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sikofbeinlonely
Jul 30, 2009, 02:43 AM
I met this girl online and well I think I'm falling for her.. but she's one of those girls I know ill never be able to have.. its killing me. I don't know what to do. Help me please.

Chey5782
Jul 30, 2009, 02:44 AM
Does she like you too? If not, then consider finding a real life girl and moving past this one.

sikofbeinlonely
Jul 30, 2009, 02:47 AM
Um I honestly don't know.. she is in this situation where she still has feelings for her ex and at the same time wants to get over him

Chey5782
Jul 30, 2009, 02:51 AM
Neither of those answers were about you though, it's possible this girl is just a friend. I wouldn't put too much faith in it if she is still into her ex. Do you want to be the rebound guy? I'd take some time to think about this, if it were me I wouldn't go after a girl I talk to online who is trying to get over an ex.

sikofbeinlonely
Jul 30, 2009, 02:53 AM
Well that's true. The problem is that I'm a kind of guy that is very emotional and sensitive. I mean I'm really into this girl and right now I guess I'm really vulerable (hope I spelled that right) but I really want a relationship.

Chey5782
Jul 30, 2009, 03:06 AM
With her or in general? Don't go after the girl you can't or shouldn't have, that's setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. Go for a girl you can have who isn't hung up on some other dude. Your sensitive heart will be safer in the long run.

kctiger
Jul 30, 2009, 05:48 AM
I caution you as well to falling for a girl you have never even met. Have you met her in person? Online is interesting because you can be anyone you want to be, so you really don't know this girl all that well.

What should you do? If you can't have her, then cut contact and carry on, simple as that. BILLIONS of girls out there and more than one is right for you. How about getting out in the world and meeting people and not just doing it so informally on a computer?

cal823
Jul 30, 2009, 05:54 AM
I once was in a similar situation to you. My advice would be to avoid getting into an online relationship, as they have a tendency to go nowhere good.
Just remember, just remember that even if you do feel like you love her at some point, not being with her is not the end of the world. If it doesn't work out, then it isn't meant to work out, and there will be someone else who you will adore and love even more further down the road.

slapshot_oi
Jul 30, 2009, 06:20 AM
um i honestly dont know.. she is in this situation where she still has feelings for her ex and at the same time wants to get over him
Then don't bother, you'll just be a rebound and will be broken up before you know it.

sikofbeinlonely
Jul 31, 2009, 11:59 PM
Thank you all.. Um it's been a help... I guess itsjust better to try and moveon

Chey5782
Aug 1, 2009, 07:24 AM
Move on and move up. Real life girls are awesome. And you can actually touch them. I highly suggest one of them for your first real girlfriend! We hug awesome!

s_cianci
Aug 1, 2009, 08:00 AM
but she's one of those girls I know ill never be able to haveWhy do you make this claim? Because of distance? Something else? Unless she lives prohibitively far away from you, since she's talking to you, even if only online, there must be some potential there. Just be careful as many teenagers are victimized by trolls who pose as teenage girls ; be sure of who you're really talking to.

zippit
Aug 1, 2009, 08:05 AM
Don't burn your bridge ,keep staying in touch with her,she may turn out to be a future girlfriend,or good friend you can talk to

talaniman
Aug 1, 2009, 12:18 PM
She is being friendly and so should you be and just don't get carried away by your feelings. Pen pals are great, but people are seldom receptive, or ready for a relationship id they have just come out of one. Have fun, but keep your heart, and emotions, grounded in reality.