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confusedndazedd
Jul 14, 2009, 02:30 PM
I had been friends with a girl for 9 years. Then, we began fighting a lot. Things were fine until her friend and I had gotten into a nasty argument in the bathroom and in band, Then, things were better. She let two more people be mean to me (they WERE my friends too!) I thought things were okay. So I waited on her to sit with me on the bus in the morning but she didn't. She's ignored me, Every message, everything. She said there's nothing we can do. We've been to counsling and everything, NOTHING helps! I just want my best friend back!


Can anyone help me?:confused:

Sincerly;
confusedndazedd

HelpinHere
Jul 14, 2009, 03:46 PM
It sounds to me like she isn't your best friend anymore. A best friend wouldn't fight with you. A best friend wouldn't let others be mean to you. A best friend wouldn't ignore you.

I'd say she isn't your best friend, except in the title you hold onto for the hope that she will come back.
However, she has changed. For better or worse, I cannot say. (Though, I'd assume worse if this is how she bahaves now.) You are obviously not her best friend before. You still want her to be yours, but she doesn't feel the same.

You posted this in teens. By what you say and how you say it, I'm guessing you're fourteen, maybe fifteen?
What do you mean you've "been to councling"? Peer counceler? Student Counceler? What was the outcome?

Unless your friend changes back (which isn't going to happen, most likely) you're better off moving on to bigger and better things.

confusedndazedd
Jul 14, 2009, 03:56 PM
We've had a teacher councling us, and students.
Me, the girl who was my bestfriend;and her friend that was being mean.
Thank you, you really helped.

HelpinHere
Jul 14, 2009, 04:01 PM
Sorry you are losing your best friend.
These things happen though, it's a part of life. Hopefully, although not best friends, you can still stay friends.

Don't worry about it too much. You're young, and will make new friends. What's important now, is to have fun while you can. Focus on your schoolwork, and try your hardest, but don't worry about these little things. They will happen more than you care to know. Just live your life to the fullest while you don't have many responsibilities and worries!
Good Luck!

Khmerbodian
Jul 16, 2009, 12:02 PM
Best friends aren't supposed to hold a grudge against you and turn other people against you! Just give her some space and let her decide if she still wants to be your friend. It's probably her loss is what it sounds like!

believe16
Apr 1, 2012, 06:02 PM
And that is what you call a backstabber. It sounds like your friendship is over, some friends are here for a season while others are for a life time. And clearly she was just a season, I wouldn't try to fix that.