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Sissysworld
Jul 20, 2009, 04:54 PM
Hi {name removed} I want to be the one to take the custody in hands of my younger siblings can I do that I am 18 years old and it would mean the world to me to keep us all together.

s_cianci
Jul 20, 2009, 05:04 PM
A lot depends on your individual circumstances. And granted, the courts generally prefer to keep families together whenever possible. At age 18 you're eligible, at least on paper, to be named guardian of your younger siblings. However, you're still quite young so there may be some question as to whether you're prepared, especially financially, to take on a parenting role to your siblings. You'd have to file a motion for custody in Family Court. Be prepared to present factual evidence as to why giving you custody would be the appropriate thing to do and be able to demonstrate that you have the financial means to support your siblings.

Sissysworld
Jul 20, 2009, 05:10 PM
All thought my first Question was answerd May I know ask. Yes I am 18 years old but will I have to get my own place if my moms house failed the home study and if so could I recvie help on getting its. I want a judge to know I am not showing any mercy towards cps. And what happens if cps feed you lies on papers.

J_9
Jul 20, 2009, 05:32 PM
Katryna, let me also say that it is not a good idea to post your name on an international site. If you are wanting to get custody, you need to show that you are mature enough to provide safety to the young one. By posting your name, there are dangers inherent on the world wide web.

ScottGem
Jul 20, 2009, 05:38 PM
First, please pay more attention to posting guidelines. At the top of the Children forum (where this was originally posted) there is a Read First directing legal questions to this forum.

But that bears on what J_9 said. Your ignoring instructions on where to post and posting your full name shows a lack of responsibility that is not going to give family services a lot of confidence on your ability to care for your siblings.

It would help to know why your family may be broken up, what the family makeup is and where you live, to be able to help further.

N0help4u
Jul 20, 2009, 06:05 PM
What do you mean you are not showing cps any mercy?
When you don't get along with cps they make it worse on you and lie even more.

If cps lies they get away with the lies and the Judge believes them over you.

What kind of help are you looking for if your moms fails?
What are you afraid might fail and can't you help her so that it doesn't fail?

Sissysworld
Jul 20, 2009, 06:16 PM
Her house already failed and I was wanting to know if I can get help on finding me a good place for me and these kids and I gotten a few locations lined up these are not my moms children they are my step moms children my dad died a year ago and its up to me to get them back and I hate that cps can get away with things like this.

ScottGem
Jul 20, 2009, 06:23 PM
First, do not start new threads for the same issue.

Its really hard to understand what you are saying. You need to details exactly what has happened and why.

cdad
Jul 20, 2009, 06:26 PM
How many siblings are we talking about ? From the sounds of it your not going to be able to do it without some sort of government intervention ( food stamps or welfare ). If that's the case then your less likely to get them in the first place.

N0help4u
Jul 20, 2009, 06:29 PM
Do you have a job?
Can you afford anything?

Many places that help are not going to just give you money to get your own place.
Like sect 8 you have to sign up and be on a waiting list for years.

Welfare is only going to help YOU since you do not have guardianship or anything.
So that would mean maybe a couple hundred dollars and a couple hundred food stamps
If they were already in your guardianship it would be substantially more.

CPS is only going to look at your current situation

Places that help are only going to look at your current situation, not ''well if you had these kids''

Some places that help require you to have a job and take a budgeting class before they will help because they do not want to help pay a months rent, security deposit or utilities if you aren't able to pay the following months anyway.

Sissysworld
Jul 20, 2009, 06:50 PM
Well on October 6th there mom had dropped them off to me and told me to raise them and I took the problem in to cps's hands and let them help me my mom was the fighting for them first and then my grandparents were 2nd to fight for them and my mothes home study failed now I wann get my own olace and have them live with me,

Sissysworld
Jul 20, 2009, 06:51 PM
Four siblings and I can get a job I just need a little help on getting in to a place that's it I am now looking for jobs and waiting on some list for some jobs just need to be orgainzed.

N0help4u
Jul 20, 2009, 06:59 PM
You need to get all this in place asap.
Then there is still no guarantee you could get custody.

J_9
Jul 20, 2009, 07:15 PM
1) You need a job...

2) You need a place of your own..

Until then you will not be allowed custody.

ScottGem
Jul 21, 2009, 04:42 AM
First, you can forget about custody. However, you might be able to get guardianship.

On the other hand, I find it hard to imagine what type of job an 18 yr old can get that would enable them to support 4 children.

If I understand you correctly. The children's mother (your step mother? ) dropped them off at your mother's home, where you also live, giving you the responsibity to care for them. Your mother tried to get guardianship but failed a home study. So now their grandparents are also looking for guardianship? Is this correct? Again your story is still jumbled and lacking detail making it hard to help you.