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UNabilidad
Aug 4, 2009, 08:56 PM
Hello,

I'm a home stay dad right now taking care of a 3 year old girl and a 2 year old boy... thier both great kid but there's only one thing that really pissed me off every time I put on a dress,t shirts.. anything...

Every time I pick the things to wear.. t-shirts or whatsoever, she always said.. NO DADDY, I DON"T LIKE IT!!!! but when i'm about to pick another pair of clothes..she then said..NO, I LIKE THE FIRST ONE!!! Everytime we go out is a big challenge for me because we always keep on arguing what to put on..because of what she always do..I LIKE IT...NO DON"T I LIKE IT!. is there anyone out there with the same problem I have?. How did you handle it?.

N0help4u
Aug 4, 2009, 08:58 PM
She is doing it because... she can
Tell her that if she keeps it up you will start just picking out what she will wear and not giving her a choice.
Or tell her that you may just not go anywhere if she is going to take too much time picking clothes

dontknownuthin
Aug 4, 2009, 10:07 PM
I would suggest you give her limited choices - let her chose between two items and you pick the rest of the outfit (for example, blue shirt or pink?. then you choose the jeans, socks, etc.). If she is combative about getting dressed, give her a time out. If she refuses to make a choice, make the choice for her and say, "too bad you didn't help Daddy by making a choice. Oh well, you can try again tomorrow." She may try to make a choice at that point and you need to say, "too late to choose for today, you can choose tomorrow".

Stick to your guns. Be calm but don't give in.

And to allow her the freedom to choose, give her some old clothes for dress up that she can play with during down time. She can practice making choices her own way through playing.

artlady
Aug 4, 2009, 10:18 PM
Adding to what has already been stated by limiting her choices to two items,getting them laid out the night before will speed things up in the morning when things are more rushed.

There are no do overs,a decision is a decision.Kids that age are easily distracted ,don't allow it to turn into an all day event if she did not get her way.

Put her in the car and distract her with anything,kids are easy like that ! Take advantage of that distraction because it only will work for a short time.Next year she won't go for it as readily.

Consistency is the key! With all behavior issues!

As an aside in my eyes creative expression is important.It really doesn't matter so much if she matches,its good to point out what looks nice together but there are no fashion police for two yr.olds :)