TUCO721
Jul 22, 2009, 03:03 PM
Hi everyone, please give me some insight on this.
My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me on my birthday 3 months ago today. She was a very dominate person, she wanted the truth about everything no matter how small the subject. I was married before for 12 years and have a step-son who I always considered my own. I raised him from age 4, he is and always will be the love of my life. While I was married I found out that I can't have children, I've been to every doctor to find out why and the bottom line was "i can't ". So be it. I suffered for a long time with that fact. My wife and I divorced in 2003, nothing to do with that fact, we just grew apart. I never left my son. My ex-wife was kind-of-a-user but I stayed in the marriage for so long for my son.
I met a woman shortly after ( not the one who just broke up with me ) and was put threw a living hell. She was younger than I was but she thought she was so much smarter, always putting me down because I couldn't have children, that I never went to college ,(even though I made more money than she did) and hated my son. I thank God she is gone because I never met a more vicious person. (at least that's what I thought at the time) I feel sorry for whom ever she is with now.
Now to the present.
I met this woman on a job which I'm not at anymore. She was nice to me at first but after a month she was very verbally abusive. I was living on my own but later moved back home with my parents because I had no one to talk to anymore, the apartment I was renting was too big and lonely. My girlfriend was the same age as I so that was a plus from the past, She lived in an apartment building that her brother owned with her entire family. She was married for 4 years but (they) were together for 17 years. She has no children.
I never wanted to move in with her but she would put such a gilt trip on me using my past to get her way. She had this thing for getting me to reveal my past only to use it against me later in an argument. She was a sweet person on minute then she would be the most vicious person. She would grill me over my past like why did you get divorced? I would tell her as best as I could then she'd cross examine me with my own words. Where were you today? Did you visit your son? F*** you ex while you were there? Anytime my son had a problem and he would call me for help she had this "let him figure it out himself or " let his mom help him". She said to me once that her ex could "go" 3x a night. How come you can't? You just don't want to!! You have to train yourself!!
She would make me cry to the point i was losing my mind, one night as she is standing over me yelling about nothing, i put my head in my hands and she said" what are you having a pity party"?? She'd tell me to "f" myself and then wonder why i couldn't get it up for her. i had a few fist fights with men in my life but she was scarey, i used to call he "butch" as a joke but would pay for it later. she was just a hurtful person and i'm ashamed to say i still love her. How do you(her) stop loving someone just like that? if i didn't tell her everything that happened in my day ,and she found out, i was a lier. i didn't disclose to her when we first met that i had a girlfriend while waiting for my divorce decree. She said your a lier so i can't trust what you say. You didn't tell me that when we first met. She could be soo thoughtful one minute than rip me apart the next. Never an " I'm sorry" or anything. She didn't want to travel because she didn't want to leave her dog behind and said " if I didn't have my dog to worry about I'd be making you do a lot more for me". I did so much for her, i bought her everything i could afford. I put up with her abuse but in the end she told me " you need help, you need to talk to someone or the next girl you date your going to have the same problem with your past".. . who the hell kept bring up my past screwball!!
Can someone just tell me what to do, she told me in an e-mail to move on with your life and it's over. But one minute we were together and the next it's over!
The morning of my birthday I told her I was going to work but I took the day off to be alone. She found out and that's how I came to be here.
Please help me understand. How do you fall out of love that fast?
My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me on my birthday 3 months ago today. She was a very dominate person, she wanted the truth about everything no matter how small the subject. I was married before for 12 years and have a step-son who I always considered my own. I raised him from age 4, he is and always will be the love of my life. While I was married I found out that I can't have children, I've been to every doctor to find out why and the bottom line was "i can't ". So be it. I suffered for a long time with that fact. My wife and I divorced in 2003, nothing to do with that fact, we just grew apart. I never left my son. My ex-wife was kind-of-a-user but I stayed in the marriage for so long for my son.
I met a woman shortly after ( not the one who just broke up with me ) and was put threw a living hell. She was younger than I was but she thought she was so much smarter, always putting me down because I couldn't have children, that I never went to college ,(even though I made more money than she did) and hated my son. I thank God she is gone because I never met a more vicious person. (at least that's what I thought at the time) I feel sorry for whom ever she is with now.
Now to the present.
I met this woman on a job which I'm not at anymore. She was nice to me at first but after a month she was very verbally abusive. I was living on my own but later moved back home with my parents because I had no one to talk to anymore, the apartment I was renting was too big and lonely. My girlfriend was the same age as I so that was a plus from the past, She lived in an apartment building that her brother owned with her entire family. She was married for 4 years but (they) were together for 17 years. She has no children.
I never wanted to move in with her but she would put such a gilt trip on me using my past to get her way. She had this thing for getting me to reveal my past only to use it against me later in an argument. She was a sweet person on minute then she would be the most vicious person. She would grill me over my past like why did you get divorced? I would tell her as best as I could then she'd cross examine me with my own words. Where were you today? Did you visit your son? F*** you ex while you were there? Anytime my son had a problem and he would call me for help she had this "let him figure it out himself or " let his mom help him". She said to me once that her ex could "go" 3x a night. How come you can't? You just don't want to!! You have to train yourself!!
She would make me cry to the point i was losing my mind, one night as she is standing over me yelling about nothing, i put my head in my hands and she said" what are you having a pity party"?? She'd tell me to "f" myself and then wonder why i couldn't get it up for her. i had a few fist fights with men in my life but she was scarey, i used to call he "butch" as a joke but would pay for it later. she was just a hurtful person and i'm ashamed to say i still love her. How do you(her) stop loving someone just like that? if i didn't tell her everything that happened in my day ,and she found out, i was a lier. i didn't disclose to her when we first met that i had a girlfriend while waiting for my divorce decree. She said your a lier so i can't trust what you say. You didn't tell me that when we first met. She could be soo thoughtful one minute than rip me apart the next. Never an " I'm sorry" or anything. She didn't want to travel because she didn't want to leave her dog behind and said " if I didn't have my dog to worry about I'd be making you do a lot more for me". I did so much for her, i bought her everything i could afford. I put up with her abuse but in the end she told me " you need help, you need to talk to someone or the next girl you date your going to have the same problem with your past".. . who the hell kept bring up my past screwball!!
Can someone just tell me what to do, she told me in an e-mail to move on with your life and it's over. But one minute we were together and the next it's over!
The morning of my birthday I told her I was going to work but I took the day off to be alone. She found out and that's how I came to be here.
Please help me understand. How do you fall out of love that fast?