Just to start saying I'm a 22 year old, and she's 20.

Ok so I met this girl online, she's a model with a young boy, and we agree to go up her house and have a chat, play cards etc.

When we meet, we hit it off, and she tells me I'm gorgeous in real life, we kiss and talk some more, and then we have sex, not the best idea in the world, but it felt right at the time I guess. As she has a young boy, she leaves the TV on for him all night and its pretty loud, and I decide I can't take the noise, and I leave about 3am in the morning. She then texts me that I'm a great guy and she wants to see me again.

So we agree to meet up again 2 days later, I don't text her much, and she texts if I like chicken caserole as she wants to cook for me, and she does, and we have dinner together.

We then talk a lot, she says I'm amazing, is it wrong to call a boy beautiful and that she can't believe I haven't got a girlfriend. Then we have sex again, I stay over this time, and go home about midday, and she was waving out of her window to me, smiling from ear to ear.

She then texts me on the way home, that she's scared it won't last and its just sex, I reasure her its not just sex and I do like her a lot.

She then text me later that night, to say she can't stop thinking about me.

The night after, she was going out with her friends, most of them being boys with a few girls, at the time I didn't realise, but she told me later than she was dancing with her on friend who's a guy, and her other male friend went crazy as he used to be with her, but he didn't want the commitment. And they all fell out.

So the day after they fell out, she had text me, she doesn't think we would work out, that I'm a really great guy, she really likes me, but she's met someone and she doesn't think it'll work, sorry.

So we text back and forth and she just says, she doesn't think I could commit to someone, so we talk a bit more, and we meet up the next night to chat.

We talk about things, I don't come onto her at all to show its not just sex, we cuddle watch a film, and she sighs out loud and says I love being with you, and kisses my arm.

We go to bed and sleep, and she says the next day that last night was lush. I take her to work the next day and she has me meet her boss etc. I take her back home for dinner, then drop her to work and she wants me to come in again but I had to go home, so she says she would call me. And to text me when I get in.

So I text her when I get in, we go back and forth a bit and I said I'll leave her to it now, and talk later.

She doesn't call.

So I talk to her really late, last night now, the same night she was meant to call. And she says that her ex, who went mental has been talking with her for hours and he's been telling her his feelings. And that she'll text me in the morning.

So she text me this morning, just saying good morning and she's going to a meeting, and she'll call me after the meeting. She doesn't. So I text her has her feelings or the things she said to me Sunday night changed, since we were together, she says, no you nutter I still like you, but I'm not sure about tonight as my friends are coming over to sort out the problems.

So I text if she still wanted to see me this week and she said yeah, but I'm not planning it today.

So just recently on the phone and msn, we chatted, and we agreed I'd pick her up from work tomorrow, but she said I can't stay as her mate who's a girl is coming over a few hours later. And I said to just be honest, and I want her to be a positive in my life, with no drama, she said back she wants me to be a positive but she doesn't want to rush in. And when I said do you want it to work, something she was afraid it wouldn't at the start, she just said we'll see how it goes.

So I'm highly confused about it all to be honest, as when I'm with her, she can't stop touching, kissing me, or resting on me, and when I'm not its very wishy washy :/

It sounds like either her ex is pushing her into getting back together or he wants her to get back and she wants to.
Sounds like she is stringing you along as 'a friend' until she knows where things are going with her ex.

You can go along being second fiddle if you want to. If not you need to talk to her and ask her exactly where you stand in comparison to where things are with her boyfriend and friends.

It seems like actually her ex may not be her ex but have been her boyfriend all along and she was just handing you that line.

I don't know what it sounds like - to tell you the truth I'm confused as well. But, it does sound as if she's pulling back.

This could be the way she operates the whole time with a bunch of old and new boyfriends hanging around. She might go really hard to begin with and then back off. Who knows?

I would stop the texting and leave her be for a while. If she does really like you (as she says) she'll come running back (but beware if she's on the rebound!).

Why don't you take the same approach and 'see how it goes'. Don't be as available as you have been and go out with your friends, have a few laughs. Wait a while before you respond to any texts and let her calls go to voice mail.

You need some space - it all sounds far too intense, and by the sounds of it so does she.

Face it, you had sex, but you don't know each from a bar of soap. Too much too soon! But you already know that.