I've done some research and found this:
Women do not have to notify potential fathers of abortion or even pregnancy.
Men have no rights until paternity is proven/accepted.
Men must support the (unborn) child/(potential) mother if paternity is proven/accepted.
A man cannot decide that a woman NOT get an abortion.

What I want to know is this:
If a father does know of the pregnancy and it is proven/accepted that he is the father can he demand an abortion(he does not want a child or the responsibility of paying for/raising a child) or surrogate mothering process(he wants the child, she does not)?
How early can a father's paternity be proven?

It does not seem fair to me that currently a woman has the right to fully decide for both parties future responsibily towards a child and a man does not (outside of that first decision to have sex).

If you could please answer my questions or correct my believed statements that would be helpful thank you.

p.s. US law please. Please not any changes that occur state to state and what determines which state determines the laws (ie state of conception, mother's state, father's state, etc).

EDIT: please note* any changes

I've done some research and found this:
women do not have to notify potential fathers of abortion or even pregnancy.
men have no rights until paternity is proven/accepted.
men must support the (unborn) child/(potential) mother if paternity is proven/accepted.
a man cannot decide that a woman NOT get an abortion.

What i want to know is this:
if a father does know of the pregnancy and it is proven/accepted that he is the father can he demand an abortion(he does not want a child or the responsibility of paying for/raising a child) or surrogate mothering process(he wants the child, she does not)?
how early can a father's paternity be proven?

It does not seem fair to me that currently a woman has the right to fully decide for both parties future responsibily towards a child and a man does not (outside of that first decision to have sex).

if you could please answer my questions or correct my believed statements that would be helpful thank you.

p.s. US law please. please not any changes that occur state to state and what determines which state determines the laws (ie state of conception, mother's state, father's state, etc).

Your question is very easy and I think you've pretty much got it right.

The decision to have an abortion is the pregnant woman's exclusively. That's a rule of law of US Constitutional dimensions based upon the well-known US Supreme Court case of Roe v. Wade. The idea is, simply put, her body, her choice. As to the father? Tough luck. That's the risk you took in having sex.


If she decides to keep the child you have a legal duty of support (of the child, not her as I think you said). In some states (e.g. California) your rights to custody --assuming the mom elects to keep the child-- can be determined pre-birth.

That's about it.

It is true that the decision to abort or not is the mothers. While it does take two to make a baby (whether that was the intention or not). I know in my state paternaty isn't established until the child is born so no you wouldn't be responsible for the unborn child because you haven't been proven to be the father. You also aren't responsible for the mother either before or after birth she is an adult (hopefully) and is responsible for her own actions.