless. She has had all the things I would NOT have been able to give her as a young teenage mother--including time and attention.

So--was it worth it? I don't know. I don't regret it--but god it HURTS sometimes. She's happy, and healthy, and she knows that the choice I made for her future, I made of love for her.

Society is NOT good to birthmothers. Regardless how noble everyone thinks it is, they also think there's something a little wrong with you, because THEY could never give their child away. You'll feel very alone, a lot of the time. What gets you through is knowing that your child is safe, happy, healthy, and loved.

Again--only YOU can make this decision. YOU need to talk to a counselor about it, in my opinion, someone who can explain ALL of your options, and go through the pros and cons of each with you.

Synn, I have to spread the rep and frankly, I don't think a little green dot is enough.

You are an amazing woman, the strength you have, the love you have, it's incredible.

I am proud to have you as a friend. I can't say it any better then that. :)

I've never been in this place,but I can see what dose it looks like . Good luck!

Hi,I'm 26.

I had a baby when I was 18 and my older sister had one when she was 16, so I have some experience in this field, lol. First of all, it's a possibility that you could be pregnant or have caught something but then again you may not have. Don't panic, tell your sister or a friend that you know you can trust. Get a pregnancy test from the chemist or supermarket and find out the truth before you tell anyone else. If you are pregnant, make an appointment with your doctor. If you are not pregnant, let this be a lesson learnt that the consequences from having sex at this young age is not worth the mental stress and worry. If you must do it again, use a condom.

If you are pregnant, it's not the end of the world, tell your mum, she might be a little upset, but she will help you a lot and in the end she will be a doting granny!

Don't keep putting it off, you need to know one way or the other and get the support you need if you need it. Xx

hi,i'm 26.

i had a baby when i was 18 and my older sister had one when she was 16, so i have some experience in this field, lol. First of all, it's a possibility that you could be pregnant or have caught something but then again you may not have. Don't panic, tell your sister or a friend that you know you can trust. Get a pregnancy test from the chemist or supermarket and find out the truth before you tell anyone else. If you are pregnant, make an appointment with your doctor. If you are not pregnant, let this be a lesson learnt that the consequences from having sex at this young age is not worth the mental stress and worry. If you must do it again, use a condom.

If you are pregnant, it's not the end of the world, tell your mum, she might be a little upset, but she will help you a lot and in the end she will be a doting granny!

Don't keep putting it off, you need to know one way or the other and get the support you need if you need it. xx

Please read all posts before responding.

The OP has already taken a pregnancy test and it's positive.

hi,i'm 26.

i had a baby when i was 18 and my older sister had one when she was 16, so i have some experience in this field, lol. First of all, it's a possibility that you could be pregnant or have caught something but then again you may not have. Don't panic, tell your sister or a friend that you know you can trust. Get a pregnancy test from the chemist or supermarket and find out the truth before you tell anyone else. If you are pregnant, make an appointment with your doctor. If you are not pregnant, let this be a lesson learnt that the consequences from having sex at this young age is not worth the mental stress and worry. If you must do it again, use a condom.

If you are pregnant, it's not the end of the world, tell your mum, she might be a little upset, but she will help you a lot and in the end she will be a doting granny!

Don't keep putting it off, you need to know one way or the other and get the support you need if you need it. xx

Did you actually take the time to read all the posts? Apparently not! She already found out she is pregnant.

Before answering questions please make sure to read ALL the posts.

How dare you criticise me for trying to help a young girl. I am new at this, and I didn't see any other answers to her plight. Don't be so petty, it's not helping anyone!

How dare you criticise me for trying to help a young girl. I am new at this, and I didn't see any other answers to her plight. Don't be so petty, it's not helping anyone!


It's not about trying to help. It's about reading the entire thread, seeing what the question/problem is and responding to it.

How was your answer helpful to the person who is pregnant?

Maybe in your family unwed pregnancies at 16 and 18 work out for the best for both mother and child - that is not the case in all families and you have to be sensitive to that.

And as far as your attitude - count the number of posts between J_9 and "Alty," both experts, and the number of times you've posted and you will see how far out of line you are.

1 word clinic or pregantcy test from drug storePlease check the dates of the post and read all posts in a thread prior to answering.

This thread was from August 2009 and the OP already found out she is pregnant. So a pregnancy test suggestion is too late.

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