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LilRebel
Jul 13, 2009, 02:43 PM
Okay,
I'm A 7th grader My boyfriends 14yrs old I'm 11 he will be in high school next year its summer now an I hang out with his sister. I spend the night over there and my parent does know that he is there an that we had dated but what I need help on is this he likes me still he told me one night we were all in his sister's bed I was in the middle when my friend fell asleep. Me and him were talking he said he still liked me more than he did when we first met but there's two girls in the way he lives next to them 1st girl, she would always write stuff about me at the park an call me names and also this other girl she likes me but I Don't know he likes them both but the thing is I don't know how to act around my ex how to get him to see what he's messing with my feelings just take control so please help me out :(

HelpinHere
Jul 13, 2009, 03:01 PM
Although your spelling is better than most on this sight, your punctuation was nonexistant (except that comma in the top line) and that made this VERY hard to follow and understand.

The way I see it,
1: He's too old for you. Find a boy your own age. Even though three years isn't that long, when you're only eleven, it is more than a quarter of your life, and therefore is TOO big of a difference to try to pursue a serious relationship with this guy.
2: He's probably using you. Has he ever tried to do anything with/to you? The fact that he wouldn't tell you "theres two girl in the way" until AFTER Chelsea was asleep is a bad sign.
3: He doesn't care about you. At least, not in the same way you care about him. He's manipulating you. Or, it appears that way.

Get over him, find someone both better for you and more appropriate for you to be with.

HelpinHere
Jul 14, 2009, 03:55 PM
You don't need to post the same story twice. If it's the same problem, just add additional information to the first thread you created.

Why does he have to ask you? Quit being sexist and ask him, make the first move. Relationships have to work both ways, the man can't do all of the work.
Anyway, have you considered that there was a reason you broke up in the first place? Whatever it was, it will lead back to that again. (except in special circumstances).

You're only eleven. Get out there, live your life, forget about this guy and meet someone your own age. Go hang out with your friends and start having fun, instead of fretting over some fourteen year old guy who most likely just wants to use you.

phoebe123
Jul 15, 2009, 12:25 PM
If he's the type of lad who can get loads of girls, try acting not so bothered by him, men want what they can't have x

genesisz
Jul 21, 2009, 02:26 PM
Hey I tough you were like in high school I am a junior in high school .even if you like him a lot your still young and have your whole life to live. But I understands how you feel just when your arounds him when he talking to a girl act like it doent bother you. Flirt with some of his friends it would get him extra jealous lolz. Hope this helps

Jake2008
Jul 21, 2009, 03:52 PM
You are 11? 11 years old?? You're trying to win back a boyfriend and his parents let the two of you sleep in the same bed??

This is wrong wrong wrong on so many different levels.

11 is too young to date. I don't care how mature you are, or how many people think 11 year olds should date.

You are working to get him back as a boyfriend when you shouldn't have a boyfriend at all in my opinion. Try working on riding your bike, and climbing trees and hanging out with some children your own age- preferably girls.

It is not okay for you to sleep in the same bed, kissing him, at his parents house! What are they thinking! What are YOU thinking! Do your parents know the sleeping arrangements?

I don't know how old he is, but if he's dated as much as you've said, he must be older than you, and this dating game, and getting him back as a boyfriend is asking for trouble.

Please rethink what you are doing. It is not age appropriate, and will only lead to trouble, and a wasted childhood.

talaniman
Jul 21, 2009, 08:04 PM
Young lady, if a guy is messing with a bunch of other girls, then you leave him alone. You are way to young to know what to do with a player. Leave him alone before he makes a fool of you. Your right about him messing with your feelings.

HelpinHere
Jul 21, 2009, 09:29 PM
She's eleven, naïve, and attached.
He's fourteen, manipulative, and a player.

The more I think about it, the more I think that you should be given a chastity belt, for your own protection!