She's moving to Illinois and I'm contesting it, or at least I want appendix k! (hancock county in ohio). She got mad because of me wanting the normal out of state visitation time so she filed a motion to have my parental rights revoked or diminished greatly! She also filed another motion for an in camera interview. The only problem is whaterver she tells him he will say. He has told us that before and he's done it plenty of times. She taken him to child services with lies, and even to the police station with lies. When he is hetre he tells us everything. Its kind of like a game with him. He just turned 10 on July 14. She has him so brainwashed he will say whatever she wants him to. What do I do! I just want my visitation with my son. I also filed a contempt because she wouldn't let me have him on my weekend visit. And she was trying to move him without going to court first so I filed so she couldn't leave the jurisdiction with him, and that made her mad and now she's trying to get all my parental rights revoked. I don't have the money for lawyers I have been doing all the motions throughout his life by myself. I need legal advice please! Like I said I don't care about the in camera interview but I know she'll tell him what to say so how do I fix that! :(

I assume "she" is your ex wife and the mother of your son. Your account seems a little unclear, so it would help if you would add some information.

Why are you contesting your ex wife's move and how long is the trip between where's she's moving and where you now live? Is your son normally with his mother full time except for occasional visits? How much time have you spent with him in the last 6 months?

Is the in camera interview instead of visitation or to evaluate your parenting? I don't understand what that's for.

You say when your son is there he tells you "everything." What everything are you referring to? What does the say?

Also, how much child support do you pay?

Thanks for any further information.

Its not my ex wife I was 16 when I had him. I have had wed. and every other weekends for his entire life. She has a good paying job with benefits. Her moving to Illinois with her "boyfriend" would loose her insurance for him and he would have none. Child support was dropped because I am on social security. I buy him things when she ask me to done get me wrong. It is about a 4 or 5 hour trip from my home. He has grown up here with his family all his life. His entire family lives here and also don't want him to move. She wants him to have an in camera interview so he can tell the magistrate what she wants him too. She tells him everything about the court and the hearings whenever we go. He told us that his mom and boyfriend fight all the tim. She has been accused 2 times for child abuse on her boyfriends kids. But I don't know the results of any of it. He told us she tells him not to come to our house and he also said that she took him over to child services and told him to tell the lady we didn't have food or toilet paper or anything. Its one thing after another. She is doing anything in her power to turn him against us.

Normally she can't move if you have and are using your visit rights,

You need to have an attorney, without it you can have trouble. And demand counseling for child without either parent there

She can't revoke your rights, that's just an empty threat on her part and will be seen as retaliation for your blocking her move. BUT, unless you are ready to assume full custody, its possible the court will allow the move.

Its also unclear whether she is moving 4-5 hours away or is 4-5 hours away now.

The only other advice I can give is that, if she has a lawyer and you don't, there is a good chance you will lose.

She is moving 4-5 hours away from our home. We live on the same block just a street over!

I agree that you need an attorney. I am curious to know, given her volatile relationship with her boyfriend, is he moving too? Or is she trying to get away from him?

When you say your son's entire family lives in your town, who is that besides you and his mother? I think Scott has a point, that unless you are prepared to raise your son much more than you have, you may have to just visit him every other weekend. I also think the judge or the other attorney will ask, if the boy's mother is such a bad mother, why haven't you done something before now? I'm not saying you don't have reasons, I'm just saying those are the kinds of things people will want answers to.

He told us that his mom and boyfriend fight all the tim. She has been accused 2 times for child abuse on her boyfriends kids. But i dont know the results of any of it. He told us she tells him not to come to our house and he also said that she took him over to child services and told him to tell the lady we didnt have food or toilet paper or anything. Its one thing after another. She is doing anything in her power to turn him against us.

I hate to say this, but you don't know who your son is lying to. You need to subpeona the records to see if she has, in fact, been accused of child abuse.

But again, all that will do is help you get primary custody. So you HAVE to be willing to accept that.

I am willing to accept any kind oof custody. Her boyfriends job got transferred so she is quitting hers to move with him. His grandmas, grandpas, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, and sister live here on both her side and mine. The typical long distant relationship plan for my county is June 15- August 15. That is what our court papers say would happen if one parent moves out of state. She only wanted to give me July 15- Aug 12. And give her parents every other weekend while he's here. I said no, that I want what the papers say, and I agreed to giving her parent every other Sunday with him. Her parents are furious that she's moving. I know the cjild abuse things are true because she's told us she went to court, but of course she says she didn't do anything. Child service has been to her house for my son supposivley touching one of the brothers private parts too. She has had like 3 contempts against her even a $1000 fine. Im taking her for another one now for her not returning him to me when it was my weekend, and she provides no clothes, no report cards, doesn't let us know about pictures, conferances, or school programs which is all in the court papers. So I have done something. I want him to be with his mother he loves her, but ill do what it takes to get my equal rights and time. I have asked for him to have counseling but she won't take him without her in the room so he won't talk, he's even told me that. I dk what to do. Im just going to fight for my rights!

Good luck and keep us posted.