semestermum
Aug 7, 2009, 05:23 AM
I wonder if there is anyone out there who can help my daughter and our family.My daughter is 23 years old and has had epilepsy for the last twelve tears.It is the type that only affrects her on waking. Since the age of eleven she has usually picked people for friends that we did not like,children that swore spat and stole and were to our minds generally not very well behaved/nice. We did our best to introduce her to other kids that did not do these type of things,to no avail.
As she got older things did not improve,she started stealing,got caught and then stopped.By fifteen she was mixing with all the disillusioned children at school,the smokers,the ones that cheeked the teachers,the ones that bunked off school. By 16 she was taking drugs,running off into the night and having screaming fits if we restrained her.If we grounded her she would climb out of windows to get away.Short of locking her to the floor w could not contain her. At this point she was taking her medication regularly because I gave it to her.She left school with few qualifications and no idea what to do.She did get jobs but never lasted well in them as she regularly had fits and could not get into work.We would ask if she had had her medication and she would lie and say yes when she had not.
In the last year it has got worse.She is always in the hospital after having fits,she disappears for up to a week and we don't know where she is,she has told us she is now a drug dealer.We have approached her doctor saying she is at risk but because she is deemed an adult they will not do anything to help until she asks.
I am so worried that she will kill herself,several time she has fitted in an awkward place and her airway has been blocked and I have managed to get it clear.
My husband and I are at are wits end,we just do not have any exdperience of dealong/helping or coping with behaviour like this. Should we kick her out,go on trying to help or what? Everything we suggest she says no to.
She is now not working,not looking after herself,goes out in dirty clothes,does not wash regularly. Her friends are mostly drinkers and people that don't work.
She id a heavy drinker and when she comes home is usually drunk if it is in the evening.
Any constructive help would be very gratefully received.
I would be very pleased also to hear from others who have experienced this type of problem and how they got through it.
As she got older things did not improve,she started stealing,got caught and then stopped.By fifteen she was mixing with all the disillusioned children at school,the smokers,the ones that cheeked the teachers,the ones that bunked off school. By 16 she was taking drugs,running off into the night and having screaming fits if we restrained her.If we grounded her she would climb out of windows to get away.Short of locking her to the floor w could not contain her. At this point she was taking her medication regularly because I gave it to her.She left school with few qualifications and no idea what to do.She did get jobs but never lasted well in them as she regularly had fits and could not get into work.We would ask if she had had her medication and she would lie and say yes when she had not.
In the last year it has got worse.She is always in the hospital after having fits,she disappears for up to a week and we don't know where she is,she has told us she is now a drug dealer.We have approached her doctor saying she is at risk but because she is deemed an adult they will not do anything to help until she asks.
I am so worried that she will kill herself,several time she has fitted in an awkward place and her airway has been blocked and I have managed to get it clear.
My husband and I are at are wits end,we just do not have any exdperience of dealong/helping or coping with behaviour like this. Should we kick her out,go on trying to help or what? Everything we suggest she says no to.
She is now not working,not looking after herself,goes out in dirty clothes,does not wash regularly. Her friends are mostly drinkers and people that don't work.
She id a heavy drinker and when she comes home is usually drunk if it is in the evening.
Any constructive help would be very gratefully received.
I would be very pleased also to hear from others who have experienced this type of problem and how they got through it.