psav11
Jul 16, 2009, 09:05 AM
Hello Everybody,
So here is my dilemma.
I was in a relationship with a single mother for 8 months and she broke up with me about 2 months ago. The first 5 months were amazing (not just beginners fantasies), we connected on many different levels and it was an intense relationship. I was confident, happy and very caring towards her.
I went away with her and her children for a week and that is when everything changed. She was distant, non responsive and I was left in limbo for the entire week. When we came back from the trip, we had a chat and she told me she was confused and did not know what she wanted out of us. So to make a long story short, we decided to take things slow and see where it goes (she is the one who invited me to the trip in the first place).
The last 2 months of the relationship was the biggest roller coaster ride I had been on. She was on, then off, on then off again. Her ex husband (divorced / separated 3 years ago) had been cheating on her for 5 years and was non existent while they were together. He never admitted to her that he did in fact cheat, even though she had the proof. I did notice how bothered she was whenever he would text and call to pick up the children. I now have a strong feeling she did not get over him.
In the process of taking things slow, I lost my confidence and became a wuss. I was grasping at straws, called her 3 times a day, wanted to be with her all the time, did things for her to make her happy and was just too much overall. It was the first time I had fallen in love and I could not control myself nor my emotions. So she broke up with me, she told me she was not ready to be in a committed relationship. We took a 2 week break prior to the break up, she told me that things were progressing with us, she was scared she was going to get hurt again and she was thinking maybe she should see what else is out there since she never got a chance to after the divorce (I was the first guy she dated). I asked her about the trip and what happened to her, she told me that she felt she was cheating on her husband when I was down there because they had planned this trip in the past. This all came out after she told me I was the perfect guy for her and I was so amazing to her and her children. So we took 2 weeks so she can collect her thoughts and think about things. When we met after, she broke it off with me. She was cold and emotionless that day. She stuck to her guns and did not shy away from her points. She told me she would date casually but knew I would not want that. I agreed. She then asked me if we could remain friends and I told her no chance. So I took my things, she apologized to me, kissed me for the last time and I was gone. I have not contacted her whatsoever and she has not either.
I do know there is great potential in us but will she ever see this. I am moving on and am doing much better than before, I have started dating again and working out. Deep in my heart however I do know that we would be great together. Do you guys think there will ever be a chance on getting back together?
So here is my dilemma.
I was in a relationship with a single mother for 8 months and she broke up with me about 2 months ago. The first 5 months were amazing (not just beginners fantasies), we connected on many different levels and it was an intense relationship. I was confident, happy and very caring towards her.
I went away with her and her children for a week and that is when everything changed. She was distant, non responsive and I was left in limbo for the entire week. When we came back from the trip, we had a chat and she told me she was confused and did not know what she wanted out of us. So to make a long story short, we decided to take things slow and see where it goes (she is the one who invited me to the trip in the first place).
The last 2 months of the relationship was the biggest roller coaster ride I had been on. She was on, then off, on then off again. Her ex husband (divorced / separated 3 years ago) had been cheating on her for 5 years and was non existent while they were together. He never admitted to her that he did in fact cheat, even though she had the proof. I did notice how bothered she was whenever he would text and call to pick up the children. I now have a strong feeling she did not get over him.
In the process of taking things slow, I lost my confidence and became a wuss. I was grasping at straws, called her 3 times a day, wanted to be with her all the time, did things for her to make her happy and was just too much overall. It was the first time I had fallen in love and I could not control myself nor my emotions. So she broke up with me, she told me she was not ready to be in a committed relationship. We took a 2 week break prior to the break up, she told me that things were progressing with us, she was scared she was going to get hurt again and she was thinking maybe she should see what else is out there since she never got a chance to after the divorce (I was the first guy she dated). I asked her about the trip and what happened to her, she told me that she felt she was cheating on her husband when I was down there because they had planned this trip in the past. This all came out after she told me I was the perfect guy for her and I was so amazing to her and her children. So we took 2 weeks so she can collect her thoughts and think about things. When we met after, she broke it off with me. She was cold and emotionless that day. She stuck to her guns and did not shy away from her points. She told me she would date casually but knew I would not want that. I agreed. She then asked me if we could remain friends and I told her no chance. So I took my things, she apologized to me, kissed me for the last time and I was gone. I have not contacted her whatsoever and she has not either.
I do know there is great potential in us but will she ever see this. I am moving on and am doing much better than before, I have started dating again and working out. Deep in my heart however I do know that we would be great together. Do you guys think there will ever be a chance on getting back together?