The mother of 2 children said she couldn't be with the father anymore after 10yrs. She left him & the 2 children. He wants to go for full custody. What are the legal actions that should be taken so she can't turn this around on him because basically what she did is abandonment to her 2 children.

Google "fathers rights" there are plenty of legal advice that they can provide for free

Well that's not much help jeffrey... google it. I could give that answer to every single person on here asking a question :P hehe.


Given that she left without her kids, he has a good chance of getting custody of the kids. I would suggest he get a lawyer to help him document, and file.

Good luck hon

Ok first no she did not abandon the kids. She left them with their father. The father needs to go to court to petition for custody and file for divorce or at least separation (if not already done) because most states have a separation period before a divorce will be granted. What state is this in? We can give more specific answers if we know where you are located.

well thats not much help jeffrey...google it. i could give that answer to every single person on here asking a question :P hehe.


given that she left without her kids, he has a good chance of getting custody of the kids. i would suggest he get a lawyer to help him document, and file.

good luck hon

Lets not put down efforts of other posters when they are at least trying. The answer given by jeffery wasn't incorrect. It just wasn't up to par with the family law forum. But I applaud the effort anyway.

Please try not to shoot down those that help in the forums.

Lets not put down efforts of other posters when they are atleast trying. The answer given by jeffery wasnt incorrect. It just wasnt up to par with the family law forum. But I applaud the effort anyway.

Please try not to shoot down those that help in the forums.

I know it's old but I want to address it anyway. I'd have shot that answer down, as well. The guy started another argument on another thread about vehicle titles; brought up completely irrelevant information, then argued with what he had just posted.

This site has plenty of other boards where advice can be given; not everyone should post on the Law board. That's why I stay away from Men's Health - because I won't know what I'm talking about.

I know it's old but I want to address it anyway. I'd have shot that answer down, as well. The guy started another argument on another thread about vehicle titles; brought up completely irrelevant information, then argued with what he had just posted.

This site has plenty of other boards where advice can be given; not everyone should post on the Law board. That's why I stay away from Men's Health - because I won't know what I'm talking about.

If the answer isn't up to par but an effort was made why shoot it down. Simply ignore it and post your own. You have been around long enough to see how many posters on the first attempt just fail. Or provide advice that isn't even relevant. But we all start somewhere. So at least it was an attempt. Now if the answer is wrong or incorrect for the situation I think we all know what happens then.. lol.

And as long as you post where your comfortable then that's a good thing. And if other want to give you a gard time then let them try. You have friends : )

Whether her actions constitute "abandonment" is a matter of legal definition. But regardless, he should file a motion for full custody with Family Court. He will have to at least attempt to locate the mother so she can be served with the complaint and given an opportunity to respond.

Lets not put down efforts of other posters when they are at least trying. The answer given by jeffery wasn't incorrect. It just wasn't up to par with the family law forum. But I applaud the effort anyway.

Please try not to shoot down those that help in the forums.Very good advice, califdad. Unfortunately there seem to be a couple of regulars on the law boards in particular who have a habit of doing just that.

Actually, his advice was incorrect. Googling "fathers' rights" isn't what the OP needed, and abandonment isn't even an issue.

And if we're going to start making remarks about "other" members, complain to the moderators.

Very good advice, califdad. Unfortunately there seem to be a couple of regulars on the law boards in particular who have a habit of doing just that.



First, not everyone thinks you're as subtle as you seem to think you are. I let this same type of comment "pass" on one of the "least favorite posts" threads. I'm not letting it go this time.

Second, a "couple of regulars on the law boards" have every right, if not obligation, to correct "irregulars" who give very faulty legal advice. Let me know if you want samples of some of that faulty advice. I have the info but see no sense in posting it.

(I will post four gems where you - because we are VERY obviously talking about you and me - obviously have NO idea what's contained in a retainer agreement and suggest that the OP contact the Bar Association to report an Attorney who is asking for reimbursement for out-of-pocket expenses. You were corrected and you still stand corrected. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-law/car-insurance-settlement-383457.html#post1902832 Here's one where you advise a person to file a Motion somewhere - I have no idea where - instead of evicting a tenant - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/real-estate-law/legal-eviction-383109.html#post1900533 And then there are the posts where you are wrong and don't bother coming back to post your source - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-law/age-child-can-choose-parent-383101.html)

Here you posted that there are no Countries in the Western World where adultery is a crime. Unfortunately, it is in certain States in the US. I hope the OP didn't pay attention to you. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-law/there-any-law-sue-woman-who-slept-someones-husband-australia-382653.html#post1897960

Third, if you think you're going to cause problems for me with my friends here on line you are VERY mistaken - and Califdad is one of my friends, one of my cohorts, a very knowledgeable person. He'll take a look at history and make up his own mind. I have NEVER started at you; you can't resist taking a shot at me. It's obvious, as I said.

Fourth, when someone with 5,064 posts to his name constantly contradicts and takes "shots" at someone with 16,192 posts you have to wonder what's going on.

Remember when you announced that you are trained in law. Now you're not. So what happened?

I have advised you before and I'm advising you again - have a problem with a specific person? Notify a moderator and back up your problem with facts, such as incorrect posts. In the meantime, want to exchange posts and review advice? Works for me!

Plain enough for you?

What state is it in and how long was she gone for before he decided to get full custody?