jenniebean
Jul 13, 2009, 08:22 AM
Hey y'all!
I have a bit of a sticky situation and need a new perspective, so I'd be grateful for any opinions that you may have...
A little bit of background - I go to college with most of the people I hung out with in high school. In a way it's great, but we brought all the damn history with us. So much for the fresh start theory!
When I was in middle school, I was great friends with this one guy, Robert. When we got to being sophomores in high school, we stopped being so close. He fell for one of my best girl friends. Chased after her for a good eight months, including a summer, and finally gave up and after endless rejections. She liked him too, a lot, but she was just scared. So, I think it may have been to spite her, he went out with one of our other very close girl friends for a few months till she broke up with him. When we were in junior year, she got herself a boyfriend who she is still with now, three years later. I know, I know, that was ''so high school''.
The problem - we, Robert, the two girls and I were out at one of our parents anniversaries. It was away from home and the four of us had to stay together. Basically, him and I got slightly drunk and fooled around. Neither of my friends were angry about it. More so, they were glad it was me (they had freaked out when he started going with this girl we didn't like in the last year of high school) and now somebody else. Apparently, they both got complete closure and are completely over him. Later that night, he ended up telling the first girl (the one he never actually went out with who still has the boyfriend) that he still had feelings for her. She was not even remotely attracted to him in any way anymore and said they should just be friends.
Now my problem - at the time and the next morning, I thought that it was just a stupid, stupid alcohol induced mistake. Now I'm having second thoughts. That night we just lay together and talked for a while. I complained about a guy I wasn't completely over yet and he was nice and consoling (basically, I was very like in When Harry Met Sally and she was upset because her ex was getting married, except I wasn't crying and we were just lying down and hugging for the whole time while we talked - sorry for the analogy). I just don't know what to do now. I can't talk to either of the girls about it, I can't talk to him and nobody else was going to find out as it was a ''mistake'' (ironically, this was my idea).
What now?
I have a bit of a sticky situation and need a new perspective, so I'd be grateful for any opinions that you may have...
A little bit of background - I go to college with most of the people I hung out with in high school. In a way it's great, but we brought all the damn history with us. So much for the fresh start theory!
When I was in middle school, I was great friends with this one guy, Robert. When we got to being sophomores in high school, we stopped being so close. He fell for one of my best girl friends. Chased after her for a good eight months, including a summer, and finally gave up and after endless rejections. She liked him too, a lot, but she was just scared. So, I think it may have been to spite her, he went out with one of our other very close girl friends for a few months till she broke up with him. When we were in junior year, she got herself a boyfriend who she is still with now, three years later. I know, I know, that was ''so high school''.
The problem - we, Robert, the two girls and I were out at one of our parents anniversaries. It was away from home and the four of us had to stay together. Basically, him and I got slightly drunk and fooled around. Neither of my friends were angry about it. More so, they were glad it was me (they had freaked out when he started going with this girl we didn't like in the last year of high school) and now somebody else. Apparently, they both got complete closure and are completely over him. Later that night, he ended up telling the first girl (the one he never actually went out with who still has the boyfriend) that he still had feelings for her. She was not even remotely attracted to him in any way anymore and said they should just be friends.
Now my problem - at the time and the next morning, I thought that it was just a stupid, stupid alcohol induced mistake. Now I'm having second thoughts. That night we just lay together and talked for a while. I complained about a guy I wasn't completely over yet and he was nice and consoling (basically, I was very like in When Harry Met Sally and she was upset because her ex was getting married, except I wasn't crying and we were just lying down and hugging for the whole time while we talked - sorry for the analogy). I just don't know what to do now. I can't talk to either of the girls about it, I can't talk to him and nobody else was going to find out as it was a ''mistake'' (ironically, this was my idea).
What now?