Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 2 yrs he cheated on me with a girl named brittani a while back and she got pregnant but didn't know if the baby was his come to find out it is. Now lets jump back in time I have a 3 yr old daughter that looks up to my boyfriend like a father I mean we are really like a famliy and the girl brittani hates me, so she tells my boyfriend that she doesn't want me around her child. And my boyfriend tells her that ima be in his life regardless and if she can't accept that then he will sign ova his rights. Now that the results are back he is saying that he is going to be there for his child and . ANd she said she don't want me around her child and if she catches me then I will be in trouble by law..? What law? So I got mad at him for allowing her to say that how can I not see his child if we live together? What she want me to do leave out the house when the baby comes over? Hell no! So I told him to choose either me or a baby that he has never even met and he chose his baby. Should I be mad or should I never asked him to choose. You guys may think I'm stupid but he never wants me to say anything to her and she is so childish and stupid she is just trying to piss me off but he doesn't understand that. I don't know someone with wisdom throw me some advice please.

No he can't sign over his rights. (or ova as you said... )

He will need to pay child support, and yes, the mother of the child has the right to say who is around her child. Just as you have the same right for your daughter.

I would suggest that if your boyfriend wants to be a part of this child's life, they meet elsewhere. Either at her house, or at a park, or restaurant.

Also, do not use chat/text speak here. Many will not understand it

Why is the child always stuck in the middle?

Having him chose between you and his child is wrong because I am sure you wouldn't like if he made you chose between him or your daughter?

If she is going him grief over him seeing his child then he can always get a lawyer and take her to court for visitation. He have rights you know and no matter what he can't just terminate his rights from his child.

This is what happens when you make a baby with someone you bearly know. My night of passion can turn into 18 years of hell cause by a selfish, immature woman.

Maybe if he never cheated he wouldn't be in this boat. He needs to set bondaries with the baby mother and you need to step back. And if worst comes to worst then he should take her to court.

Taking her to court isn't the worst scenario here it is the best option. He should seek regular visitation and at which point, even though the mother can give her opinion about who the child is around, it won't be recognized by the court unless there is a valid reason why you shouldn't be around the child.
I say that to say this: If he is given visitation and you are not a criminal or child abuser and the two of you live together, the mother can not prevent you from being around the child.
Secondly:
Do not ever make the mistake again of giving your boyfriend an ultimatum that consists of seeing his child or you. You will find yourself by yourself. Be mature about the situation, the child had no choice. Hoewver, if you continue to prove to be unreasonable, you will make the mother of the child appear to have a vaild reason for not wanting you around her child. Separate... the child from the mother and move on.

Sees pretty clear to me. If he really loved you, he would make the effort to try to make you as comfortable as possible in such an awkward situation.

The fact is, he had a lot of baggage and nor matter what you say, he will forever be connected to this woman and their child together.

So unless you can accept these circumstances and move forward, it will be very difficult to maintain a relationship with him.

I would say, try to find someone else who can dedicate themselves to you and not have to split his heart with two woman and two children from two different mothers.

He is totally right for choosing his child and you are being totally childless asking him to choose. What if he told you to choose between your daughter or him? You would choose your child.

Your boyfriend needs to take his baby's momma to court and get scheduled visitations and child support established. There is no way that he can sign over his rights unless it is to clear a way for an adoption or he is proven to be a danger to the child, so you can throw that idead out of the window.

I think that you need to apologize for telling him to choose between you and his child. If a man EVER asked me to choose, I would kick his a$$ right out of the door and tell him to go somewhere.