brittie_xoxo
Jul 24, 2009, 05:21 PM
My name is Britney. I'm a happy 17 year old. I was just in an awesome relationship. But then he brokeup with me. He moved to Mississippi and he's really really busy with going to work and college and trying to spend time with his dad; which he never got to spend a lot of time with. But the reason why he brokeup with me was because well he was going to be really busy so it would be hard for him to put effort into a long distance relationship since you always have to add extra since you're so far away and you don't get to see each other often. He also said because I'm to dependent on him and I need to become independent on my own. I feel like I emotionally depended on him because I have a VERY bad relationship with my mother and father. They're divorced. My dad never comes around or calls me but he pays my cellphone bill. My mother tells me she hates me and wishes I was never born. Which is something I have to listen to everyday. I feel that subconciously I saw my boyfriend as my dad; not in a creepy way but in a filling in the empty hole in my heart way. So not only did my boyfriend have to be my average boyfriend but he also had to fill in the extra gaps. Like paying extra attention to me and all those other things like being my complete support group. I also have really mean friends. So yea no friends, no mom, no dad. The way he talks to me and stuff shows me he still cares and loves for me and if I become more independent on my own he'll try being with me again. I asked him today if what me and him had was real and he said: Yes I cared about you and loved you but I felt sort of turned away by your dependency. The night before I told him I wanted to continue on being apart and one day when he comes back up to visit his mom if he'd like to hangout or sort of go on a date and he said: I can see that as a possibility. He's the love of my life and I know it for a fact. Me and him have experienced everything pretty much together. We're each others weirdo and we watch all the same shows together like bestfriends yet we have a passion of love for each other.
2nd part-
Since then the other day I told him that I appreciated all the things that he has done for me and that I still loved him and I always will. I also told him that I got plans on being independent. I also found out that what me and him had was real. I know he's not faking it because he's gone "crazy" over me before in front of my eyes. This is what he said to me the other day in one of the messages:
"Brittany, I think time apart is a good thing. Little messages and stuff will just feed your dependency. The sleeping and eating thing are normal, the way it has worked best for me is to not talk for a while then after a while start talking again. It's just whats best for you and me right now."
So far, does the outcome for me and him look good?
Do you think there's a possibility of me and him back together once his busy days become less busy and I gain my independence?
I know you can't predict the future, you must take what comes.
I'm looking to see if someone else sees this possibility by what's going
On so far.
Me and him rarely ever fought. We never really had problems.
I would just like some tips or support from all of you.
I'll accept any way you can help me.
2nd part-
Since then the other day I told him that I appreciated all the things that he has done for me and that I still loved him and I always will. I also told him that I got plans on being independent. I also found out that what me and him had was real. I know he's not faking it because he's gone "crazy" over me before in front of my eyes. This is what he said to me the other day in one of the messages:
"Brittany, I think time apart is a good thing. Little messages and stuff will just feed your dependency. The sleeping and eating thing are normal, the way it has worked best for me is to not talk for a while then after a while start talking again. It's just whats best for you and me right now."
So far, does the outcome for me and him look good?
Do you think there's a possibility of me and him back together once his busy days become less busy and I gain my independence?
I know you can't predict the future, you must take what comes.
I'm looking to see if someone else sees this possibility by what's going
On so far.
Me and him rarely ever fought. We never really had problems.
I would just like some tips or support from all of you.
I'll accept any way you can help me.