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HeatherP
Jul 24, 2009, 09:55 PM
My dad left me and my brother and sister with my grandmother when my mother died before I turned a year old, he didn't contact us until I was about 6 years old and then he visited us about 4 or 5 times throughout the years and paid my grandmother who I call mom on my own free will, $300 a month for me and my brother and sister. There was an incident in my home in California with my grandmother, my sister and I both have babies and my sister had a social worker with her son, he was going to be 4 months old and the social worker was about to say she could keep her son but my sister got upset because I was being paid to take care of her son and my own daughter, she called my mom(grandmother) and told her that she wanted money to watch her own son or else she would call the cops and my mom didn't give her money, 5 minutes later the cops are at the house saying they got a complaint about a 16 year old with a 20 month old baby, my baby girl, that caused us to have to go to court and they not only took my sisters son but they almost took my daughter, my only choices were to come to Texas to live with my dad or to go to a foster house in California until I turn 18. I'm 17 now and my birthday is in may. I have been in Texas with my dad for almost 3 months now and I have been going through emotional abuse from him the entire time, I'm afraid of him and he knows it, his room and another room are full of swords and guns and he's always looking at me as if looks could kill. He doesn't help me at all with my baby girl and he complains that I don't give her enough attention and he gets mad at me when I get upset when she gets into his stuff but if I don't get upset then he just yells at me for letting her do it. He is spying on me, keeping tabs on what I do, what I buy, how much it costs, when I go to sleep and what I do during the day. I can't have any friends over and I have no where to go outside, I've been sick on and off for the past month and a half and I have broken glasses that my dad doesn't want to take me to get fixed, I haven't been to the eye doctor for nearing 2 years. And my dad makes too much money for me to get medical and he makes too much money for me to get wic. He makes double what my grandmother makes and he's constantly complaining about how he can't afford anything yet I don't ask him for anything at all.

Now to get to the point, I want to know what the consequences are if I leave with my daughter since the case is closed. I also want to know if anyone knows a way for me to get imanstipated without my dad knowing it and without having a house or a job, if I can't then I would like to know any other options I have. One option someone told me was, since my grandmother is coming out here for my daughters birthday on the 14th of August, my friend told me to go with my mom to the police station here in Texas and tell them what my dad has been doing and then go home to cali with my mom, to protect me, because I don't feel safe with my dad, and I'm to afraid to call the cops myself in case they don't believe me, then ill be stuck alone to deal with the wrath of my father knowing that I tried to get away. Wich I would rather not do.

HeatherP
Jul 24, 2009, 09:57 PM
Also, my father has said to me several times that I may not be his child, he blames me that he smokes and drinks, he blames me that he has little money, he blames me for everything he wants to. The social worker who sent me here with him was not only flirting with my dad but she never took a life check on my dad and they would have never checked to make sure I was here had my mother not said something to them.