Hi,
I am married since 3 years and have a 1 year old son.we were staying earlier with my in laws and now after a fight we left their home and have rented a flat.my in laws were very clever and when I succumbed to their tortures, we got separated.but not my husband thinks that I am the main reason for his separation from his parentsd and tries to humiliate me inwhatever way he can.he only loves his son and is staying with me because of our son.he lies to me now and does not show any love and affection.earlier he used to pay attention to what I am saying, now he is least bothered.I am non existent in his life. Above all, he beats me up whenever a fight occurs.I am non existent in his life.I have tried to commit suicide but unable to do so because of my kid.I wonder what will happen to him if I die.I want to go for divorce but thinking of my kid again stops me.I am helpless. What do I do?

He is your kid so why does it stop you?
Do you live in England?

You should be able to take your kid and divorce and file for primary custody.

Your husband is a mom's boy and it looks like there is no competing with that

I know you want to save the marriage but it takes two people that are willing to see their faults and work on it.
He resorts to beating you up and obviously has resentment toward you.
He needs a wake up call even if it means leaving him

If he is actually physically hitting you you have to leave ASAP. I know it will be hard. You need to be around for your son and suicide is not an option. Who knows who your son will end up growing up with if your not there. It doesn't sound like your husband is anyone he should be around. People get divorced all the time and come out doing fine. You have to believe that there is someone out there that you can be happy with. Best of luck.

My marriage was thrown in the fire since I said I do 3 years ago this Nov 12th.

We both went to Marriage counseling and regular counseling . He stopped regular counseling B/c he thought he was fine in fact he is far from it . He was raped by an older cousin twice when he was nine he is as selfish as the day is long.

When he lost his job in may of 2008 he had it in hid head to Join the army so that is exactly what he did . I am alone lonely I found out last April I have a form of lymphoma .I have gone through everything y myself.

How so I get us to connect? Can a selfish person connect? I feel like we are miles apart emotionally what can I do?