fornow
Aug 9, 2009, 06:09 AM
I broke up with my ex in may. We lived abroad and he took another job in another country, where I can't work. He asked me to join him, but when I got there he was cold and seemed uninterested in finding an apartment together as we had agreed.
We had split up many times before due to his quick temper over trivial stuff. But he had always managed to talk me round, saying I was the love of his life. We were together 3 years.
I had to return to my home country after being away quite a few years. I am trying to rebuild my life but have no support net work as my nearest relatives are quite dysfunctional and the main reason why I left in the first place.
My ex contacted me a few weeks into our split to tell me he had met someone else?
He said the reason for his call was to check I was OK, but that he did not want me back?(he was contacting me and I never mentioned getting back)
I was hurt he had moved on so quickly but felt my insticts had been right and he had been nurturing a new relationship while I was out there.
He has contiued to text me about every 3 or 4 weeks, I have been short and polite or sometimes just ignoring his text.
Over the past few days he has called me and texted me saying he still cares for me??
We arranged a time to speak and he says he would like contact about once a week.
I have said if he is in a relationship then no, I have asked him if he is happy he is vague, but implies that he is not.
I said I would change my number to release us both. He says please don't and he won't contact me again. But he has said this before.
I am so lonely,I have some night classes organised for next month and a job to start next week.
But I hardley speak to anyone unless I go out to shop or for coffee, then its only shop assittants.
What does he want , is he using me to prop him up after rows with new girlfriend due to his anger? He used to do that with an ex when I was dating him.
How do I deal with this and stay strong? I was doing so well.
We had split up many times before due to his quick temper over trivial stuff. But he had always managed to talk me round, saying I was the love of his life. We were together 3 years.
I had to return to my home country after being away quite a few years. I am trying to rebuild my life but have no support net work as my nearest relatives are quite dysfunctional and the main reason why I left in the first place.
My ex contacted me a few weeks into our split to tell me he had met someone else?
He said the reason for his call was to check I was OK, but that he did not want me back?(he was contacting me and I never mentioned getting back)
I was hurt he had moved on so quickly but felt my insticts had been right and he had been nurturing a new relationship while I was out there.
He has contiued to text me about every 3 or 4 weeks, I have been short and polite or sometimes just ignoring his text.
Over the past few days he has called me and texted me saying he still cares for me??
We arranged a time to speak and he says he would like contact about once a week.
I have said if he is in a relationship then no, I have asked him if he is happy he is vague, but implies that he is not.
I said I would change my number to release us both. He says please don't and he won't contact me again. But he has said this before.
I am so lonely,I have some night classes organised for next month and a job to start next week.
But I hardley speak to anyone unless I go out to shop or for coffee, then its only shop assittants.
What does he want , is he using me to prop him up after rows with new girlfriend due to his anger? He used to do that with an ex when I was dating him.
How do I deal with this and stay strong? I was doing so well.