I am 24 yrs old. I started to date a guy I meet in college and we were together for a year and a half. It ended beacause I found out he was cheating and laying to me for about 6 months. I am or was a really caring person and I would have done anything for him. He would always tell me he loved me and how much he cared about me. Well it ended very badly. I kind of got bitter and less caring. I meet a this guy when I was out fishing with a friend (something I would never really do). He seem so sweet and so caring. We started to date and have been together about a month now. He says he cares so much about me and he texts me everyday all day long. And he wants to be together everyday and night when I have free time. He always brings me roses everything he see me and cooks whenever I want anything to eat. All and all he scares me because I don't want to get hurt. He is divorced and has been for almost a year. I am the first girl he has dated since. I really want to know if I am just a rebound girl or if he really means everything he says. The L word hasn't came out of his mouth yet, but I am not sure for how much longer that will be. I like him. I just don't want to be hurt.

Why not share these same feelings that you have shared with us, with him? Communication is very important. If you're scared, let him know. No one knows this man, so it's unfair to state what his motives are. This you must pay attention to yourself. Be as open as you can be with him and ask him to do the same, it will help a lot.

It sounds like he's very clingy and needy. That's not a good sign and if you aren't already, I guarantee you'll become fed up with him soon unless he backs way off. Wanting to always be with you day and night, bringing you roses all the time and always cooking you whatever your want may all seem romantic now while everything's still new. But it will get old and you will get resentful. You may want to re-post this in the relationships section of this forum and browse around it for postings similar to this one and read the responses. Back off now before this relationship dies once and for all.

Tell him the truth. To slow down and get to know each other. You both are still in a healing process and need to be honest now or hate each other later. I don't honestly believe either of you is anyway ready to be going steady or being exclusive and your right to protect yourself.