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chicagotulips
Jul 28, 2009, 10:38 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for about 2 years. When we first met we have a very intense sexual attraction to each other. He could make me climax just by touching me... we didn't even have to have sex.(And No he was not my first). We ended up splitting up at roughly the 3 month mark, and stayed separated for approximately 6 months... but with our feelings the way they were, we got back together and have been together ever since.

When we got back together we had a lot of issues with trust, but the sexual attraction was still there.

Well, for about the last 6 months, we haven't been having sex very much. We will play around a bit, and I'll give him oral... but it seems like he has absolutely no interest in pleasing me anymore.

Recently, he came to me and said he didn't think he was sexually attracted to me anymore. He said he loves me more than anything, and I feel the same about him. He said he was struggling with this for a while, but couldn't figure out how we could such strong feelings for each other, but not be sexually attracted to me at all anymore.

For a little background info, I am his longest relationship, except for his previous marriage of 4 years. Which ended when she cheated on him. We have worked out a lot of our issues, and this seems to be the only thing left.

Please help!!

jojo333
Jul 28, 2009, 10:59 AM
Maybe you should sit down and talk about it. No you should not move on because YOU DON'T NEED SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP.

spitvenom
Jul 28, 2009, 11:13 AM
I have to disagree with jojo if you have no sex in a relationship how is that any different then just being his best friend? I think you need to get down to why isn't he sexually attracted to you anymore. Are you still sexually attracted to him?

chicagotulips
Jul 28, 2009, 11:16 AM
I am still very sexually attracted to him. And he and I have talked about experimenting with our sexuality. (I'm bi-curious, and he is a bit of a voyer... and wants to watch me with another guy)

He is also my best friend and I love him dearly. I can come to him with almost anything! I don't know why we are having such an issue with this?

N0help4u
Jul 28, 2009, 11:19 AM
You have three of the same posts that need combined. ]
You are only suppose to do one per topic

chicagotulips
Jul 28, 2009, 11:27 AM
How do I combine them?

N0help4u
Jul 28, 2009, 11:27 AM
Thye moderators have to combine posts