Is it too soon to live together or get married or have a family or any of that?
Because my boyfriend and I want all of this very soon.
We are 20 and have been dating for almost a year.
We really love each other and want all of these things badly.
I could go on and on about how great he is and how amazing our relationship is, but I want. I just wonder is this too soon or is this the right thing for us to do?
Just any opinions?

Do one or both of you work ( full time). Or perhaps are you wealthy and don't have to work.

Do one or both of you have their own place.

I'm not sure, love can be blinding and overwhelming. I can tell you that it might be better to wait, get your schooling, get careers and plan for your financial security. However, I got married the first time when I was 21 and she was 20. Although it was great for some years it eventually ended in divorce, she cheated.

All I can tell you is think and take a long look at what you want to do. If you are going into this with love and clear heads (and that might be an oxymoron) then do what your hearts tell you...

Good luck to you, I would like to suggest that you might wait a couple/few years to have a child. It allows you to really have some special time together alone and you will be better prepared for having an additional member in your family

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This is difficult to answer since everyone's ready at a different age, but I would ask you both to consider- Are you done living a single's lifestyle? 20 and 21 is young, but some people find nothing glamorous or enjoyable about the single lifestyle and handle such an early marriage well (I personally know some examples) and other people only mourn having missed that period (I also know people like that).
The main question for both of you is- Do you have any goals that you can only do while you are single? If so, would you still have a satisfactory life if you did not complete these goals?
I believe answers would be easier with more information about the both of you.
Good luck.

If you both are talking about the future together, and want the same things in life, and HOW to get them, that's fine. But I just hope you have talked and planned things in a realistic way. What's the hurry, as marriage is a lifetime thing, and NO NEED to rush it. Feelings are intense after a year but the talking, and planning part is important. I mean really talking... and listening above all.

As long as you have a viable long term plan in place, then I don't see any problem.

The last thing you want is to rush things. If you really loved each that much, both of you would be willing to wait until both of you have settled your individual lives before taking the next step forward.

I understand what everyone is saying. Thanks for helping me.
We both talk a lot about our future together and love planing everyything.
So, we have a plan of him going to school and working. I am starting my own salon this month and we want to move in together soon too. Well in the next months to come.
We already desided to get engaged, not sure when that's up to him. He wants to Surprise me!
Then us get an apartment I think, we just don't want any family to think different of us if we move in together not married but we would rather wait a while longer to get married and figure all that out in the next year or so but really want to move in together this year.
Im perfectly fine with not being single anymore and having that life. Im so ready for a family, but I know not right away is good to wait a few more years.
Thanks for all your opinions.

I understand what everyone is saying. Thanks for helping me.
We both talk alot about our future together and love planing everyything.
So, we have a plan of him going to school and working. I am starting my own salon this month and we want to move in together soon too. well in the next months to come.
We already desided to get engaged, not sure when thats up to him. He wants to Suprise me!
Then us get an apartment i think, we jsut dont want any family to think different of us if we move in together not married but we would rather wait a while longer to get married and figure all that out in the next year or so but really want to move in together this year.
Im perfectly fine with not being single anymore and having that life. Im so ready for a family, but i know not right away is good to wait a few more years.
Thanks for all your opinions.

Just be thoughtful and go slow... plan. Good luck.

When I was 19 I was engaged to a wonderful guy for 2 years. We were going to wait until college was over to be married. Thankfully we waited because we both discovered that however much we loved each other we both wanted to go out and discover the world on our own for a while before settling down.

But, if you know what you want then you know what you want. I'd suggest waiting to make any big purchases (house, cars, etc), and hold off on having children until you have been married for a few years. Marriage itself is a huge change to get used to, and what's the rush? Children add to the complexity of your marriage, and they can make it wonderful, but they also put a huge strain on it - especially when you are a young parent. Plus if anythign were to happen to your marriage they make it even more complex in splitting up as you now have a 3rd person to be concerned about.

My roommate has been dating this guy for 4 months and they are already seriously talking about getting married and moving intogether - but then again they are both 35-36 years old, so they have a pretty good idea of what they are looking for. I think they are a little crazy as it is hard to get to know anyone well in such a short amount of time - or maybe I'm just bitter over having my own wonderful relationship end.

Everyone's situation is different - but just use your best judgement, and don't jump into anything. You have the rest of your life to enjoy - and you can always enjoy dating each other for a while.

The only advise I can give you is to follow your heart. If you have any doubts what so ever, do not go through with it.