My fiancé is 24 and I am 22 an we do not have sex regularly. I has been two full months since we have had sex. It is not for lack of trying on my part. He was diagnosed as depressed about 4 months ago and is on meds but still nothing. I feel things are getting worse. At first it was we would have sex about two times a week then once a week then once every other week then once a month and now two months and nothing. Is it normal for a 24 year old to be like this? He finds time for all his hobbies but never me. It is like pulling teeth to even get him to kiss me. I know for certain he is not cheating and I have asked him if he wants out of the relationship and he said"NO, why would I you are the only thing besides our son that keeps me going". :confused:

Depression and meds can either or both cause a decrease in libido. They have to discuss this with their physician as alternate meds can be used usually as well as doseages adjusted to minimize side effects.

Depression and it's meds can affect him sexually. It can make it hard to get an erection or keep an erection.
Have you talked to him about this? Tell him sex is important to your relationship. I hope he will understand.

Yes the depression its self or the meds or both can be doing this.


I would suggest you both see his doctor (his psychologist) and talk to him/her about how its affecting both of you. He may need a new mdicataion, or a different dosage.

Good luck hon