View Full Version : Should I break up with my girl friend?
nomore06
Jul 23, 2009, 04:31 PM
I work at a very demanding job where I work 80 hour weeks, although my girlfriend does see me every chance she gets she doesn't talk to me when I call from work. No matter what she is doing busy or not it is like pulling teeth to get her to talk to me or text me..
Honestly it really bothers me and makes me feel like she doesn't care. I am getting tired of it and considering leaving her...
I could really use any advise
N0help4u
Jul 23, 2009, 04:39 PM
You are at work so how much conversation can you really expect. Some people just hate talking on the phone or texting.
Go by how she treats you when you are together.
Why waste a good relationship over one thing only to end up getting with somebody else that has some REAL faults.
nomore06
Jul 23, 2009, 04:48 PM
Good point,
I guess I work so much for us to have a good life I would just want some attention... I am lonely and feel like she doesn't care...
N0help4u
Jul 23, 2009, 04:54 PM
Do you feel like she doesn't care when you are together?
nomore06
Jul 23, 2009, 04:58 PM
No I feel very loved when we are around each other... but that's the only time I really hear from her. She will call to say she is coming over and that about sums it up..
I know I'm reading into this too much but I can't really help it
N0help4u
Jul 23, 2009, 05:07 PM
I think it is more your hours than it is her.
For you working 80 hrs and she deals with you being away that long she deserves credit for hanging in there.
I wish
Jul 23, 2009, 05:19 PM
Why don't you confront her about how you feel? Tell her what you told us. Ask her why she doesn't seem interested in talking on the phone while you're at work. Sounds like you don't know her very well.
Romefalls19
Jul 23, 2009, 05:21 PM
Personally I think you are being selfish, most people when at work actually work. Have you brought this issue up to her? Try talking to her before taking the easy way out
Gemini54
Jul 23, 2009, 06:23 PM
I actually think that because you're working so much you miss your GF and that you'd like to have some contact with her during this time.
I can understand that. My husband texts me usually every day at work and sometimes rings me.
Why don't you talk to her instead of getting your knickers in a knot. Perhaps you can just text each other occasionally to say 'hi, how you doing?' Let her know that you'd really like this.
Our partners can't read our minds, we often have to let them know what we want.
nomore06
Jul 23, 2009, 06:26 PM
I have brought it up often, every time she has a different excuse. I really don't want this to be a reason to leave her.. I thinks its me missing her or my insecurities
N0help4u
Jul 23, 2009, 06:33 PM
Yeah it is you and your job
Realize that if she wanted to be with somebody else she would be making the same type excuses to leave you... he is not there when I need him because he is at work instead of here, he doesn't have the time for me that I want,
So she must want to be with you and not coming up with reasons to leave you
Torrid13
Jul 23, 2009, 06:34 PM
Personally, I don't like talking on the phone. Even with boyfriends.
If she makes you feel like a million bucks whenever you're together, then why break up?
If she doesn't like talking on the phone, perhaps there are others ways she could show she cares. Does she like to cook or bake? Maybe sending you to work with some cookies is something that would be easier for her. Maybe she likes taking photos? She could get a picture of you two, put it in a cute frame, write a note, and send it with you.
Don't give up on her just because she doesn't like talking on the phone!
nomore06
Jul 23, 2009, 07:49 PM
Thanks everyone.
liz28
Jul 23, 2009, 08:00 PM
Working 80 hrs a week is tough and I must ask "when do you have time for yourself?" Don't over work yourself nor be over worked.
If you have insecurities then facing them is your first step then working on them will be your next. It doesn't seems like your girlfriend is going change her calling/texting habit so you can accept it or deal with it.
I don't think your selfish but I think you want to feel wanted or missed. During the day my fiancé and I exchange text messages or phone calls just to say hi. Sometimes were on the phohe under a minute but sometimes that is all you need.
ZoeMarie
Jul 23, 2009, 08:01 PM
I do agree with everyone here that some people just don't like talking on the phone, but working that many hours I would be making any effort I can to talk to my significant other so I understand where you're coming from.
I think we're kind of in opposite situations. My husband works a lot of 12 hour days and sometimes I don't hear from him. Usually then I'll stop in and drop of lunch or dinner for him. That way I get to actually see him.
talaniman
Jul 23, 2009, 08:16 PM
Why do you work so much? Hard to balance work, and romance when your at work all the time. Of course you miss her and want some contact with her, but for sure over the phone or texting is not the way. You need a new plan, that provides more time. Frustrating I know, but something has to give here.