Well, I've been mates with these two boys for my whole life, and I have never been more than friends with either. We used to play practical jokes on each other. But, now we we hardly talk. When I asked the boys whether they wanted to come out that night. And both of them said they were busy. And I thought nothing off it.

But this kept happening. They stayed out late, didn't talk to me and soon, completely ignored me. So, me being me went round to one of their houses to ask why I was being ignored.

I got to the door, knocked and waited. And no one answered. So I went to the other boys house and I didn't get a reply. So I went home. And just gave up. About, 3 days later I got a text from one of the boys saying they had been on holiday for the last 2 weeks and did I want to meet up. But, I knew that he hadn't been on holiday because his parents had come round a few days before asking where he was.

So basically he had lied to me. And I decided to ask why. Went round his house, knocked and he answered. So, I said that we needed to talk. And I asked him why he lied. And his answer scares me, even now.

He said "there's stuff you dont know about me and sam. we're gay." and I was fine with that. Because I have nothing against gay people, or anyone. But I asked why they didn't tell me and he said "it's because you'de freak out if you knew" and I said I won't. But, I did.

He said that him and my mate had been posting naked pictures of themselves on the internet. As well as videoing themselves during sex. And, I freaked out. I couldn't look him in the eye, and I just walked out.

That was about a week ago, and both boys have kept trying to make it up to me. But I wouldn't talk to them! But, I've been thinking. The boys are my mates. They always have been. And to break friends is silly. But, I don't know how to say that I forgive them. I have been really mean to them.

So, how can I show them that I want them back?:confused:

I hope I don't sound harsh here, I am really trying to help, and I care about your situation *hugs*

I really feel you need to grow up a little, and simply accept the fact that they hurt your feelings, and move on from it and get over it. So... they hurt your feelings... now your going to do it to them... it sounds a bit childish and vindictive to me...

You've GOT to get past it and move on... or you will never have your friends back. If you want them back, you have to simply forget it ever happened, call them and say 'hey I'm sorry all this crap happened, lets just go hang out again'

Good luck hon. *hugs*

It was very hard for them to open up and tell you what be going. Coming out of the closet is hard and when they did they expected you to be upset but wanted you to accept them for what they are.

If you really can handle them being gay and accept it them it is time for you to apologize. True friends are hard to find and it doesn't matter what their sexual preference is you should accept them for them.

However, they should be careful with they post online. Hopefully they will accept your apology and the three of you can start hanging out again.

i hope i dont sound harsh here, i am really trying to help, and i care about your situation *hugs*

i really feel you need to grow up a little, and simply accept the fact that they hurt your feelings, and move on from it and get over it. so...they hurt your feelings...now your gonna do it to them...it sounds a bit childish and vindictive to me...

youve GOT to get past it and move on...or you will never h

good luck hon. *hugs*

I don't think she is out to hurt them but simply is trying to get back their friendship and accept everything they told her. Hearing what they told her can be shocking but at least she isn't judging them on their sexual preference but just want her friends back. Maybe she just needed a little time to realize that and her mates are waiting for her to be their friend again.

I really don't think she acting childish but sometimes when your shock the emotion can get the best of you. Hopefully they can all be friends again.

I agree, definitely, but if she wants to be friends with them, she is going to have to get past ignoring them, and holding it against them you know?

i agree, definately, but if she wants to be friends with them, she is going to have to get past ignoring them, and holding it against them you know?

Are we reading the same thing because if you read her last paragraph in her thread it doesn't sounds like she is holding anything against them but looking for pointers on how to mend their friendship because she missing them.

Here it goes "hat was about a week ago, and both boys have kept trying to make it up to me. but i wouldnt talk to them! but, i've been thinking. the boys are my mates. they always have been. and to break friends is silly. but, i dont know how to say that i forgive them. i have been really mean to them. So, how can i show them that i want them back?"

Yeah I read the whole thing. I personally thing her problem is


but, I don't know how to say that I forgive them. I have been really mean to them. So, how can I show them that I want them back?"


She needs to simply come out and say it and move on. But she is beating around the bush and is afraid to do what she needs to do in order to get them back.

I think I'm confusing myself... do you get what I'm trying to say?

I'm lost, seriously. I think I'm more confused than I already was! :(

Friends grow, and change, as do you. One thing you have to accept is your need, and theirs to accept each other.

You may not agree with everything they say, and do, and it may never go back to the way it was, but for sure if your attitude toward them doesn't get the right adjustments, there can be no real deep friendship.

Thats okay, and even normal, as we learn, and grow. I think you do best to temper, or balance, what you expect from them, with the reality of the situation. They are not the same friends they were before, and neither are you. They have grown and changed.

You can hang out, and have fun when you choose, but they have a different life now, and that's what you must accept.