Triysle
Jul 31, 2009, 02:59 AM
Hi folks. It's been quite awhile since I've posted here. For those who want to read my story, thank you for your interest and your time.
For those who don't, I'll try to summarize. I dated a girl for almost two years, we were both responsible for issues in our relationship, but ultimately I broke a very important promise and with it, her heart. About four months ago, she ended our relationship and chose to cut me out of her life entirely, and I respected her space. I did not contact her, and I did my best to move forward with my life. I secured a full time job (nothing glamorous but I make rent and bills alright) and have been reconnecting with all the friends I had forgotten over the years. I got into a few new physical activities, have gotten in slightly better shape (I should really cut out the fast food, heh) and really learned about my personal strengths and weaknesses.
About two months ago, I found out that she had taken some virtual property from an online account of mine. Our communication did not go well; I asked her why she did it, and she seemed unapologetic and self-justified. When I tried to talk to her directly, she shot me down, explaining that she didn't want to talk to me anyway. At that point, I let my emotions get the best of me, and said some very mean, spiteful things, culminating in my demand for her to stay out of my life.
Since then, I've moved forward even more with my life. I'm planning on taking classes again in the fall, and I am starting management training this weekend. Now, on to the question that is the subject of my thread here.
I still think about her, not as a romantic interest, but just as someone I care about. I don't understand why. I have no reason to; she effectively cut me out of her life, taking the easy way out for whatever reason. She stole from me, admitted to it, and seemed to think that it was OK. And I have had absolutely no contact with her whatsoever barring the incident itself. I'm not trying to make her out to be the bad person here; I certainly handled those situations poorly, as well as acted foolishly throughout the entire relationship. But, why is it that I still think of her?
I certainly don't want to date her again. But to be honest, part of me still wants some kind of interaction, even just one conversation about the summer, about what we've done and learned in our time apart. Am I foolish for wanting this? I know I will never get it... and yet, I cannot lie to myself and to you folks.
It's not consuming my life, and it's not interfering with any of my daily routines. But on those occasions when I sit alone watching TV, and the silliest reminders come up, she flashes through my mind, and I am left wondering how she is doing and if she's really OK.
I thought originally that it was just my own insecurity. That I wanted to know about her life so that I could somehow reach some sort of closure with my own. But, if that were the case, wouldn't I want some kind of continuation of that? A new relationship, or even a friendship? Once again I am left with another question, haha.
All I want, in a perfect world, is to be able to sit down with her, and instead of discussing the past and what went wrong, just to leave it behind us and learn about each other. I suppose that is impossible; the memories and the wounds may run too deep. But I suppose I will never know.
So... am I a fool?
~ Tee
For those who don't, I'll try to summarize. I dated a girl for almost two years, we were both responsible for issues in our relationship, but ultimately I broke a very important promise and with it, her heart. About four months ago, she ended our relationship and chose to cut me out of her life entirely, and I respected her space. I did not contact her, and I did my best to move forward with my life. I secured a full time job (nothing glamorous but I make rent and bills alright) and have been reconnecting with all the friends I had forgotten over the years. I got into a few new physical activities, have gotten in slightly better shape (I should really cut out the fast food, heh) and really learned about my personal strengths and weaknesses.
About two months ago, I found out that she had taken some virtual property from an online account of mine. Our communication did not go well; I asked her why she did it, and she seemed unapologetic and self-justified. When I tried to talk to her directly, she shot me down, explaining that she didn't want to talk to me anyway. At that point, I let my emotions get the best of me, and said some very mean, spiteful things, culminating in my demand for her to stay out of my life.
Since then, I've moved forward even more with my life. I'm planning on taking classes again in the fall, and I am starting management training this weekend. Now, on to the question that is the subject of my thread here.
I still think about her, not as a romantic interest, but just as someone I care about. I don't understand why. I have no reason to; she effectively cut me out of her life, taking the easy way out for whatever reason. She stole from me, admitted to it, and seemed to think that it was OK. And I have had absolutely no contact with her whatsoever barring the incident itself. I'm not trying to make her out to be the bad person here; I certainly handled those situations poorly, as well as acted foolishly throughout the entire relationship. But, why is it that I still think of her?
I certainly don't want to date her again. But to be honest, part of me still wants some kind of interaction, even just one conversation about the summer, about what we've done and learned in our time apart. Am I foolish for wanting this? I know I will never get it... and yet, I cannot lie to myself and to you folks.
It's not consuming my life, and it's not interfering with any of my daily routines. But on those occasions when I sit alone watching TV, and the silliest reminders come up, she flashes through my mind, and I am left wondering how she is doing and if she's really OK.
I thought originally that it was just my own insecurity. That I wanted to know about her life so that I could somehow reach some sort of closure with my own. But, if that were the case, wouldn't I want some kind of continuation of that? A new relationship, or even a friendship? Once again I am left with another question, haha.
All I want, in a perfect world, is to be able to sit down with her, and instead of discussing the past and what went wrong, just to leave it behind us and learn about each other. I suppose that is impossible; the memories and the wounds may run too deep. But I suppose I will never know.
So... am I a fool?
~ Tee