Zoweee
Jul 24, 2009, 10:40 AM
Hello, Im 50 years old, remarried three years ago to a wonderful man who has no children after being a single mom of three daughters for 17 years. Yes we had some challenges, but my daughters ages 28, 26 & 24 have all grown up to be beautiful young women with great careers...
They are all living on their own now all in the same town and we keep in touch fairly regularly. The purpose of my question is dealing with my 26 year old.. who can be so miserable & disrespectful toward me. She has no patience with me whatsoever.. I have some very dear dear friends, co-workers... and there are times that I tell a story and forget who Ive told it to.. but most people will say to me... " ya you mentioned that". She.. gets so ticked, and huffy and has carried this on for ages now.. where it has made it very difficult to even know what to say to her.. for fear of saying the wrong thing, too much, or not enough.
I was sick this past summer and she was very kind & considerate.. but not my health has returned.. its back to the same ole, same ole. She's not someone you can talk to for fear of saying the wrong thing as she is very argumentative and sometimes looking for a fight.. whether it be with her boyfriend, myself or her sisters. Her friends... she's always good natured.
I am, and have always been a non=confrontational parent. You could ask any of my children.. "how did your mom discipline you". Any one of them would respond "her look .. we would get the look and we know mom wasnt pleased".
I am non argumentative, when I realize I'm involved in a confrontation.. I back down totally as her responses can be so very very mean and hurtful.
This is a child who is smart, beautiful, can be very social and very funny indeed. On occasion when we've been out.. and she's had a couple of drinks.. she is great.. opens up about a lot of things.. and I feel very close to her again. But her sharp tonge and attitude can be striking.. and the hurt I feel is overwhelming.
Im at a loss as to how to deal with her.. we are a very close family.. and stepping away, Im not sure is the answer... because it would be impossible to justify why I did.
Your thoughts please
They are all living on their own now all in the same town and we keep in touch fairly regularly. The purpose of my question is dealing with my 26 year old.. who can be so miserable & disrespectful toward me. She has no patience with me whatsoever.. I have some very dear dear friends, co-workers... and there are times that I tell a story and forget who Ive told it to.. but most people will say to me... " ya you mentioned that". She.. gets so ticked, and huffy and has carried this on for ages now.. where it has made it very difficult to even know what to say to her.. for fear of saying the wrong thing, too much, or not enough.
I was sick this past summer and she was very kind & considerate.. but not my health has returned.. its back to the same ole, same ole. She's not someone you can talk to for fear of saying the wrong thing as she is very argumentative and sometimes looking for a fight.. whether it be with her boyfriend, myself or her sisters. Her friends... she's always good natured.
I am, and have always been a non=confrontational parent. You could ask any of my children.. "how did your mom discipline you". Any one of them would respond "her look .. we would get the look and we know mom wasnt pleased".
I am non argumentative, when I realize I'm involved in a confrontation.. I back down totally as her responses can be so very very mean and hurtful.
This is a child who is smart, beautiful, can be very social and very funny indeed. On occasion when we've been out.. and she's had a couple of drinks.. she is great.. opens up about a lot of things.. and I feel very close to her again. But her sharp tonge and attitude can be striking.. and the hurt I feel is overwhelming.
Im at a loss as to how to deal with her.. we are a very close family.. and stepping away, Im not sure is the answer... because it would be impossible to justify why I did.
Your thoughts please