I recently got married, and have finally sat down to do all of my thank you notes. First I am doing the wedding shower thank you's. But I'm stumped! Should I send a thank you card to those who didn't give a gift? Also, we had an uninvited guest come who didn't bring a gift. Do I need to send them a thank you?

And the same for the wedding. There were some guests who didn't give a gift. Do I need to send them thank you cards for attending?

Thanks in advance for any tips you can give me!

It was always my belief that you send a card to each member who attended. Of course you have to word it differently for those who did not give a gift. Maybe some could not afford a gift at the time. But they should be thanked for attending.

Its my understanding that the thank you is given to acknowledge the gift only.

I agree as above that you send cards to people that have given you a gift as a thanks for the present !